Have you ever been involved in an interracial relationship? Good or bad?

Question

Men or Women - doesn't matter. Have you ever been involved in an interracial relationship? If so, what is your race and the race of the person you were involved with? Any questions, comments, or advice? Did you learn anything? Was it a good or bad experience?

If you haven't - why or why not? Any questions or comments?

Answer 1

my experience was good, although it didn't last because I had to go to a different school.

It was mostly butterflies. The only problem was mostly due to differences in culture (him being from another country)... which caused some misunderstanding sometimes in terms of ... point of view of certain things. But love covers multitude of "imperfections".

I kinda wished that I can re-lived those moments.

Answer 2

As my avatar reveals, I'm an African American female and I dated a German American male for a year.  He sometimes complained of the looks he'd receive from African American men, making him feel uncomfortable.  I was aware of lingering looks, but nothing that made me feel uncomfortable.  I learned that love is truly blind.  We remained together regardless of the atmosphere.  The only reason we're not together now is because he was way too clingy.  We're both married now and remain close friends.  I wouldn't let anyone deter you from following your heart regardless of a person's race.  It's beautiful to see two different races come together for the sake of love.  

Answer 3

Broken Glass is a clear mirror that reflex the different colour of life and the effects that needed to smooth out to create harmony in society of multi-racial com posit.  As read in the answers, it is quite a problem in life in the mixture of colour.  You are in US, the West and have you look into the East, the Asian and do a comparison of development.

This region is full of variety, races.....regilion......tribes......colo... & way of living.

There are beauties in all corners and ugly stain everywhere and is up to you to zoom in your focusing.   20 years ago, there were very few mixed couples along the roads of marriages but now, it is so common and well accepted and well loved in the society of S'pore.   It is becoming the greatest attraction, better  than the best scenic area in the country, a tiny red dot in the map of the world but known with many FIRSTs........1st Youth Olympic Games in 2010.......No.1 Airport in the world for 10+ yrs ........No.1 Airline (SIA) ........1st Country in the world to start a Water Industry with recycle water for drinking.........many many more.  One special thing for all to know in the world is S'pore has 4 Great New Year Days to celebrate among the races, really have the happy days together with no fight but laughter & best wishes for all.  Is it a Beauty in LIFE...???

For the last 30 years, I have girl/boy friends who are malay, indian, erasian, malaysian, indonesian & thai  and we are happy together.    

Answer 4

I am an African American woman who was involved in a 5 year relationship with a Caucasian Jewish man. Let me preface my response with this, I have dated a fair number of men from different ethnic backgrounds and found that at the end of the day it is one's experiences prior to being involved with you as well as the ones you create together that determine how the relationship evolves. Ethnicity while a factor, will change in magnitude depending on how you approach it. One of the things I have learned is that men are men, as a group they have characteristics relative to their gender socialization that they bring to relationships as do women. What I found is that who the two of you are emotionally (i.e. available, unavailable, openness to experience, ability to love and be loved as well as commit etc.) really plays the most important role and sharing the same values. From my previous relationship I learned what it felt like to open my heart. Although things did not work out,  and I am still coping with that as a whole we had a good relationship and he treated me well. It did not work out because we did not want the same things. I don't think that was a matter of race but more a matter of character and values.

I believe that any relationship can work if two people are compatible and willing to make it work, however in my mind this is not determined by race/ethnicity. Race and ethnicity do shape the personality in some ways, however at the end of the day all human beings have struggle and will likely experience, love, loss, pain and joy. Race is a way of obscuring our humanity and making us believe that we are all separate encouraging divisiveness and ultimately limiting all of us. Likewise, I caution any of us to get in an interracial relationship because we somehow believe that as a group, the guys from different races will treat us better or somehow be different simply because they are different race. That is stereotyping, and basically a defense to protect one's heart, which understandably can be a fragile entity. I say stay open to all kinds of experiences because you never know what you may pass up or ignore because you are being rigid in your approach. I think by being open one can truly invite and accept one's greater good and the most compatible partner. I hope this helps again this is just my experience. All the best to you.

Answer 5

I haven't and I wouldn't. For one, I'm not racial but a lot of black men are just all about s*x.. I'm not saying all are but a lot are and my parents would be upset and Idk. It just wouldn't be good. I say interracial relationships are a no go.  

