Have you ever been wrong?

Question

I have had this VERY strong gut feeling since the day I met this guy that we were meant to be together (even when he had a girlfriend)....has anyone been wrong about that? We aren't even dating. We have been out a few times before but..?

I havent felt like that around anyone else and I cant seem to shake this feeling. I can't even bring myself to be interested in someone else..?

Answer 1

Maybe you are caught up in the IDEA of him rather than the reality of the situation. I have been wrong in that sense before. Perhaps he reminds you of somebody, like your father, or somebody you idolised as a child. Perhaps you saw the way he treated his girlfriend, and thought you would like to be treated like that. This might not necessarily mean that he is right for you, but in theory it would seem like a good idea.

Then again, maybe you are meant to be together! If it is meant to be then it will happen. If you can't wait, what is the harm in asking him out, or dropping a few hints? Don't make it seem like you will be together forever, you may freak him out! When I met my partner there were no sparks, but by the end of the evening I had a feeling we would end up together- I just knew it. We started dating a couple of weeks later and have been together ever since.

Answer 2

I was wrong once. I thought this guy would be something I could care for a lot, but, I was wrong. you'll either shake him away or get closer, just wait and see what time will bring for you two.

Answer 3

Yes, that can be wrong. I have been. Many of my friends have been. Which sounds harsh - but this could be your typical crush/limerence type situation. You feel strongly about a person, they may not recirprocate. Or the actual reality not live up to the expectation

Answer 4

She has a girl friend .

if you & him are interested he can enjoy good times with you

sometimes .

Answer 5

its lust not love

Answer 6

i have been wrong. it's a crush. it will go away. the more you focus on it the worse it will get.

Answer 7

Hmm, tricky situation.

You need to try and focus your mind on other stuff, if he is not with his girlfriend anymore, then tell him how you feel. But, if he has a girlfriend, keep well away and move on.

Answer 8

Be careful.  I wouldn't necessarily call it lust.  It's just that you really like the guy and you obviously fall hard.  If he had a girlfriend when he met you and he still took you out...I'd be careful.  If he did it to her, most likely he'll do it to you.  Many people see when someone else puts a lot of love and energy into a relationship and they take advantage of that person.  He could possibly be a good guy.  But, IDK, I'd be cautious.  

Answer 9

omg thats how i feel about this guy i know. maybe its love at first sight??? idk, i wish i knew too.  

Answer 10

It's called "chemistry". The tingle you feel when you look into his eyes, feeling like he can see right into you. It's a great feeling! Could also be because he's unattainable to you at the moment?

Answer 11

I had a very strong gut feeling when I met someone many years ago that we were made for each other.  7 years after we were married, it all petered out for a great many reasons and we divorced.  It happened again a number of years later with someone else with whom I believed I was made for, and vice-versa.

You can't look that far ahead, especially when you are young and thinking of dating rather than marriage, but my advice is to carry on and try to shake the feeling until the guy makes some move that makes it obvious he is interested in YOU.

It's all very well being around someone that you can't stop thinking of, but if he isn't even thinking about you in the same way, then you are wasting your years waiting for him to make a move.

OK, so you could tell him how you feel and either end up feeling stupid and embarrassed, or end up in a good relationship that is fun and feels right.  It's up to you if you want to be that brave, but personally I would wait for HIM to make a positive move.

It sounds more like infatuation to me.  I'm not a big one for making Pro's and Con's lists, especially about relationships, but I think you should try to evaluate WHY you have this feeling, and WHY you think things haven't moved on.  Perhaps another gut feeling might slap you right in the face and make you wonder why you didn't notice the signs earlier.