Have any of you brides been tempted to elope?

Question

My FH and I have planned a unique and beautiful wedding, but lately I find myself feeling tempted to just elope. Part of me feels like I would regret throwing away all the planning, the special moments, the whole thing...the other part would feel relieved that I could be his wife NOW rather than waiting another fourteen months. It would actually be good, so I could leave a bad situation behind. DON'T lecture me, because that's not the reason I'm marrying him.

I'm not the type who would court house and later have a huge wedding, so I don't feel that's an option.

We're in our twenties, btw.

What are your thoughts, what do you think we should do, and have any of you ever felt this way?

Answer 1

And you are still 14 months out? Wait until you are like 3 months then 2 and a few weeks away lol. We planned our wedding 14 months out and about 2.5 months from the wedding I was starting to ask him to just elope because it was becoming too much. He of course kept saying no he wanted the wedding and knew I wanted it too.

I like to have all my ducks in a row and early, well it seems like all my ducks are off s******g around all around the pond at the moment lol. Most stressful things are the things that I personally have no control over but others do. For instance the guys were all supposed to go get their tux's taken care of middle of February and one of our groomsmen still hasn't done it and the wedding is in under 4 weeks!!

The maid of honor lives on the other side of the country and she blew all her money and couldn't fly here but she didn't even tell me until I told her I had a dream she wasn't going to show... Then she told me and that was about 5 weeks ago so I had to wait to get her dress back since I paid for it and find someone else to be a bridesmaid and ask one of the bridesmaids to be the maid of honor... I just got the dress back 3 days ago!

Though I would love to just marry him and be over this planning process, I know I would later regret it if we eloped.

Answer 2

I was tempted to elope but I did not in the end.

I thought I can't wait to marry this guy I need to be his wife now why wait.

But then I thought of all the people that would miss out on sharing this amazing day with us, and I did not want that. Your sistuation maybe bad but with a wedding it can help ease the day

Answer 3

I don't need to run away to get married (definition of elope). Just wanted a courthouse ceremony. Since he wants a wedding, we are doing it scaled down.  I would never tolerate an engagement lasting longer than a year, but hey, different strokes for different folks.

Answer 4

We are sort of eloping. We are going on a cruise and getting married in St. Thomas by ourselves! We were going to take our family but the money was going to be too much for them  and they were totally fine with how we are doing it! Good luck girl! Do what makes YOU happy!

Answer 5

It is perfectly Ok to have a small ceremony now with close friends and family and have a reception later. It is a traditon in a lot of culutres. Do what is right for you and your FH.

Answer 6

Yes....  We would have made it to Vegas if the torrential rains hadn't knocked the bridge out...

Answer 7

I'm going to elope with my fiance sometime next month or so.

The reason that we're going to do a court house wedding is because my family wants me to have religious and cultural ceremony, but my fiance's atheist. And my fiance's parents think that he's too young to get married .. but that's not really true because he's 25 :-P Not so much a boy anymore.

We assume both sets of parents are not willing to give any financial help because we don't want to be dictated on how to do our big day. So court house wedding it is. We would've big wedding if only we didn't have $100k student loan to pay.

Answer 8

Goodness yes. Before we even set our date I was thinking... "Gosh it'd be so much easier to just elope" and now that I'm actually planning and getting prices for things it makes me think I'm nuts for not just eloping. However I remember the reason my fiancé and I chose not to elope, which was we wanted to share the beginning of our marriage with our family and friends.

I think that you should go through with the wedding, just maybe make it smaller then originally planned if you're feeling to overwhelmed. Since you're not the type of person to go to the court house, you'll more then likely regret it later in life. Share this moment with the people you love. You only do this once so do it the way you TRULY want it. Maybe you could move up your wedding date by a few months, if possible, to get you out of the bad situation sooner.

Good Luck and Congratulations

Answer 9

We seriously considered it. With the stress of the planning, just wanting to hurry up and be married so we could start our lives together... Yeah, it was very tempting!

But, we didn't, and it was SO worth it. You'll regret it later and wish you could have had a beautiful wedding. So, don't miss your chance now. You can only do this once! 8)

Hang in there!