Have you ever felt like you were not meant to have friends ?

Question

I usually have 1 friend at a time but they all ways end up leaving me for other people , right now I do not have a friend I can trust and I never had a friend I could tell secrets to .

Have you ever been like this?

How do you deal with It ?

I put it in this section because I'm g*y .but my loneliness has nothing to do with me being g*y because no one knoes.

Answer 1

Other than YAnswers friends I have, and the casual people I talk to during the day, I have no friends.  My family is far away, and I'm alone all of the time at home.  It has been this way for years.  I'm in college, but I can't make friends there that I can do things with outside of school.  I also haven't been on a date in over a year.  It is miserable, but there is nothing I can do about it.  I just keep thinking that one day I will finish school and move out of this crappy city and be able to be active in the g*y community and not be alone.  Unfortunately, I have 2 years left in school.  If you can't handle it, get active and join some sort of social group or get some counseling.

Answer 2

It's common for g*y people to feel that way...whether people know you're g*y or not.  That's just a fact of g*y life and pretty much life in general.  As you get older it gets increasing difficult to retain friends.  That's how life is for everyone in general...not just g*y people.  When you're in grade school you have your school friends.  Then you graduate and everyone goes their separate ways.  Some you may see down the road and others you may never hear from again.  Some people will start working after grade school and have work friends.  Others will go to college and have college friends.

People come and go.  Friendships don't last forever.  They do at heart but seeing someone physically everyday is another story.  People get busy with things.  Just try to get involved in as many things as you can - employment, volunteer work, school clubs/organizations, community sports teams etc and meet as many people as you can to take the lonliness and boredom away.  Also remember that you have to be persistent about things.  If you invite someone to go somewhere and you get turned down it doesn't mean they don't want to be around you.  Try again some other time (and keep trying).  

A good strategy to use when someone turns you down is to say "OK maybe some other time?  There's a really great <insert event here> coming up.  Maybe we could go."

Or if you're the one who is busy and find you have to turn someone else down use the same strategy in reverse.  Say "I can't have <insert appointment here> coming up.  Maybe we could go to the <insert event here> on Tuesday."

Most importantly keep an open mind about things and don't start spouting off personal issues to someone you just met.  It sounds to me like you're really just looking for someone to be an "outlet" for your personal issues.  In all honesty though that tends to be a huge turnoff for a lot of people if you always just talk about yourself all the time.  If that's what you're looking for set up an appointment with a talk therapist rather than using friends for therapy.  Seeing a therapist doesn't mean you're crazy.  It's a great outlet if you need someone trustworthy to talk to about personal issues and you may find in the end that you'll meet more friends who stick around longer (because you're not just using them as an outlet...it takes years of knowing someone before they will appreciate being used)

Answer 3

I'm kind of the same way. I'm a very private person. If that happened to me I would just try to talk to other people. You don't have to search out a single person to befriend...just try to talk to people in general. Maybe you'll get the opportunity to make more than one friend.

Answer 4

No, I never have such experience and I have a lot of friends.

Loneliness is how you feel about yourself ... make more friends and it will get better.

Answer 5

i can relate to you mang

it seems that i always have like one "really good" friend at a time

and then my anger and pride get in the way :/

but then again i take myself to seriously sometimes so that could be a factor and there always seems to be some lame drama that i start sometimes

i also have anti-social behavior where i just want to be alone sometimes and away from my friends....lol

im sure this is nothing like you but just wanted to let you know that your not alone bro!

and im here if you wanna talk >:]

Answer 6

Wow Im going through the exact same thing right now. I have one friend who I would trust with anything, I had one before but someone stole him off me. I dont deal with it tbh I just kinda get through it, its hard as h**l but I dont show it  you add me btw if you want to chat.... =]

Answer 7

I have friends but I don't have a best friend, somebody who I just click with and truly want to hang out with.

It's so terrible. I am so jealous of people with true best friends, especially ones that live near each other.

Answer 8

hey talk to me im the same situation

im at [e-mail]

ok im g*y and good and lonly but i really need some one to talk to

ok talk soon