Have you ever given up to something important...?

Question

a part of your life maybe (but all for the right reasons) and, right after that, you felt the need not to think about your decision anymore at least for a while, to clear your thoughts of any of its possible consequences?

Answer 1

no, not that i can think of, are you retarded?

Answer 2

yes..happiness..parents don't like this guy for me..and i really loved the guy...i cud have just turned my back from them but i didnt..m an only child so i was kinda weak i guess.

Answer 3

Yes.  Six years ago, my son and I sold off a lot of our "stuff", gave away some pets, packed up what was left and drove cross the US from Kansas to New Hampshire to live. (nearer to my family)  Everything we owned was with us on the moving van.  We left all else behind. The choice was for the best, but, oh, the decision to actually pick up stakes and go was one of the hardest of my life.  There were many reasons for our move, but the main reason was a feeling of abandonment after my husband's death.  Literally, after the funeral, we were not contacted by any more relatives except for a back stabbing brother-in-law who wanted to sell the house we were renting (my in-laws old house) and evicted us. If it wasn't for an 80 yr old dear friend and neighbor back then, and a few other close friends, I may have gone mad.  Once we left, I did very little dwelling on  what we left behind.  Maybe a little homesick for the environment, but that's all.  So, there ya have it...some kind of saga, huh ?

Answer 4

Only past relationships

Answer 5

yes.  my sister.  we always fought.  it bothered me all the time.  she has gone and became a stripper, sells herself for money and is out of control.  i felt like a big weight was off my shoulders for letting go because i couldnt "help" her as she will not listen to me to help her see what she's doing.  i used to cry over it but now have to live on.  the consequences were bad... my parents dont know her other life and think i'm just being immature and holding a petty grudge.  i cant tell them and they treat me bad at times because of it but i wont go back.  

Answer 6

yes that is a requirement of parenthood as I see it. we can always make more money & stuff

Answer 7

Every time I have re-enlisted in the Army, I knew that I was giving up part of my life and part of what belongs to my loved ones to serve a greater cause of protecting the innocent. I know that I have wondered at moments ~ why ~ but then I clear my mind knowing that I am saving lives at the expense of losing years from mine. I feel it is a noble cause and the path that was chosen for me by faith.

Answer 8

Absolutely!

And what a great question that requires introspection ... a long pause before response ... in my view, it's the type of question we should be asking of each other more frequently (and not just from our immediate family)

I was 27 when my mother passed away.  I was working full-time, enrolled in my first graduate course, planning an engagement and, for all intents and purposes beginning my life as an adult.  Although I lived a few hours from my parents home, I already knew that where I was living at that time was the place I wanted to settled down ... it simply didn't happen that way.

My mom was young (53) when she died suddenly of a heart attack.  at the time, my 11-year old brother was living at home with mom and dad.  I was visiting and, after returning a gift for my mother, my little brother and I walked into the house (45 minutes later) to find our mother dead on the kitchen floor.

Of course, life was never the same from that moment forward.

Not only was it difficult to deal with at the moment and come to terms with the immediate and future impact, but because of my age and gender, it was naturally (and unspoken) expected that I would handle everything -and that meant everything.  In order to do so, yes, I went on autopilot.

Seven months later I was moved back into my parents home with the expressed intent to raise my brother -which I did.  Gone was my dream of settling down in the town I choose ... gone was grad school (until nearly 10 years later) ... gone was the relationship ... gone was the beginning of the life I believed -at that time, at 27- was the life I was about to create for myself and a future family.

Today I'm quite able to reflect and articulate on all those moments with much more insight and clarity than was even possible in the immediacy of my mom's death.  In fact, it was years until I could actually reconcile her death and be able to place it within the spectrum of life ... and it was years after that before I was capable of reconstructing the things I had "put on hold" to move back home and raise my brother.

Yes, without hesitation, I'd do it all over again today.

Answer 9

Well you know...I left my daughter with her father eight months ago to fly home...3000 miles away...because if I didn't, I knew I was going to literally lose my mind. Leaving her was the hardest decision I ever had to make...and I know deep in my heart that if I had been in my right mind at the time, I never would have left her. Circumstances just happened that way...I was afraid of a lot of things then...but I knew I needed to at least get myself out of the situation I was in. And now...I have a job I love, a man I love(who also can't wait to meet my girl), support of family and friends, and I'm fighting for custody of my daughter. I try to keep myself occupied and I talk to my daughter on the phone twice a week for now, but there are still plenty of times where...my heart feels like it's ripped in two and that the only way I'll get the other half back is when I see her again. But I know I am better now, I know myself better than I ever have, and I know what I want in life...and that is the most fabulous feeling in the world :)