Have a Social Problem

Question

I am not comfortable talking when I do not have a person I trust with me. I have to have either my sister or a friend that I can trust. How do I overcome this obstacle? It feels as If I can't say whats on my mind by myself out of fear of being judged negatively, but when I have someone that likes me already next to me I feel more comfortable. Anyone else like that and if so can you fix it?

Answer 1

Well, I can tell you just imagine they are there  look at something while you in that room and hold the conversation like nothing, imagine your sister not there but a flower plant so she's the flower plant and she's listening to your everyword. and you know what she thinking cause you already knows her mind. that's why ppl have friends cause some don't like to go at it along.

Answer 2

Fix it? GET OVER IT!! You've allowed yourself to fall into a bad habit. Take the first step... next time stand up straight and voice your honest opinion or viewpoint.  

Answer 3

At least you have yor sister and friend you can talk to I have the opposite problem I can't tell my 2 sisters, brother and Father anything else they will judge me and be critical of me so I don't tell them what is on my mind or the problems I have. I tell my Mom and a few close friends they are more of a family for me.

When you are not with your sister or friend and with somone you feel uncomfortable with talk about the weather, current events, TV shows, just think it will be for a short time and it will be over before you know it.

Good luck

Answer 4

you didn't mention your age. I think you will find someone you trust someday. Meanwhile you can start with small steps : have someone with you while you talk to someone. Next time have someone stand behind you. Then let them hide somewhere and watch you. Soon you'll do it by yourself. Sounds like you have good support. good luck!