Have you ever felt that nobody liked your child ?

Question

I have just endured the worst summer holidays ever ! My little girl is just 6 and she gets on great with all the kids around here . She had a little "madam" moment the other day when one of her friends stole one of her toys from the garden so she confronted the other child and was verbally abused by her parents ? I think the other little girl has to stay back from her now . Weirdos !

What would you do ? I am not confrontational at all , we are a very quiet family but i can`t keep my daughter in all the time . I see these people every day , the girls are in the same class at school .

Thank you from a very depressed mummy .

Answer 1

wait a minute... this little girl stole one of your daughter's toys, and your child got told off for objecting to this behaviour?!

this isn't your problem.  if they can't raise their child to respect other peoples posessions, then she deserves not to have any friends.  your daughter should not be restricted in any way for this.  you are punishing your child for something someone else has done wrong.  what is she supposed to learn from this?

if the other parents don't want the two girls to play together, it's up to them to keep their daughter in.  if they continue to harrass your daughter, confront them yourself and explain what happened - if they continue to cause trouble after that, then take legal advice about what they can and can't say to you and your child in public!!

this is the time at which you should get confrontational.  you need to teach your daughter that it's ok to assert herself when someone else is behaving badly - it's only a problem to be assertive when you yourself are in the wrong!  if you don't do this, you're teaching your child that it's ok to let other people bully her as long as it doesn't cause trouble to other people.  this isn't right.  it's never ok to let people walk all over you.

Answer 2

How dare they say a thing to your child. Who the h**l do they think they are talking to a child like that?!?!?!?!

Kids need to fight their own battles to teach them how do deal with social situations in the future.  You obviously have an intelligent headstrong little woman and dont ever chastise her for it because she is going to grow up into a confident young woman.

s***w them, no wonder their child acted the way she did if thats who her parents are.  They seem like such ignorant fools.  You dont have to be friendly with everyone.  If thats the way they are about a 6 year old they are not worth knowing

Answer 3

Dont  let  them  ...  get  to  you!!!

your  girl  is   very   "RIGHT"...  

you     know  what  is  right!!

Answer 4

These things happen with young ones all the time. The parents wind up not friendly while the kids wind up making up and being friends again. they're very resilient that way. Not like us older ones. Wish you luck on this one hon. :D

Answer 5

Don`t keep your daughter indoors hun , she`s done nothing wrong .. .. I would  try to mediate ....  maybe go and see the parents and have a chat to them, calmly  explain that your girl was upset due to her toy being taken from her ...... without being confrontational ... before you know it, your daughter and this other child will be back at school and will be friends once more ...childhood fall-outs blow over just as soon as they begin ....,  

Answer 6

I am a mother and if I were you I wouldn`t keep my daughter in, why should you, she hasn`t done anything.  Some parents are weird.  If they are telling their daughter to stay away from your little girl then it is them that have the problem.  As you say your little girl gets on well with all the other kids so I would just let her carry on as normal and let the other parents deal with their own kid.  I would`nt confron them I would just act as if nothing had happened.

Try not get down over it.  It will blow over.

Answer 7

Hiya Piggy...If your daughter was mine I would be very proud of her.She was only standing up for herself,so don't keep her locked inside or she might feel she has done wrong...and why should she have her fun taken away when she's done nothing wrong.You might want to consider having a word or two with the adult that gave her the verbal abuse because that is nothing short of disgrace.It sounds like they are a family I might want to keep my children away from for their own safety and good.

Answer 8

Yes, but really the child's personality is usually based on the parent. Also your little girl was smart to confront the child, if your child is assertive, well mannered & respectful. Who Cares what other people think. But teach your child to confront problems, wisely and calmly, yelling never works.

Answer 9

Don't keep your daughter in, let her go out to play. If the other mum tells her daughter to keep away, that is up to her. You daughter sounds as though she has her head screwed on and has other friends to play with.

She did right confronting the other child over the stolen toy, it's just a pity that the mother verbally abused your daughter, rather than tell her own child off.

I hope the rest of the Summer holidays pass without trouble.

Answer 10

it is awful when this happens and kids will fall out and argue over the slightest  thing.

  and some parents think their children can't do no wrong but the parents had no right to abuse your little girl, i don't like this, one minute kids will fight and the next they are best friends again and the parents end up not speaking,

  i would just keep your little one in her own garden and don't have the other child in.

Answer 11

yes all the time and im told its all my fault ive made her what she is shes fine when im not around ect ect she is 5 ive fell out with my family because of it since the hols started

Answer 12

This is the downfall of the summer holidays they are to long and kids end up falling out or parents end up stepping in when really the kids will sort it out for themselves and when parents are still not speaking the kids are off happily playing there disagreement forgotten ! I would just ride it out and see what the rest of the holiday brings.