Have you ever been/are you (non-sexually) close to a teacher?

Question

Well I go to private school so I guess it's a smaller student-teacher ratio and the relationships build quicker. But, one of my upper elementary teachers (female) and I were pretty close the year I was in her class. Ever since I left her class I started coming to her for advice and such because I have lots of family issues and talking with them about my problems would be pointless. Because, well, they are 75% of the problem. Anyway, have any of you been in a similar situation before? Where you come to them for advice and have that kind of special relationship that he/she doesn't have with alot of students.

Answer 1

No.

I go to a public high school, with thousands of kids, but there are kids I know who have that kind of close friend relationship with their teachers.

I think it's nice because then you have an adult you can talk to who isn't a part of your family.  Sometimes I wish I had that because I don't really have anyone I feel like I can really talk to, but I mean, he/she's my teacher, and what am I supposed to say?  

I really like a lot of my teachers, but I don't know about going to them for advice.  I'd like to be able to, but I can't.

Answer 2

I had a teacher in high school for math. i hated math but he took the time after school one day and helped me to do my homework and figure out why it was so difficult for me. but he was a man of science which i understood very well and we would sit and talk about auras, energy, ghosts, etc. I'll never forget it.

Answer 3

well i was in a similar situation. i would talk to my teacher about my problems but i realized that it was all a bad idea in the end because i got too attached and upset when the year was over. it felt good to have someone care and listen to me vent but i felt worse once i couldnt talk to her any more. and it does feel really good to have that special relationship but most likely he/she (the teacher) doesnt find the relationship as significant as you do since you have one teacher and he/she has numorous students.

Answer 4

You're right about the private school student-teacher ratio. The ratios are alot smaller so it's easier to build relationships, yes yes yes!

I'm a public middle-school teacher and I have that closeness with some of my students. Very few, however. One in particular told me she was depressed and I felt honored to know she wanted ME to get her some help. We talk to this day and I always look forward to hear about positive things she's doing in her life.

Answer 5

Its easy for you become close with one of your teachers, after she your teacher, and also your friend! There's nothing wrong with that, she's like your confidont ( special friend) that you can tell her anything that is bothering you at any given moment, BUT YOU KNOW YOU HAVE ANOTHER LIKE THAT?And this one too, will never leave you, is a great listener, will help you through all your family problems, and will help those parties of your family that is having those problems also, do you know who He is?God!!! He's your friend,teacher,confidont(special friend), never leaves your side, is always there to help you " YOU HAVE  TO DO IS ASK?" He'll help you,GOD IS THE SAME YESTERDAY,TODAY,TOMORROW!HE NEVER CHANGES!When you feel you're in a situation that your teacher friend can not answer for you nothing is impossible for God!EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH GOD!Ask you'll see! God loves you, He doesn't want to see you hurting, miserable because of fmily problems,HE'S ALWAYS BEEN RIGHT THERE BY YOUR SIDE WAITING ON YOU TO ASK HIM FOR HELP!He loves ,all He wants to is love you, help you, make you all that you can be.BELIEVE!

Answer 6

They are mentors, I had one a long time ago.  He inspired me to do things I thought I could not.  Like study economics.  

I would suggest you also find a counselor.  It is nice to have that support from a teacher, however there is a line and it is pretty broad nowdays.  Teachers have to be very very careful about interacting with their students.

Answer 7

My english teacher and I are.

He was a cool guy and I was always able to talk to him or go to him for anything and everything.

I could say anything.

This past year he knew how hard I was having it and he even was there when I just couldn't handle it. At the end of the year I brought him a starbucks and he passed me. A total BS pass but he knew deep down I didn't deserve to fail that subject.

Answer 8

I became really close to my 4th grade teacher because he was young (24) and understood the youth more, and he was my cross country coach and then he introduced me to triathlons, and i started training with him, and i became close to him, and i could talk to him about a lot of things, because i saw him a lot out of school because he dedicated his time to being my personal coach, im in 9th grade now, and he moved to virigina a while back, but still to this day, i keep in touch with him, and he always knows whats going on with me, i dont even see him as a teacher anymore, that seems weird to know he was once my teacher.

Answer 9

Yeah, my sixth grade social studies teacher was the greatest. Every year since then I've gone back and hung out in his room during my study halls and stuff. I got stuck with the worst homeroom teacher in the world and would always go and sit in the back of his classroom when I had to be in homeroom. People are so judgemental, though. Even my friends sometimes make jokes about it, like it's creepy to be close with a male teacher. I always kind of laugh it off but it seriously bothers me.

Answer 10

Yes..and so many people can be judgemental about the whole thing. I'm in a similar situation as far as family issues go, so I talk often to her when I can.

Answer 11

I think it's awesome that you have an older woman that you can go to anytime like that!  

I have been tight with my female teachers... they were watching out for me *cough cough okay teacher's pet jk lol*

I never was that great in school so any extra help was deeply appreciated.  I too had family problems (my mom came to me for her problems instead of the other way around lol)

It's so important to be able to talk to someone.  If it were a teacher of the opposite gender it would not be a good idea.  No matter what there are too many temptations when you confide in one of the opposite gender.  You said yourself that relationships build quickly.  This goes for in life as well as on-line.  I don't need to go into details but when it comes to the opposite s*x and particularly one in power things can be misconstrued rather quickly.  

I have many friends that also confide in their teachers.  I now spend a lot of time counseling teens (girls) and I encourage them to talk to someone that they trust of the same s*x like a teacher, pastor, or guidance counselor if they are not able to go to their parents.  

Hold on to that relationship... it's awesome!

Blessings :)

Answer 12

ha well kinda but it was more of a janitor seriously everybody hated her before my grade but i befriended her and now she is like the coolest

Answer 13

yes of course

in the 7th grade my history teacher was new from new york, so we became pretty close in his class.....then after the semester was over i came into his class on a daily basis, and he always had wise advice, or was just fun to talk to....

Answer 14

Oh yea,

when I was in middle school in 7th grade I started up band and the teacher was awesome! so I could pretty much talk to this guy all the time,but we weren't close cause like I didn't know if i'd even get along with this guy.Then when 8th grade came I went back to his class for 2 classes a day and from there,he was almost like a family member,I could talk to him about anything and he always helped me with issues and especially music things.but yea I bonded real well with him and now I won't have him anymore and it's so weird! but I plan on visiting him haha,

Answer 15

i was close with my 6th grade teacher.We had to write journals to her and she'd give us advice and it was really cool.She was very nice and i would have gone to her for advice but she left.

Answer 16

Yes, it is fine. I was brutally teased throughout middle school, and my teachers were wonderful. I always went to them for advice. I went to a private school too so the classes were pretty small. Teachers are supposed to be people that you trust and people that you can talk to.

Answer 17

I am really close to many of my teachers. I guess it's because i'm a well behaved, nice student. When I was in Elementary school I was amazingly close to my girl teacher. She was the type of person who doesnt judge and is just an amazing person. I still talk [and or e-mail] her weekly or monthly as she is pregnant and it's the summer : ]

Answer 18

yer , totally normal , not every kid has it but its good if you do .