Have i got paranoid/anxiety.....?

Question

im 18 year old male , and for the past 2 years ive been living in h**l. first these are things about how i think .... when i go out i think people are talking , laughing and thinkin or saying im ugly , i cant trust people and i get suspicious of there motives. but now i am sat in on my pc every day and i hate going out side with friends because of what i think. my family are saying i need to get a life and everything but they dont know what is wrong with me, dont say tell your family about what you think because i cant im scared to tell them because im scared of what they will think, like im weird or somthing ect . i dernt get a job .... and ive been getting jobseekers alowence but... i missed an interview and they have now stopped my money so now i have no money at all and my family are going mad because i need to pay them £20 every 2 weeks ect ...and now im wondering if i go tell the doctor , could he help and help me get benifits or somthing because i need money. and dont think im saying this just to get money but its all true plz help i cnt explain anymore....any 1 help ????

Answer 1

Hello,

(ANS) First of all at 18 years old you are still moving through the transitional period known as puberty. Puberty is the change from a more childish self to a more adult self and this process of change can go on well into your twenties. Its often accompanied with alot of confusion, alot of anger and moodiness or mood swings. Its a time of self discovery, especially discovering a new sense of self & of self identity, it can be quite painful too emotionally.

**I sense from your posting that you feel quite mixed up or confused about yourself and what too do. You feel safer indoors and cocooned in your own room or space i.e. it feels safest.

**I sense A LOT of fear and that its very hard to trust others, even your own family. Your family don't understand you either which makes it doubly lonely & doubly hard for you.

**I don't think you have paranoia but I do think you have a lot of fear & you appear very anxious indeed which is understandable. I don't think its at all helpful to think "There must be something WRONG" with me. This is NOT the way to think of improving your situation, I would like to encourage you to think about what REAL steps or small bearable changes you could make which could improve things for you?

**NO! going to your GP wont help either, a GP is NOT a trained mental health professional. I know my dad was a GP for 35years in Liverpool.

**SOLUTION,

I would suggest that the answers you seek to changing your life for the better are in fact inside you, you yourself have the answers. You may not even be aware of those answers just yet. But the solution IS inside you, you only have to be prepared to look & search inside yourself, you have the best answers to your problems Nobody else. However, I do think you can only reach those answers with some expert guidance. I think you would really benefit from one on one counseling or therapy or some CBT.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE THE ANSWERS INSIDE YOURSELF. No body else can tell you. You must listen carefully inside yourself, pay attention to your feelings too. Try and spend a short time each day to sit down & focus on yourself & your feelings, keep listening deep down. You know what you need better than anyone else. You must learn to trust yourself. To believe in yourself.

Kind Regards from Ivan.

Answer 2

paraoid schizophrenia try to see a pshychrtrist

but you can't because they cost money go and see your doctor.for free

You need to raise your confidence.

Something in your past still haunts you.

oits your job to find out what!

Answer 3

paraoid schizophrenia cud be..see a psychiatrist,we cantreely help you. good luck all best

Answer 4

It does sound like you are suffering from some form of anxiety/paranoia.

I have suffered anxiety myself and can certainly relate to some of your feelings.  I would definately recommend seeing a doctor - i refused for some time, then when i did go and tell them, i broke down in tears, and my doc was very supportive.  I found it embarrasing and only told my parents after lots of persuastion from my partner.

The doc signed me off work for a while, and also forwarded me for a "well-being" supporter.  I then got refered to a psycho therapist - which is helping me loads.

I use this survey to monitor my moods:

http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/index...

sign up for free and take the anxiety/depression questionnaires.  this will give you more insight into your feelings.

Good luck and hope you get the help you need.

Answer 5

No you are not paranoid... they are talking & laughing at you....

Answer 6

you have had some very good answers on here, but i want you  to look at your self confidence it is very low.

Ways to deal with this are such as outward bound courses, they take you camping and it really helps to build your self confidence with other like minded people.

You can start by looking in the mirror and learning to love the person you see, if you dont who else will? so accept who you are and start moving on, you will not care what people are saying. the hardest part is the first step forward!

Answer 7

This could be a long shot, but please try googling 'body dysmorphic disorder'.  If you are paranoid about people thinking you are ugly, this could be the reason why - see if you can identify with any of the info you read.

Try to be brave and see your GP, as they can refer you to a psychologist for help. Good luck.

Answer 8

definatley go and see your doctor, they can put you anti-deressants to help with the anxiety. If your aware that you could be wrong with your thoughts - that people may not actually be talking about you but that's just how you feel it's more anxiety than paranoia. Thats what my docotr told me anyway. Hope you feel better soon.