Have you ever been the"other women"and you you the one who got dumped?

Question

If so,were you heart broken.

I am just asking so if you haven't,please don't bother to answer

Answer 1

If you mess with someone else's spouse knowing that they are married then you deserve any and all misfortune that comes your way!

Answer 2

I'm kinda in the situation now!  I didn't really get dumped, I gave him the choice to work it out with her or be with me!  We were both married!  Soon I won't be!  He tried to work it out with her, but called and said he still loved me, but didn't know how to leave his family.  I guess you figure out a way if it's really what you want!

The last thing I heard was him saying he loved me and was going to try to figure out a way to be with me, and that was over a month ago!  I guess he changed his mind and forgot to let me know!  Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong people!  We don't set out to find someone who is married!  Yes it is wrong and you don't want to see families break up, but if you are happier with your affair, you should go for it!  We only get one shot at life!

It hurts very much to want someone you can't have, but I am starting to see progress with my feelings, they are fading some!  If I were to see him, it might all come rushing back, but the longer we go without contact, the easier it is becoming!  It hurts though, I won't lie about that!  And yes, I know our spouses were also hurting!  Life is a tough choice and you do the best you can to be happy!  Good luck and ignore all the "you get what you deserve" stuff!  No one on here is perfect!  They might all cheat if the opportunity came alone!  It's easy to sit back and say "I would NEVER"!  I said that too before my affair! Wish I hadn't fallen in love!  He will never leave her, it's too much work for them!!!!

Answer 3

Heart broken was a given because I really did have feelings for him, but in the back of my mind, I knew that i was wrong and the relationship was forbidden, he says that he couldn't leave her because he didn't want to hurt her! I say that he sounded crazy saying that because he cheated on her before they got married and after....  He stays with her because he loves her and all that what he says is an excuse and a lie on his part...............  Sounds childish if you ask me that he didn't want to hurt her, how or why when they have no children and really no ties.... Ties meaning extra baggage! I'm married now but before marrying, I gave him the option to figure out what he wanted and it wasn't me as you can tell because he allowed the situation to unfold and I got married and he didn't care not one bit!!!!!!!!!!!!!  He threw the relationship away for that matter........  So trust me hurt is going to be a given but trust your own judgment on love and nobody Else's......

Answer 4

I have an answer somewhere along the lines to your question, I was dating this guy, really in love with him and him me, and into the relationship, things got tense, he started to lye about where he was going and saying that he was going to see me and never did, never did show up and I got to wondering.

Well, I found out through some friends that he was lying to me the whole time, the whole time he was seeing me, he got another woman pregnant, and he did not even tell his mother, whom me and my duaghter were close to, and developing a bond with, and I was crushed, so I dumped him!!!

After I found that out, I dumped him and I did not want to have anything to do with him, So, I guess I was the other woman and he did not want to tell me or he knew what he had to do, and he did not want to do it, that is go back to her, which he told me she was the world's biggest b**ch, and he knew that he would be miserable with her but he had a son to raise and be a family with the both of them.

I thought his family hated me, but now, I know they don't because I did not do anything wrong, he did by not keeping it in his pants.

He lost a good thing.

I later found a better man for me and my daughter with no lies and no dirty past, and would not trade the life I have now for anything else!!!

I guess there is a silver lining to everything!

Answer 5

i did make the mistake once in my life and i was very heart broken at the time for myself i know am heart broken for my son since he left me he wants nothing to do with the both of us its been 4yrs

Answer 6

Of course you were heart broken, you had a relationship with this person and you loved him very much.  The only problem is that 99% of the time they will not leave their wives for the other women.  They just want the best of both worlds.  And even if he did leave his wive for you, if he cheated on her he would cheat on you, do you want that?  To always wonder, my advise would be to move on and forget about him.  Good luck and I hope you find someone (not married) to sweep you off your feet

Answer 7

Yes, I've been there once and swore never to go there again. I learned when messing a married men, if they were truly unhappy with their wives, they wouldn't still be at home. They aren't going to ever leave a home and a marriage that they are invested in for something that they can get for free.  

Answer 8

yeah i have been the other woman and was dumped but i wasn't heart broken as i knew what i was doing when i started it.

Answer 9

Yeah. Not to a married man (I think he wasn't married). I didn't know I was the other woman. Or in his case the other, other, other woman. Depending on who you talk to. Some men are dogs and are so selfish. Luckly , I have found a man who pisses on all of those sterotypes. Your time will come. Until then, take it as a learning experience.  

Answer 10

I met a married man while we were both overseas for a few months for work.  I was married at the time but was sure I wanted a divorce.  He was just someone I clicked with and before I knew it, I was in love.  I ended up getting a divore and he ended up getting separated from his wife.  I ended up giving up my job and moved in with him.  He hid this from his wife and they made it all the way to the courthouse before they backed out of a divorce.  He ended up going back and forth between their house and our house and fed both of us the same lies.  After  1 1/2 years of this, he convinced me to get a new place for the two of us, and he ended up moving home instead of moving in with me.  I have to say that he was good for me on a few levels, but I didn't like the person I was becoming.  I was jealous of his relationship with his wife, couldn't trust him and didn't like how I was acting toward him.  I can say that yes I am heart broken now.  I know that I meant something to him, but he chose to go home.  It makes me sad to know that we could have had a wonderful relationship, but he is home now.  The most heartbreaking things of all, is hearing his voice on my voice mail.  I know he still cares but not enough to be with me....

Answer 11

no, i wouldnt s***w someone elses husband!

Answer 12

Yes I have - on both counts.  He destroyed my life and left me a nervous wreck.  I've since recovered but I've learned a very good lesson in life - never believe a single word they tell you and never, ever rely emotionally or financially on on a man because they'll let you down every time.  He was in the middle of a divorce when I met him so it's not like I broke up their marriage.  Guess I was just there when he needed someone and when he was through with all of that, he also decided to be through with me too.  I can't believe I actually helped him with paying the alimony at the start!  What a fool I was.