Have homeschooling changed relationship between your family?

Question

Also question to homeschooler's parents:

Do you think you have changed or grown up after you doing homeschooling?

Answer 1

Yes.

I was homeschooled - I was miserable.

As an adult I have a better perspective on that now... During our teen years we are searching for how we fit into society. We need daily opportunities to be independent.

That's not to say that homeschooling was a mistake - My parents were homeschooling for religious reasons and feel to this day it is important to isolate teens from their peers to keep them "safe". Let me tell you though.....It just created more problems.

On the flip side - I am homeschooling my kids. They weren't learning in school.

I realize that my kids need time to test out what I've been teaching them without my presence. I'm their safe harbor but they need opportunities to test the waters. I've picked the waters for them (cause they're just 5 & 7) but as they get older I'll let them pick their own waters. My job as a parent is to equip them for life - and letting them experience life in managable doses is part of that.

So yes, relationship change.

But change in life is the only constant.

Answer 2

Oh my gosh, yes.

We watched our daughter go from a frightened people pleaser to a young lady who knows what she wants, isn't afraid to stand up for herself, and who follows her passions.

Have I grown up?  In a way.  I'm not such a people pleaser anymore, either.  I don't worry about what other people think, because I can see with my own eyes what does and does not work.  

We get many compliments on our child's maturity and intelligence.  We have total strangers coming up to us asking "How did you get her to be so polite and hard-working?"

We are much closer as a family because the school routine and teacher's opinions do not hold sway in our home.

Answer 3

Me and my 3 sisters have been homeschooled all our lives, up until High School our parents have us go into a Public High School. I'm only in 7th grade my oldest sister is in college, my other older sister is in High School and my younger sister is still homeschooling with me and she's in 6th grade.

To answer your question, I would definitely say we're much closer than other families and we spend a lot of our time together. A lot of people think if your homeschooled you're not as open to people and you're really shy...I'm the only one out of my family who is like that. But it also depends on what kind of people you grow up with. And I've grown up in a Christian family my entire life so that's a part of it all.

Homeschooling is only going to be successful of course if you have a parent who is willing to assign and help their child/children in the school that they do daily.

I'm able to do my school in my pajamas!

Answer 4

We have gotten closer. We have more time to spend with our friends too. We feel more like a team than we did before.

Answer 5

Homeschooling has made us much closer as a family.  I understand and appreciate my children more.  We enjoy each other more and like being together.

My children are still young but they seem much more mature than their peers.

Here are some of the benefits of homeschooling as it pertains to family:

http://www.successful-homeschooling.com/...

Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Being a home schooling family definitely changed our family.  We became much closer as a family, and I was able to learn a lot as I taught my son.  We had so many social opportunities that we would not have had if he had been in public school.  We learned teamwork and problem solving skills as a family.

Answer 7

My daughter and my husband's daughter both went to private school through 8th grade. His child went on to public high school. Mine was homeschooled for high school.

The first year for my child was rough, filled with resentment for being "different" (no christian high school in our town, so she was informed since birth that this would be her path). She came from private school as sullen and mouthy, a year later she was open, loving and with a sunny disposition. She has never stopped thanking me for making that choice for her.

My husband's child went to public and stayed sullen and mouthy until she moved in with us at age 18. We pulled her out of school (amidst much fuss from her mother's family) and caught her up.

We started both girls in college a year early, and they both have a positive outlook and a good work/study ethic and are filled with joy!

They are second year in college now.

so one girl could be called the control group" and one the "experimental group" for you science majors!

Answer 8

I can't say that my relationship with my kids has changed due with homeschooling because we have always homeschooled.   Had we chosen a different lifestyle, things would be different, but it's impossible to know exactly what it would be like.

Of course I also have grown and changed over the last 16 years, but it would be pretty crazy to not over that period of time.

Homeschooling is a part of our lifes for better or worse.  I like to think it's been mostly for the best.  I have seen my kids grow into young adults with whom I truly enjoy spending time.   I can't imagine there would have been a better outcome had they gone to traditional school.  

:D

Answer 9

im a homeschooled teen. :]

it changed in kind of a negative way....

we get mad from being together 24/7... plus my bro is a jerk and now i gotta deal all the time, and my mom never helps...

but i know my family more than i ever have... :]

Answer 10

Yes.   We are closer and understand our son much more than when he was in school.

I have changed because I know it was not all the school's fault. (smile)    We have a relunctant learner and it takes two parents to keep him motivated and learning on subjects he needs but does not enjoy.    

We have to be creative to keep his interests and keep the goals in focus.

Homeschooling has improved our family life.

Answer 11

well YES it did. but in a very bad way. I have been for homeschooling for 2 yrs. and my lil brother all his life.  and my family(mom) is just so mean. i missed her so much at public school and stuff and couldn't wait to come see her lol but now i see her everyday and well we argue ALOT. so yea if i was like the many family that say'' oh we bonded so much i love it'' well no its not always a happy ending. so yea

Answer 12

gerlawgo says:

"so one girl could be called the control group" and one the "experimental group" for you science majors!"

Control and experimental groups usually have more than one subject each in a valid science experiment.

This is why home schooling makes me so nervous...

Answer 13

Yes, as a homeschooler, my family has gotten to spend more time together as a family...and we know eachother better as a result.  I have definitely changed  - I have learned the importance of staying in touch with Christ, my Savior.  I can only imagine what my life would be like if I wasn't homeschooled.  I feel really sorry for all of my friends that are in school.