Have any Brides to be gone on the Combination Pill before their wedding

Question

I have a bit of a dilemma. I am getting married at the end of September and I am due to get my periods around that time. Or even on my wedding day.

My fiance does not want me to go on the pill, due to the orthodox religious fact that life starts at conception and sperm can still come in contact with the egg.

I get really bad painful periods, fluid retention the whole week leading up to my periods. Get covered in pimples, swollen tender breast and pain before hand. Also I do get very depressed.

How can I make my fiance understand that I want to go on the Pill so I do not have to go through all this leading up to the wedding.

It has been stressing me out, can sleep at night and I cant even be happy that I'm getting married. I do not want to have my periods on my wedding day.

Answer 1

There are 2 types of pills

1. The progesterone only pill which contains only progesterone like the name suggests

2. The combination pill which contains a combination of both oestrogen and progesterone

In terms of your husbands beliefs, you are right if you are talking about the progesterone only pill. The sperm can still contact the egg, but the process is made more difficult and it makes the uterus unstable so the egg can't implant. So this fact, the progesterone only pill might have religious implications in terms of life starting at conception

HOWEVER you are wrong if you are talking about the combined oestrogen and progesteron pill. The oestrogen in this pill stops the egg from being released in the first place. Thus the sperm cannot come into contact with any egg...as there is no egg released to being with! So this should not be an issue with his beliefs that life starts at conception, because as the combined pill stops ovulation occuring, there is no egg travelling down the fallopian tube for the sperm to come into contact with.

Ultimately it is your choice. But I would not like to have my period on that day. Too many things to worry about, you are wearing a WHITE dress all day, plus you cannot enjoy your first night together as husband and wife, plus PMS....

Just remember if you do go on the combination pill, go on it now so you can get used to it and learn how to control your periods...it would be unwise to practice for the first time on your wedding day! You also need to make sure the strength of the pill is high enough, as if it isnt, it will not work when you try and skip or delay your period. So definately start ASAP to get as much practice in as possible. Talk to your doctor and tell her the reasons why you are going on the pill so she can put you on a high-strength one...because the low stregnth ones may not work, and you don't want to find this out on the day

Answer 2

Honey, men don't understand these things. Just take it, and don't tell him. If you truly want to get your period earlier than normal, and want to avoid the pill than just take a hot "salt water" bath. It will get you started. Also drink plenty of chamomile tea. That is the only natural way for you to get it before your wedding. I used to do that all the time when I needed to get it earlier. Plan ahead though, usually you will get it the day after you take your bath. You still have time. Begin your baths, early in September, you should be fine, and it will be done and over with.  

Answer 3

You don't have to continue to use the pill, or even tell him that you used it for a month to prevent a uncomfortable wedding day. Not to start a religious debate, but people who feel that way are really limiting God. A married couple I am friends with got pregnant while using the pill and condoms. If it's meant to be, it will be.  

Answer 4

You'll need to agree somehow.

And, even if you try to skip your period by doing this, it may not work.  You might still get your period that day and you may even get pregnant on the pill as it is only 99 per cent effective when used as prescribed.

Answer 5

if you've been reading up on this then you should no the pill works by surpressing ovulation, therefore no egg being released, no conception!

Answer 6

In the first place - if you're not on the pill, starting it now isn't a really great idea. Unless you somehow get the right prescription the first time (there are 16 varieties, what are the odds?) you'll be ill or between prescriptions in a month and a half.

More importantly - this is a decision both of you have to have together. If your doctor has said you should be on the pill then your doctor has said so, and you explain that to your fiance. Both of you need to have a say in how you're going to deal with that.

If it helps, the primary action of the pill is by preventing ovulation, there is only a very small chance of it preventing implantation. From what I've been able to tell the research is still split - yes, the pill could prevent implantation of a fertilized embryo, but it prevents ovulation often enough that this isn't really a problem.

And please don't try to hide taking it from your fiance. You seem to not be the type that would be trying something like that, but going on the pill for a month would make it pretty much impossible to tell when you're fertile for a while afterwards, and you could end up pregnant accidentally.

Answer 7

I know this sounds terrible. But coming from a health care provider's standpoint, it is your body, your day. I wouldn't want my period on my day either. Do what you want, you don't have to tell him. Even if you go on it for one month, just for the wedding.

Answer 8

You write:  Went with him to some womans adviser and she suggested that I'd go on it for my painful periods.

Did a doctor advise you?  If a doctor said to go on the pill to ease painful periods, then you need to do exactly as he/she suggested.  Follow doctor's orders.

You write:  My fiance does not want me to go on the pill, due to the orthodox religious fact that life starts at conception and sperm can still come in contact with the egg.

So your fiance would rather see you suffering and in pain?  So why are you marrying a man who wants to see you suffer?  Personally, I would NOT be marrying a man who preferred to see me suffering and in pain.  

1.  Make an appointment with a gynecologist.  Follow the doctor's advice.  If he/she says to take birth control pills, then take them.

2.  Yes, even if you are a virgin . . . you need to see the gynecologist well before the wedding.

3.  Seriously think about why you want to wed a man who prefers you to remain suffering and in pain.  That sounds very cruel to me.    

  

Answer 9

Keep in mind it may not work.  Mine was suppose to start 3 days before my wedding and end the 1st day of my honeymoon.  Well I tried what you are suggesting and it made mine start about an hour before my ceremony and stay to the last day of my honeymoon.  I would avoid the fight and let nature take its course.

Answer 10

Do your homework.  The pill prevents you from ovulating.  No ovulation, no conception.  Also, unless you both want to get preggers ASAP after marriage, you will need to do something about this.

Answer 11

I have had exactly the same problem as you with all the side effects of the period. I was too on the pill and still am before I got married. The same thing happened to me, when my wedding day led up to the week of having my period too.

I use to be really bad exactly same symptons as you did and the pill helped me so much aliviate these within the month. I would advise that you apeak to your GP. But if you do not want your period on your wedding day, and want to postpone it go for it.

All the best and congrats

Answer 12

You don't have to tell him darling. It's your day so go ahead and do whatever pleases you. Concentrate on enjoying the day rather than thinking about all these things.