Have you ever been tempted to look at your daughter's diary?

Question

but didn't? do you wonder what she and her friends talk about?

Answer 1

I have a 14 year old son...Tempted ~ yes. I would never do it though!

Answer 2

I was tempted but never did. That was the only thing in which I allowed them total privacy.

Answer 3

My Mum did and I will always remember and never forgive.

Some things are private and we all need privacy at some time.

Answer 4

no tempation -i do it.  my child also understand the rules in my house, but there is mutual respect.  a parent can learn alot more by actually talking with the child.

Answer 5

Yes, I found out that my daughters a s**t

Answer 6

I did, and found out about things she was doing and contemplating that I was able to bring up in a casual way later. I don't think she suspected, she just thought I was very perceptive.

Answer 7

agggggg!!!!Please don't ever do that, my mom did that to me when I was 12 and I still think it was a terrible mistake from her(and she didnt even find anything bad!), but still your child would never forget that and she may not even trust you as before!

Answer 8

Please don't do that. My father not only took and read my PRAYER JOURNAL but he then WROTE IN IT. Please don't invade your daughters privacy. It hurts more than you know.

Answer 9

As a girl who use to have diary:

Never- EVER- read the diary-

it will open up a can of worms that you will never catch!!!

personal thoughts about:

s*x

boys

YOU

ffriends

the guy she saw that one day...

you get it...

Just never do it

You very respectful for not reading it! :)

If she writes it down-it doesnt mean shes done it, or gonna do it...remember that :)

Answer 10

We usually just talk about boys and things we find funny that no one else does. However, this is the thing about our diaries:

Whether you find out something about you, descriptions about boys we find cute, or just a whole bunch of dull crud that wouldn't effect your life one way or the other, a diary is simply a girl's personal thoughts and feelings written down on paper and if she wanted you to read it, she'd just tell you herself.

When she found out (hypethetically speaking), she wouldn't trust you for a loooong while, regardless of what you saw. It would show that you have no respect for her privacy and, looking at a situation with logic, why would she mention anything about it if you already read it, ya know. It'd just be redundant. Just don't make this fatal mistake! I'd never trust my mother again if she did it.

When you walk away from the diary, you'll be glad you did.

Hope this helped

Answer 11

While your daughter is living in your home, it is your responsibility to make sure that she is making the right choices.  By all means, snoop!!! I fully plan on installing spy ware on my computer when my kids are of computer are to know what they are up to!  If the parents of the Columbine massacre shooters did a little snooping on their kids, they would have known what their kids were planning and it would not have happened.  

Her room is in your house.  When she is gone, SNOOP!!!  It is your house and your kid!  Just don't tell her that you do so.  

Be a wise parent and know what your kid is up to.  You are only protecting her.

Answer 12

don't read your daughter's diary.  When I was a kid, my mom bought me a diary for my birthday.  I was really excited to have a place for my personal thoughts and experiences.  My mom decided she wanted to read it and it really ruined my trust in her....even to this day and I am now 30 yrs old.  I felt like she bought it for me just so she could find out what I was doing at all times.  Don't get me wrong, I love my mom to death and she loves me.  This incidence just made forever question her motives for all kinds of different things.  The only thing that her reading my diary did was make us fight constantly throughout my teens and make me unable trust her to share my problems and feel open to talk to her.  Don't make that mistake with your daughter, unless you feel there is a true reason that you feel the NEED to read it.  For example, if you feel she is having a drug problem or you feel that she is genuinely in trouble.

Answer 13

I don't have a diary, but I do a have a book where I write poetry and music, ect.

My mom gave me the book as a diary though, and if I ever found out she'd read it, I would be indescribably pissed and have a VERY hard time trusting her again. I put my innermost thoughts into that thing and I really don't feel comfortable with anyone reading it, especially my mother. That said, please don't read your kids diary; you'll probably regret it and you'll especially regret it if your kid finds out :)

Answer 14

I don't have a daughter. But with as much anarchy in this world today, and parent's discipline actions beng chalenged and overturned in courtrooms, heck yes I would read my child's diary.

My child is my responsibility. I am the person in charge of keeping them safe and helping them understand proper morals and ethics. Would I let it on that I have read their diary? Probably not, but things would begin to chane and they may begin to wonder. If they ask, I will be truthful with them. Only way I would tell tell them I read their diary if they didn't ask, is if it has to do with something illegal or someone has harmed my child and I need to get proper officials involved.

I don't understand how parents allow their under age children to have myspace accounts, but have never seen them. Or parents that don't check to see who their friend is they wish to spend the weekend with.

Sorry, I may seem like a cruel Mom. But I don't think so. My boys will be raised to respect s*x, drugs, alcohol, their elders and whatever institution they are a part of whether educational, religious or government controlled.

Answer 15

For my ninth birthday, my mother gave me a diary. Because of the fact that I was so young/naive, I didn't catch on to her ulterior motive.

It wasn't until I had reached 13 that I caught when she let it slip with one of her friends that she was reading my diary.

I continued to have one through high school, but hid it very well.

Now, I tell my daughter never to accept the gift of a diary from her grandmother/my mother. She's just going to read it.

My daughter has continued not to own one.

Thanks for reading.

Answer 16

I have a 14 year old daughter and I didn't look at her diary .....until ...........she started being somewhat secretive and I knew she was doing something she probably shouldn't have been.

I found out after reading it that she had started smoking cigarettes.  As you can imagine I didn't want to confront her with "I read your diary and I know everything!"

I believe I did the right thing and she has now stopped smoking, I actually brought it up by saying I could smell cigarette smoke and she admitted that she had indeed been smoking.

If she hadn't been acting strangley I wouldn't have read it, however I feel that although I didn't respect her privacy I had reasons behind doing so.  It was out of concern for her that I read it and haven't had a reason to do so since.

Hope this helps :o)

Answer 17

Of course it's tempting, but don't do it.  What they talk about is boys and crushes and how you're the worst parent in the world, just like you did at that age.  I have friends who install computer snooping devices and it ALWAYS ends up badly and sends the message that you don't trust them - and when kids get the message that you don't trust them, they always live down to your expectations.  When my kids ask me if I would do it, I tell them the truth - that I'm human and prone to temptation but I trust them because they always shown me they're trustworthy and then I add that if at some point I had real good reason to be worried about their safety or their choices, I'm the mom and there is nothing I wouldn't stop at to protect them.