Answer 6

Nope. I'm black and I don't find guys that aren't black or hispanic attractive...I don't know why. [I know my head will get bitten off, but its just my taste. I didn't say they AREN'T attractive!] but I don't date hispanics because most I come into contact with refuse to date black girls :\

Answer 7

I had a relationship one time, as small as it was, in high school - 10th grade.  I'm white and he was black, and we were in a very staunch Baptist school ta-boot!lol.  Needless to say, it didnt work out, our parents kept us apart, literally.  It was hard.  But, it was a beautiful experience and relationship.  He goes on in my memory as a warm and wonderful person.  

Most of time, I would say, it is extremely hard for an inter-relationship to pan out.  It is just the the two cultures are so very different that it is extremely hard to actually meld them.  Each culture has in ingrained way of life that is taught and lived from birth.  I suppose it isnt that hard of a thing if they have had very similar upbringings and beliefs, but I dont think it is a prevalent and/or easy thing to come across.

Answer 8

i am white

he is black

its a preference for  both sides..u have good relationship n bad relationship in any race....its up to u whom u want to date....ps.  i have dated all races and i only date black now........

Answer 9

dating a person from another race or background is really not different at all from dating someone of the same race to me. I am puerto Rican my boyfriend is black we have been together for 5 yrs and we have a baby, the most beautiful little girl in the world. Also don't worry about what other people think its you and him that counts. also if your family loves you and his family loves him they will accept it and love who ever you guys choose to be with.  

Answer 10

Once you go black you never go back

Answer 11

Race doesn't matter but I was with an african american once and it was the best relationship I've ever had!

Answer 12

not as yet, but i have a fettish for black guys :)

i dont see what the problem is, stupid society.

Answer 13

I've dated only outside of my race. I'm black  woman . I  wasn't born in the  U.S.I'm from an island. I've dated an Irish man , my current boyfriend is German.  We live in Fl. I liked dating outside of my race. Things always fine between us.It is always a good experience. for advice , i would say he or she has to be   strong . They are some people who are against interracial relationship, just  ignore them , like did. Everything should be perfect.

Answer 14

never have, Im not prejudice, but I think people should stay in there own race when hooking up.

Answer 15

No, butt I would.

Answer 16

No, I only date those of my race...the HUMAN race.

However, my current lover is black and I am white. I've no issue with it nor does he. He has been involved with non-black women before, but this is the first time I've been involved with someone non-white (well, I did briefly get involved with a black/white guy years ago).

I judge potential dating partners or lovers on my attraction level to them, and how we get along...not their skin color, culture, or ethnic background. This just happens to be the first time I'd met someone not of my skin color with whom there was a mutual desire to get together. I'd love it to turn into more and hope that it will. ☺♥☻

Answer 17

I started dating a Cape Verde man seven years ago,Treated like gold my father was heart broken at the time because we children were raised to stay with our own kind, I am white. Over the years my dad came to see that not all people of color are what some people make them out to be. I have learned that some whites are worse than people of color. I ended up marrying this man and my dad became happy about this relationship and on his death bed gave Charlie and I his blessings,we were married six months after my dad passed And I know he looks down today and sees me happy.What is the stigma that people have about black and white?  I wish that the people saying that all people are created equal would really mean what they are saying.People get over it, this is the year 2008.

Answer 18

No. I haven't met anyone. But I'm friends with a Peruvian woman who is in her forties and I'm 24.  

Answer 19

I'm an italian women who grew up being told to date only other sicilian/italians and i think that made me want do date other guys even more just do go against my parents. I dated a jamaican dude for awhile and it was fun we just didn't end up working out for reasons that have nothing to do with our race. I also dated a spanish guy for three years and that was great i loved him if he didn't go to jail we would still be together and now I am with a white guy and i love him to death we just had a new baby boy. I would tell you to follow your heart regardless of color and just have fun...Good Luck!!

Answer 20

Nope.

Dumb set of questions.

Does it really matter if you go out with someone who isn't your skin tone?

Hahaha at the person below me. Jumping at the chance to say something about black men. But I didn't see anything about black men in the question details.....?