Have you ever been at a restaurant when someone you are with is rude to the waiter?

Question

a friend of mine recently treated the waiter really snobbily.

Really looked down her nose at the waiter.

I just wanna slink to the next table and pretend I am with them.

The other thing I REALLY hate is when I am with someone in a chinese restaurant where the waiter is patiently trying to understand the patrons thick yobbo accent but not understanding it. So the person says the same words to the waiter but 20 decibels louder and in a way that 'sounds' sort of 'chinese'-ish to the yobbo person. EG: "I'd likeee soupeee." AND SOOOO loud!

Everyone turned around, including all the other waiters.

I was reallly embarressed and within 2 minutes made up this lie about how I suddenly felt a bit queezy and I think I had better just have a 'good lie down'

Answer 1

yea it happened to me once my aunt was really rude. we had to right to complain cuz d food ws disgustin but i would have done it in a different way. she really embarresed me. but hte part u said 'i'd likeeee a soupeee' was so funny u made me laugh loll she wants a soupeeeee ahhhaaahhhaa

Answer 2

Yes. It is very embarrassing when someone you are with is rude to the staff. And I normally let them know that if they would like my company again during a meal they will refrain from their rudeness. If they don't then I normally start making fun of the person I'm with to the staff and when they say something I remind them that seems that they can dish it out but can't take it. Then I don't go with them for awhile if they won't change.

Answer 3

Aww I know how you feel. I have some VERY rude friends that will throw things, spill things, talk loudly about how the people around them at other tables look, mock the waitress, suggest "chewing and s******g" (eating and leaving without paying, which i'd never do) and makes faces about the food.

Answer 4

long nice story & interesting take...

Answer 5

you can tell a lot about a person's character from how they treat service employees (going to say that the service employee is not a snob to begin with...then you have every right)

Answer 6

Not at a restaurant persay but once a friend of mine had a cow because they accidentally left something off of her pizza.  She started yelling at them.      I was so embarrassed I wanted to shrink away and hide.   Im like calm down its not the end of the world.  

And thats terrible about the Chinese restaurant that has never happened to me.    But I would have just about died too.   I try really hard to understand what people are saying.  Its important to me.     That person jjust sounds ignorant maybe they should clean out their ears.

Answer 7

Sometimes it just happens :)

Answer 8

That is one of those situations where I won't hesitate to speak up.

Understand, I simply HATE conflicts.  But the kind of rudeness that occurs againts someone who does not deserve it gets my sails up. I don't get angry at the person.  I just point out that this kind of treatment is just not right.  I will say that, or, "Be cool", or "It's not her fault."  Sometimes the rude peson just won't listen to the message.  In that case I try a different tack, like. "It isn't worth it."

In any case, I will not let that person shame me, and I will let that person know it.  Most of the time, when being called on it, the bully (and that is exactly what that person is) will, himself be embarrassed and back off.

On the rare occasion he does not, if I continue any kind of friendship or relationship, I make it clear that I won't tolerate that kind of rudeness.

Answer 9

yes, and its so embarissing

Answer 10

That is the epitome of rudeness!  If I were you, I'd look for more civilized dinner companions.  It's bad enough this person shouted, but to mock the waiter's speech is inexcusable.  I wouldn't have blamed that waiter if he had dumped egg fu young on this dolt's head.  But you did the right thing by feigning illness and leaving the table.  You could have gone one step further by telling the waiter, in a sincere voice, "I'm so sorry", apologizing for your companion's rudeness.  But I know it's difficult to think when you're caught off guard like that.  You may not ever want to go to that particular restaurant again, but if you do, make sure it's with someone who has manners.  Should you happen to get the same waiter, smile a lot and give him an extra big tip!

Answer 11

I gave a very large tip, when I got home I call the restaurant & appoligized for my guests behavior.

Answer 12

My (now very ex) boyfriend treats waiters, cashiers, and whoever else he came into casual contact with very badly, making stupid jokes and asking for ridiculous things from them.  It finally got to the point that we never went out at all.  then one day, I realized what I was doing to myself staying with the jerk and, after over a year and a half of his c**p, broke it off.  I got a date offer from a close male fried the next day, too!  People who treat anyone else badly don't deserve to have friends!

Answer 13

uhh?no?

Answer 14

Yes, it's always embarrassing when you are with a friend or family member who doesn't treat people in the service industry as good as you would, but what can be done in this situation? I don't know.

Answer 15

Rudeness and ignorance abounds, doesn't it?  We are not responsible for the actions of another...we can only be responsible for our own actions...and this does not reflect on you.  What I would take a look at is the rudeness of your friends.  It reveals a lot about them; and you are right to question it.  The only thing you can do is refuse to participate in such behavior.  Yes, I would be embarrassed...and I would not subject myself to a repeat  performance.

Answer 16

I have been on the receiving end of that kind of bull for a while now. See I run a truck stop with a restaurant in it and before that a gas station with a subway in it. I make good money being the manager but ask your friend how much money does it take to stay nice and how many a******s were there already today. I have to smile and make it all good its all about customer service. lol But i swear if it was not for my kids I would have lost my job a 100 times over cause some people have never walked in a cashiers or waiters shoes and are just plain rude and mean.

So be nice people cause you may catch a person on the wrong day and its money = job divided by the customer = snap  lol

Answer 17

Yeah I can really sympathise with that as I have an acquaintance who used to be really bad for that sort of thing.  However there was an ironic twist in the tail to that one.  It is totally true, but I have a friend who owns a Chinese restaurant  and we decided to set this person up good and proper.  Nice Chinese meal, nice audience of people for my friend to play up to only this time the waiter clicked his fingers, after substantial provocation,  and suddenly there was a nice crew of mean looking Chinese people blocking all exits and slowly edging towards our table.  The waiter, who had hitherto only spoken broken English, said in his Best Oxford English "Will there be anything else sir?"  My aquaintance at this point looked a whiter shade of pale and gulped a "No."  Still these bouncer types  advanced until they were surrounding our table and then they proceeded to sing 'Happy birthday.'  I guess my aquaintance might think twice before he tries any condescending racist overtones when ordering his next Chinese meal....

Answer 18

Yes, this has happened to me. It is extremely embarrassing. I think you did the same thing I would have done. I can't stand rude people.

Answer 19

Speaking from a server point of view.....your'e firend is lucky they didn't get any "extra" ingredients in their food.  Some people just dont' get that being rude is not a good way to treat people.  If I was with her/him I would have waited until the server left then called them on it. Saying something like, "Hey, that was a little rude, don't you think?" or "I really don't think that was very nice of you."  Then I would have caught the server on the way out and apologiezed for my "friends" rudeness and tipped him/her a little extra.