Have you ever experienced this (Male and Female)

Question

I lived with my ex all summer and Friday we had a mild fight and I moved out. I thought I would be suffering a lot more than I am. I moved back into my parents' home and I hate to sound mean, but I feel like a burden has been lifted. I go over there to get my things, and we are civil... and for some reason I expected myself to want to go back... but it's not happening. I miss his company, but there is not one bone in me that makes me even think of suggesting coming back. I guess it could be the fact that I am not responsible for $450 in bills every month and now I can go back to college in January.

Anyways, I'm worried it may hit me HarD later, but I feel like it may not. We broke up in Feb, I moved in in April, got back togther for two weeks in July, then I moved out this month. Things were hot and cold 24/7. I know we love each other, but I think I have just suffered so much (emotionally) that I am over it.

Now (for some reason) I am all about getting an education, working out, and staying far away from relationships for a while. Is this me growing up? I'm only 20 years old, by the way.

I just wanted to ask you guys if you have experienced this? It's almost bittersweet. Share your opinions and stories, please!

Thank you in advance--- Lara

Answer 1

Good on you, girl! Maybe you are growing up at last! Believe me you will enjoy going to college, where you will meet new people and have new experiences..it seems that you are preparing to spread those wings a little....my advice is take it slow...just take small steps toward independence..and once you are there the world will open up to you and you will wonder how you could have lived like before....It happened to me...

Answer 2

I haven't experienced this but I am not the type to stay in a bad situation or force a relationship with someone who cannot give me what I need. Cutting the BS out of your life will make you much happier, which is what you did...after awhile.

Answer 3

You'll be fine.  You've matured and have set your priorities.  Now you can get on with life.  You'll meet the right guy when the time is right.  It's good to see there are some sensible people out there.

Answer 4

I have experienced that.  I had a girlfriend for about 4 years.  I broke up with her many times, and it took me a while to make it stick.  Often by the time you get to that stage, you've prepared yourself to handle it. So you found that "I thought I would be suffering a lot more than I am."

"Now (for some reason) I am all about getting an education, working out, and staying far away from relationships for a while. Is this me growing up? I'm only 20 years old, by the way."

Yes, I think you are maturing.  Good to stay out of relationships for a while.  Getting an education, as much as you can afford and stand is important for everyone.

Answer 5

You did the right thing. You deserve to be happy, and if you weren't happy with him, it's a good thing you left. Go back to college and enjoy being young! I'm a 20 year old college student myself and I'm definitely not planning on moving in with my boyfriend anytime soon. Without the financial and emotional burdens that came along with your previous living arrangements, you'll probably be a lot happier. Sure, times may come where you will miss him, but you just have to remember how you felt at the time. Now is the time to enjoy life. I'm not ready to give up my youth just yet haha.