Have any parents washed their hands of their children and not regret it?

Question

Your childs' actions were so bad you had to kick them out or finally had to turn your back on them. What were the reasons? Did it help?

Answer 1

I dont think that could ever be possible my love is unonditional for my son.

Answer 2

I don't think I could ever turn my back on my children.

Answer 3

This hasn't happened to me - but i've been on the other side.  As a foster parent, i've taken in children whose parents have "washed their hands of them".  I've seen broken hearts and broken spirits.  Many of these children had parents who really did try, they just didn't know how to deal.  My advice would be to talk to someone, seek guidance from a source you can trust.  Kids rebel for a number of reasons, some of which include: being overprotected to the point where they feel they need to break free, lack of structure, desperation for attention (even negative), and insecurities in parent/child relationships.  

Before you push your child away make sure you have exhausted every avenue...and if you still cannot manage to raise the child yourself, place him/her in a foster home or with a responsible relative rather than just putting him/her out on the street.

Answer 4

How would turning your back on the child you raised help the situation.  If your child is not well behaved, it is you who raised the child to be that way.  To turn your back on the child would be leaving your job as a parent half done.  I understand that after your child reaches a certain age, it is more difficult to guide them, but why should you stop trying?  By turning your back on the child, you are teaching that love is conditional and it should not be.  You are also telling your child that he/she is worthless and meaningless to you.

I think this choice would be doing more harm than good....

Answer 5

my dad turned his back on me, you always need your parents when times are bad im sure parents need there children. i could never turn my back on my child

Answer 6

I have a stepdaughter who got pregnant at 16.  We offered to help her with the baby, finish high school, and pay for further education.  She instead decided to leave all that and go marry the father of the baby.  She is now pregnant with her second child, still no high school diploma, and continuing to make what we think are poor decisions.  We have quit offering the moon and stars, since it appears that regardless of what advice we give, she's bound and determined to do things her way.  They are really struggling and it is so hard to watch, but throwing money at the situation or getting involved doesn't seem to help much.  So we have had to back off, which has been hard to do. LOL

Answer 7

I don't have kids, but I think the worse I would do is have them go to boot camp. I think "disowning" a child really breaks their heart, even if they don't show it.