Have any of you ever "hung in there" because you felt he/she owed you?

Question

Have any of you ever "hung in there" because you felt he/she owed you?

Answer 1

yes I have.

I was 15 when I thought I found my "soul mate" he was 20 at the time. I got pregnant and had a baby at 16, everything was good for the first year & half, then he started to abuse me mentally, then he began to cheat on me, lie and everything else. I tried a few times to leave him, but he would beg me to come back, and the proposed to me, and kept telling me he'd change and blah blah blah. Well I moved 3 hrs away from my family closer to his like he wanted, just to find out he was cheating on me with a girl he knew there, he tried to get us all to live together and she would help with MY daughter, but never let that happen. But he went between he two of us for awhile, we stopped sleeping together almost a year before we finally broke up b/c of the cheating I was scared of std's and all... but anyway, He had me so convinced that I wouldn't be able to make it with a baby on my own b/c I was so young, and no one else would want me, I was so depressed I had a breakdown at the age of 17, I was in the hospital a few days, and when I came out, my head was clearer that it had been in a very long time! I bought me a car, got my own apartment, found a job, and left him! We was together 4 years. And after it was all said and done. I was so glad, but so mad that I hadn't done it sooner!

Answer 2

Yes, I have...I felt I went above and beyond in supporting her household and her children...and I am the type of person who...when I make a commitment...I stick to it.  It has not been easy...or rewarding.  But it is the right thing to do and that is very important...to me.

Answer 3

for a while yes

Answer 4

Yes I feel your pain, I had this experience with my ex boyfriend. He was very abusive physicaly mentaly and verbaly, but through out our relationship I helped him with so much and  payed so much of his debt off with school, Then I felt as if I had to stay in the relationship because i knew he was going to be successful in life. Then oneday The beating was just to horrifying and I could just see my whole life right in front of my eyes, that was the day that  I said enough is enough. I have told you this story to tell you that you never have to settle for less what you have done for them will come back to you ten times more, after I left him I continued to put myself through college graduated have a wonderful career my husband owned his own business i'm a ob/gyn and my life could be better, Sometimes people have a henderence in there life and by you staying in this situation and your not happy your putting your life down there is so much in this world that you could be experiencing and staying with someone because you feel that they owe you is not good because when life really hit you you'll see that the time you spent thinking that he/she owe you, you really owe yourself.