Have I "grown up" too fast?

Question

The past couple of years I have had to focus pretty much all of my time on work and school. I started college last fall and have been busting my *** to get good grades and save up for a car by working full time.

It takes a lot out of my personal life. I haven't been able to hang out with friends much at all or do things I want to do. I feel lonely but I know I'm doing the right thing for myself. I just feel like I have no one.

What can I do to change this? I finally got a car, soo.

Answer 1

You're right where you're supposed to be.  You are being responsible.  "Growing up too fast" is for a kid whose parents died leaving her to care for her 5 brothers and sisters, or a child of an alcoholic who has to go out and get a job to pay rent when they're only 14.  You are in college, have a job, and worked to buy your own car.  Completely normal.  Just try going out with your friends once and a while.  You seem level headed enough to handle it.

What does this have to do with etiquette?

Answer 2

your doing great congrats i think u come before ur friends so you are doing the right thing for your self when u have freetime hang with ur friends or ask one of them to be your roommate hope everything works out (:

Answer 3

No, I don't think you have. I graduated high school at 16 and have worked full time since I was 15 (I'm 24 now).  I worked full time the entire length of high school and college.  I graduated college, got a great job and was able to trade in the old crappy car (Grand Am lovingly called the "grand d**n it") for a brand new Accord.  I always thought that I was "growing up too fast" but now I have everything in my life in order and loving it while my friends are struggling to get out of debt, to graduate college (even though they have been in college for 6 years) and get a handle on adulthood.  Some have even moved back in with their parents.    Keep on truckin' lady - it will pay off :)  

Answer 4

So.. get used to it. Growing up means making sacrifices which include social ones. Nothing says you can't take a break now and then, especially once you're through with school. Congratulations on achieving your goal. Go ahead and celebrate - you've earned it. You obviously have a grasp on reality - you're doing now what many of your friends will probably put off for a few years at least.