Have got five children

Question

me and my hubby had decided that we were really lucky to have five really healthy children and i have an appointment about being sterilised. however we were talking last night and he asked if i was sure our family was complete, now i am not sure, our youngest starts full time school in january and would finally have a bit of time for myself and us but then i think am i being selfish, my husband said he would have another if i agreed and now am in turmoil. am 38 and dont know if i am too old! just opinions really thanks

Answer 1

If everything is right in your life, then you go for it.  My mum was 36 when she had me, and was the best mum ever!

Don't do anything permanent until you are sure either way.  Just remember that if you decide to have another, that's another 18 or 21 years commitment, and if you don't have another, then will you spend the next 18 or 21 years regretting it.  That's something for you and your hubbie to decide.

I wish you the very best with it all.

Answer 2

It's a personal choice - if you have the means to raise the children properly (financial, family structure, morals, etc) then do what you wish. If your kids aren't thriving, you're broke, and your family is dysfunctional, then please don't.

Answer 3

first off congrats on having 5 healthy children im very similar i have 4 beutiful children and would like 1

if you are having doubts about getting sterilised dont do it although now a days it can be reversed it is harder to do

     your still young enough to have more children if you want them dont make any rash desions on it why not see how it goes once your youngest is in full time education if you still feel incomplete then have another and if not enjoy spending time togeather

good luck x

Answer 4

With respect, I feel that having 5 children is more than enough.

These will all likely have kids themselves....so the cost to you (and the tax payer & the natural resorces) will be high. Birthday's & Xmas & holiday's, that will cost lots - never mind that Earth is already over populated.

Two only I feel is a good policy, our planet can only sustain so many & with folk like yourself having way too many kids it does not help the future generations.

I say all this with respect.

Answer 5

I have four children and my youngest will be in school this year to, on one hand I want another baby and on another I don't, I'm undecided myself, I just see it this way if I get pregnant then I do and if not then another child isn't in my plans I guess, I don't think your selfish at all, you deserve some you time

Answer 6

I know alot of people may disagree, but if you can afford it, and you feel like you are healthy, have as many as you are blessed with.  And if you are feeling any kind of doubts about your family not being complete I would suggest waiting on fixing yourself.

Answer 7

After 5 kids you deserve to be selfish. There's a lot to think about. Can you afford it? Are the kids you have struggling for attention and time alone with you as it is? What are you going to do when #6 heads off to school and your days are quiet again? You can't keep having babies just because they fill the silence and boredom. If you really want to do it and you can, by all means, go ahead. But do it for the right reasons.

Answer 8

go for another one I mean you will need somone to cuddle when your husband is at work and there are 45 year olds still having kids so I say go for it.

Answer 9

You could always leave it up to nature, que sera sera, and all that

Answer 10

your  not to old  if  you want another baby  then just  do it :)

Answer 11

it is up to you, i have an aunt and they had a baby at 40, he is the cutest thing, he is very healthy! i would just talk it over with your doctor to see the plus/minus's of having another baby, good luck!

Answer 12

if ur not sure then dont do it and its good that after having 5 children 2gether u and ur husband r still not sure if ur family is complete that shows what loving parents u r most men think ones enough so i think u should put the sterilising on hold and if it happens its meant 2 be goodluck and also ur not 2 old love i think u have more patience wen ur older  

Answer 13

well you have to look at the big picture. i dont think age has anything to do with it. can you afford another child. did you have plans say going back to school ect.. you have 5 so myself personally i think you did your part in kids (not that 6 would not be great) but maybe you can do things for yourself now. if you get the urge you can be a foster parent. when it comes down to it i think the thought of it being final is hard. i think all women go through that. do some soul searching good luck

Answer 14

if ur having doubts dont go for sterilisation u will regret it. 38 is not too old i had my last one of 7 at 37.  my oldest is now 24 and the youngest 11 and i have 5 grandchildren. good luck.

Answer 15

No you not to old at all, you just have to remember that the more you age goes up so does the risk of having an "unhealthy" baby.

You need to talk 2 ur hubby about this, As maybe he thinks that its just what u want to hear? or maybe he dnt want u to do something that u might regret?!  

But NO you nt 2 old at all

Gd luck :D

Answer 16

I don't think your selfish for looking forward to time to yourself Raising children is very rewarding but exhausting. If you and your husband mutually agree to have another baby go for it!! Many women are waiting until later in life to evn start their families now. If your not ready yet think you may want another after a little time to yourself look into IUD's. They can removed whenever you decide you may want to have another child.

Answer 17

Five seems a handful. I think you are very lucky to have had them and you well deserve a little time to yourself. Not selfish at all. You've done your bit - so to speak.

Answer 18

I could be wrong, but, perhaps you're unsure *because* your youngest will be in school, full-time, soon, and you're feeling a bit of the empty nest syndrome, so to speak... That's not a reason to have another, in my opinion... And, it's not selfish to not conceive another child; it would be selfish to conceive one, and *then* wonder what to do about it... Personally, I'm 30, and this is my 4th and last: I love my kids, dearly, but I'm thrilled to be almost DONE with the pregnancy stage! Now I can enjoy the kids I chose to to have, and focus on enriching their lives, even more. :)

Answer 19

my mother had me when she was 36 so its perfectly normal, do it!!

Answer 20

why not let nature take its course for 6 months if its meant to be it  

Answer 21

i have also got 5 kids my youngest starts full time school in september i feel as if i am going to get my life back 5 is plenty just enjoy watching your children grow up believe me you will be kept busy enough without another kid

Answer 22

I have three kids.  When I had my second, the doctor told me not to have anymore because of complications.  Five years later I found out that I was pregnant and the doctor said "don't worry, we'll deal with it".  My first two were girls.  My third was a boy.  All I can tell you is that when I had him, I actually said to my husband "I feel like our family is complete".  It was strange, because I had resigned myself to the fact that I wasn't having any more after the second, but I guess I was not complete.  You will know when you are.

Answer 23

your not to old! my mother had the youngest in our family when she was 42