Have you ever felt this way before?

Question

If you're bisexual/g*y/L*****n - i think you would know how this feels; i think i'm falling for a girl that has a boyfriend.. and i don't even know if she could be into girls.

i liked this girl i met in a program last year, but i didn't have the courage to do anything about it. i hadn't seen her for over half a year since the program ended, but last week i was invited to her party and i thought - "i am NOT going to let this pass by me again - i'm going to really talk to her and i'm ready to give her hints that i'm bi and see what happens."

i am fired up and excited when i get to the party, but then - someone points out her boyfriend in the crowd. "no biggy" i think to myself, i didn't think i felt that much for her anyway (i was in love with my best friend several months back).

but then sometime in the party, i saw them kissing. i felt this burning sensation at the back of my neck and i'm wondering "what is this feeling??" for the first time ever, i realized i was dead JEALOUS. i've liked other girls that have been with other people before, and i've NEVER been the jealous type.

i can't bear it! it's one of the worst things i've ever felt! D=

Answer 1

Been there.  I hate having feelings of jealousy over someone you're not even with.  It can be such a bi*ch to deal with, but since she has a boyfriend, I guess you have to deal with it as best you can by trying to get her out of your mind.  I know, easier said than done, but what else can you do?

Answer 2

Omg....you just captured the recent events of my life in your ques ...I'm going through the same feelings now. My crush has a bf who she praises some times and complains about at other times. I am not accustomed to feeling jealous of anyone either and I hated the feeling of jealousy when they were cuddling/caressing at her house party recently......I totally identify with you. And I'm not even in love with her. I was in love with someone else for years before I met her this year.

But you know what? I've realised that as much as it is depressing not to have her, I don't want to continue pining and being jealous. I feel like less of person when those negative feelings come and I think that I deserve more in my life.

You might want to try cutting off or cutting down the communication/interaction with her even though you don't want to. Also, try making a conscious decision to move on...It's really difficult but it has been working a bit for me in terms of dealing with the feelings. I've tried forcing myself to think of her as a good friend that I once had a crush on instead of thinking of her as my present crush.

Wishing you the best..

Answer 3

Been there, done that, bought that T-shirt.

Trying to break them up wouldn't do any good, and the only thing you can do yourself is trying to get over her and move on.

Sorry girl, being g*y in a straight world SUCKS. =/

Answer 4

i felt this wayyyy too much about my current crush. she is for sure straight and has had a bf for 4 years, but i just cant help but love her. when i see them walk down the halls sat school, or hold hands, or even if im on the phone with her and she says "yeah im at ____'s house" i get pissed and jealous and so sick. i want to be where he is, i want to be the one holding her hand and kissing her. oh well, c'est la vie

Answer 5

i have to say though i am not proud of it i am the jealous type. it hurts like h**l some times and other times it just annoying but theres nothing u can do butt move on