Have kids lost respect?

Question

I just read where a girl . women . child . no sure but she was saying how her mother was selfish and should have just put her up for adoption. do half the children know what there parents gave up to keep them here ? or how hard they did work to get an education so that they wouldnt have to live off welfare forever ? mothers shouldnt have to stay home and i am sure some would like to but dont have that privilege and i dont think it makes children turn out bad i think it lets them met new people. mothers give up alot they pretty much give up there lives and figures and time to there children and some are single mothers and have to work on top of that and to sit there and say that they didnt try is selfish and to say o they should have stayed home that in its self i think is disrespectful

Answer 1

Maybe it's the parents who lost respect.

Sure some young people (aged 10-16) dont' respect the fact that they have eudcation, care, etc...

But I don't think they are the only ones.

Some parents are also disrespecful and rude to their children. They expect them to follow the rules taht were pointlessly made up with no reason, they deny their children's requests without giving them the reason just because they want to look good and powerful and demand theat the kids follow their instructions just because they are "the parents". Some parents just don't even listen to their children, don't help, don't support. They neglect their children in need. Sometimes parents don't even care for their children and just let them live in their house until they loose the last nerve and move out. Some are too authorative and over-protective.

They have lost respect too. Kids don't respect out of nowhere. They respect if you give them respect. You don't except anyone to give you respect if you don't respect them back, and that includes the young population.

I was raised in a family where my mom never suported me emotionally, was never there for me, never helped me, never talked to me in a mature way, and always expected me to just do things the way she says even if she was wrong. So I quit rebelling and at 18, I just moved out.

And the worst part is... 95% of parents don't even know how to parent - they didn't have child development classes, psychology classes, education classes...

They just birth the child and that's it. And expect it to be "raised and follow all my rules."

No no no.. it doesn't work that way.

You give. You take.

Answer 2

I answered her question and I'll include my answer.

First I will answer yours. YES people..all people have lost respect. The "American Family" is crumbling, it has been for decades. I see her point, and I agree with it. I also see your point, and agree with it as well. Sometimes things can't be prevented, sometimes things are 100% out of your hands! I understand that. I also understand...a lot of times that isn't the case. Life is about choices, and too many people make them without thinking about the future reprocussions. Most parents don't display anything to respect overall. A lot of them don't give a c**p about anyone or anything but themselves and how they look.

My answer to her question:

I agree with you. Ever since the 1960's "womens rights", the divorce rates have done nothing but go up! Between 1960-1966 they doubled, then 66-76 they doubled again. I don't see that as being a coincidence. I don't know why people have become the way they have. I firmly believe it is a womans place to raise the kids (not sitters, not nannies, not whoever they can dump them on). Women that chose to be a single mom, aren't making a good choice for their kid/kids. I do think that some women don't get that as a choice, that it just happens (still as a result of her choices leading up to it though). Rape obviously isn't included...thats something I don't see as the moms fault at all (unless she's drunk half naked at a party acting like a w***e...which does happen, and I don't consider that rape).

Statistically working women are 3x's more likely to get divorced(current stats). That makes very logical sense to me, considering the mom is only a part time mom/wife.

I don't know what to say about it. Marriage is modernly a joke, men/women sleep around without a second thought. I think its sick, and a gross injustice to the kids that result. It isn't healthy, or fair. If people took more time learning about someone before dropping their pants...there'd be less problems. I KNOW stuff happens, if the man walks out...what can you do. I get that, I fully understand it. Most of the time though, that happens when they haven't had a life together before jumping in bed with each other. It's sad.

Answer 3

you must remember, these are just kids. unless they are taught to respect and given respect, they don't even get it. we as parents have been kids making us a bit smarter than them. but as a teen, one thinks they know it all and a lot of parents don't go about teaching them things the right way. everyone is different, but it all comes down to the same thing. a person earns respect - the golden rule, you know.

Answer 4

I honestly have a probelm with respect. im grateful for her having me, taking care of me, and doing all she can, but we argue all the time, and I have a probelm respecting her when she's drunk.... but then again I have a hard respecting anyone...... I still love her with all my heart and soul, and so glad that all of her birth control failed..... thats how me and my twin bro got here

Answer 5

Well kids are out of control more than ever. The reason why is because schools do not have discipline in their own school systems and lack of parents teaching kids right from wrong.

Answer 6

man if i said that and my aunt found out i would got red apple on my back porch and a biig timeout

Answer 7

I read that too I thought it was silly and she sounded like a child to me. she also said that how about an abortion, thats weird would she rather be dead or have a bit of trouble in her life

Answer 8

To the people answering this---- you need to read the first question to understand this one

I answered hers--- and i think my post says it all. Here was my response to her.

I know how you feel but maybe by working fulltime and going to college is/was her way of trying to give you a better life. I don't know you so I can't say your spoiled, but my family is poor and my mom works everyday and if her work slows down we will get things shut off. So stop complaining about being poor cuz it's not like she means to be poor. And maybe putting you up for adoption would have been a better choice. But you know what SHE CARRIED YOU IN HER BELLY FOR NINE MONTHS, GAVE PAINFUL BIRTH TO YOU, AND LOVED YOU ENOUGH TO NOT WANT TO GIVE YOU UP. Just be happy she didn't abort you like a lot of teen mothers do. Stop being ungrateful. Now you may say "i won't have kids til' i get a husband and money in the bank, but when you are older how do you know you won't slip up. And have you asked you mom about your dad or how you were conceived cuz it may be a little more "complicated" than you think.

Answer 9

YEA thanx 2 the media and the enviorment they're raised in, completely ungrateful now, i'm not a mother, but my parents weren't born in america so outside of america i've realized how much respect the kids have for their parents and over here compared to what i was taught growing up it's just unbeliveable! honestly I blame 90% of it to the media, and some parents DO over spoil their kids and then expect them to obey them, which it doesn't really work that way...

Answer 10

kids have not lost respect they just rarely see examples of it from adults

Answer 11

I think that in her case, it might have been selfish, but there are a lot of mothers out there that work and don't have to.  That is selfish.  I think that her point though was pretty valid about how these kids are feeling and mothers aren't thinking how it is effecting the kids when they spend the time working instead of raising the kids.  Having to is one thing, and that's to put food on the table.  Doing it to have new cars, name brand clothes and a house that is big but you never see, along with your children is selfish to the children.