Have you ever felt that you have found the thing you have long been seeking ...?

Question

but at the wrong time? Or have met the right person at the wrong time?

For example something or someone who could have helped you in a situation where you needed it badly but that help only showed up later? How do you feel in a situation like this?

Answer 1

it happened to me, as i think that happens to everyone in some part of their life. but what truly matters is how we deal with it and what we learn from it.

i like the quotation from marcus aurelius which can be related to this:

''accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.''

Answer 2

yes usually it happened to me i find the right person in the wrong time or place.the problem is that you don't look after this person or produce to him any sensation in your heart because the place and the time isn't available for this but when you return to the home and thinking you sense that you are very happy because you find the real and right person and you hope from the god to see him again but in the right time and good place.

Thanks for your good question you make me talk from my heart.

Answer 3

yes..i believe that I've experienced that many times in different situations like for example..during my junior/senior prom..I was said to be one of the prettiest that night, my dress was glamorous, the place and time is perfect and also the food, drinks and music..but when I've searched the crowd.I can't find a perfect dance partner..I waited for that special someone to be my first dance but NADA..he's not there.

last month though..I bumped to a childhood friend whom I haven't seen for ten long years and and he asked me to have dinner with him that night. The dinner was fun..we talked about how we used to play and start to fight back our childhood days and we laugh about it..it feels good.When he brought me home..it was dark in the front yard and a little chilly, no stars are out and Ms moon isn't around to watch us..He asked me for a dance. At first i hesitated but then I said yes and we dance without music..no glamorous dress..not close to perfect to what I dream for a perfect dance. After that he said thanks and walked me to the door. When I was about to sleep I received a text message from him...saying that He enjoyed the night..that even if there's no dance lights, no music and the sky's about to rain..for him..it's close to perfect because I danced with him.He said that we may not be perfect for each other but we're right for each other. I was so touched and I slept with a smile. We're still going out, learning more from each other.

If you ever encountered a situation like a perfect moment but not the perfect someone or not the right someone or not the right time..be thankful still..because you were given a chance to experience something special which not everyone got a chance to have. We can't please everyone and they can't please us too.Nothing..no one is perfect in this world. Sometimes the best things in life is right in front of our eyes we can see them but ignored them because they're simple..we're looking for the perfect..the right..the best according to our standards that we failed to see what truly is the right one, the best one.

In your example..the help showed up only later...It's not bad....it's a good thing that he/she showed up..even if he/she was late. What would you feel if he/she hadn't showed up at all? be thankful and understand the person..maybe he/she had his/her reason as to why he/she haven't showed up earlier when you need him/her the most.The most important thing here is that he/she showed up..

Answer 4

i say its always in the last place you look, so in these situations i stop looking and it shows up :S

Answer 5

Yes i met the RIGHT person at the wrong time.

And don't get me wrong ,the whole subject is not about Ahmed :D

Answer 6

Oh,i can't count how many times this has happend to me !!

i think,its because God knows we can go threw it an then later show you help,of which you needed a while ago,now its not as much help as it would be then,but Allah doesn't give you something you can't handle

;)

Ramadan Kareem sis,

:-*

mwahhhh

Answer 7

Abu el 3alaa' el Me3ari  treated this problem.

he said that Fate is Blind .

it doesnt bring the right person at the right time ,

he spoke of the perfect couple as an apple that is cut , each half goes about , and never meets or meets too late with the other half .

this vision is pessimistic .

so, i hate to adopt it .

i have belief in God 's Fate .

God chooses what is best for us .

i accept it without saying if and if not .

i wait patiently to see /understand God's Will.

ma sha alah wala hawala wala quwata ella billah.

Answer 8

Agree with Hope's great answer.

We have to accept our Fate, but also in the same time we have to choose our way and fight for our dreams.

Answer 9

for me... : the right person, the wrong circumstances.. have you ever been through that?

the right best friend, whom i needed badly and showed up really late to the extend that you dont want her anymore..

in my best friend situation i felt hurt.. really it was hard time .. but now all i think about is I AM the ONE to blame to give her such big part of my life that she simply didnt worth it..

sometimes you do that.. give people more attention that they really deserve.. i regret it..

and like they said "true friend always shows up in bad times".. that wasn't her..  and to your surprise the ones that stood for me in that situation was the last people in my mind ! weired huh..

for the right person and wrong circumstances.. its now history, but sure its a terrible feeling..  

Answer 10

ya .. it's totally happening right now ...

and i still havent found what im looking for ...  

Answer 11

Oh many times ya Farah, especially these days..... BUT i am steadfast in my believes that "everything in life happens (or doesn't happen) for a reason and if i keep thinking of what i missed then i enter a vicious circle of "What ifs and regrets" and its futile and hurtful to live in this state of mind.

There is never a wrong time, things were meant to be this way and if i don't like the way things are going i try to change them, and if i can't because it is not that easy and others will be hurt, then i have to make do with what i have and live with it.

Bottom line "accept things/people the way the are or the way they happened or at least try to change them" and in the process gain knowledge and experience to help others in similar situations.