Have I got nothing to lose like my sister says?

Question

I met a guy about 2 months ago and he asked me 2 weeks ago if I wanted to move in with him. Ive been feeling a bit down lately as I just got back from 3 years travelling and came back after my ex said he wanted to marry me etc. Nothing happened with the ex since I got back and I met this other guy. So anyway this new guy (I'll cal him Steve) Steve is everything I could ever want in a guy. He's so nice, does anything for me, buys me presents all the time, takes me out to dinner EVERYTHING. He would be so good for me. My sister met him and said hes perfect and I should forget my loser ex boyfriend. Now the thing is Ive only known him for 2 months and already stuff about him really irritates me.Alot of stuff irritates me actually and I cant explain why....it shouldnt because he's perfect for me.

So anyway hes been on holiday for the last two weeks with his children...(he has two little children) Thats another thing...he has children.I cant just move in with him if he has children....why is this so perfect but I dont know how I feel about him.

I still think about my ex boyfriend alot and he stays in contact sayin g he wants to marry me but he needs space and time before or if we ever get back together. I just dont know what to do....Steve is coming back from Spain on Monday and he thinks we're moving in together. And it Im not excited like I should be....in fact I feel a bit sick. Is this a massive sign not to do it? Why do I not like a guy thats perfect for me?

This is so long I doubt anyone has bothered to read it but just thought Id get it out.

Thanks for reading! (if you actually managed to read this)

Answer 1

i know how your feeling, i was kind of in the same situation. my boyfriend has two little kids and i'm not sure how i feel about living with him. however, i have know him for about 10 months. he is otherwise perfect for me but its just kind of weird. i think that if you have such a strong feeling of doubt then its a sign to just wait a little bit longer. just give it more time and tell him to not be in such a rush. good luck!

Answer 2

You would be insane to move in with a guy you've only known for 2 months. Hello, the signs that this would be a mistake are already there...stuff about him already irritates you....you are on the rebound...he has kids, so i hope you are prepared for SEVERAL years of "baby mama drama" s***.

Answer 3

You need time by yourself to figure out who you are and want you want out of life. You have just ended a long term relationship and the children will inevitably become attached to you, so if it does not work out there will be 2 hurt kids who will fell abandoned. If it doesn't feel right then it's not. If your sister thinks he's all that then she should date him.