Have you ever encouraged your Spouse to Cheat?

Question

I know on the surface no one actually encourages their spouse to cheat, but deep down, do people actually chase off their spouse, little bit, by every little bit, so they can move on? Maybe not consciously, but still sabotaging their marriages at a certain point.

Answer 1

um.... no!

Why would anyone want to sabotage their marriage by getting the other partner to cheat? just divorce your spouse! what's with all of the drama???

People with this attitude shouldn't be married anyway.

Answer 2

h**l NO!!!!!!! I do however have an ex friend who's husband came home and began telling her he had a female friend who was going thru a rough time and he would like to take her out to a movie and then to dinner to cheer her up. Ex friend agreed and then when she found out he did cheat on her filed for divorce. Needless to say she came crying to me about it and I explained that my point of view was that she was asking for trouble by encouraging her husband to go out with another woman. Needless to say she hasn't spoken to me since and this was almost 6 years ago.

Answer 3

It certainly is possible. If you no loner have any romantic feelings for your spouse, but are to chicken to ask for a divorce, it's very possible, to encourage them to cheat..

But that's for the weak. I'd rather be alone and at peace, then with someone and unhappy. You always owe it to yourself to be happy.

Answer 4

I did that out of frustration.  He did end up cheating.  I totally regret because now we are going through a divorce.   Don't do it.  

Answer 5

No

Answer 6

Days in h**l will never be that cold!

Answer 7

Personally, I haven't and wouldn't consider it.

I have a cousin, however, who married for money and to have children. Seriously... that's all she wanted. She never outright encouraged her husband to cheat but it was an unspoken thing between them. She got the checkbook with no question and 4 kids, looked pretty at parties and other events when she needed to. He screwed whomever he chose while she looked the other way. They were married for 15 years, the last 10 of which they never had s*x together. I always found it to be a sad situation.

Answer 8

h**l NO

Answer 9

Yes, sometimes people who are abusive and mentally ill do that. It is sad. They abuse their spouse until there is almost nothing left of them, then they have no choice but to pick up the shambles of their life and leave.