Have you ever had a hard time telling someone you are pregnant, because you KNOW they won't be happy?

Question

My brother and his girl friend will NOT be happy with this news.

I don't get along with my brothers GF at all and the relationship between my brother and I is rocky at the best of times. I call him for his birthday and to invite him over when other family are coming over.... he never comes. However to my face he acts nice and like he cares and says "I can't make it this time but i'll call you to organise something another day" Which he never does.

He has never been over to my house that I share with my partner (father of baby)

Anyways, just wondering how would you personally tell him or someone that won't be happy.

I know that it's not a big deal, why should i care what he thinks?.... but calling him to tell him would be akward, basically any way I tell him will be akward...but I think i just have to deal with it.

How would you go about it!? (sorry if I sound like a child, but it just really worries me)

Answer 1

Just tell him. If your brother really loves you, he will support you. Besides, it's your life and how you live your life doesn't affect him, so he shouldn't talk.

Answer 2

No. But I think if I ever told anyone I was pregnant, they'd be more shocked than unhappy.

As far as you and your bro.. why not send him a letter and tell him? Also tell him why you're sending him the letter and perhaps how you feel. If he doesn't wish to respond to your reaching out to him that's more his problem than yours. If you make the effort, that's really the best you can do. It's sad when brothers behave as he has. I know, because none of the siblings in my family talk to each other and all but one of us has a strained relationship with our parents.

You're a wonderful person and you'll be a marvelous mother, if he doesn't get that, then he'll be "the crappy uncle." It's a shame, but lotsa families have "the crappy uncle," so don't feel too bad.

Answer 3

Call him and see how his doing, and then tell him you was calling. To let him know his going to be an Uncle, that way later he can't say "YOU" never told him. And that he had to hear it from other family members, what he chooses to do or react towards the news is up to him.

The news of baby's and seeing new Born's, have a funny way of changing and bringing people together.

Anyway luv this is your time and that of your partner, your going to be parents in a number of months. You should be walking around with a silly happy smile on your face, not worrying what he will be thinking.

You should be thinking of names and colors for the baby's room, and be worrying that he/she is going to be healthy and who eyes he/she will have yours or his.

Don't worry about his g/f at this point she is only his, g/f not his wife. So who knows how long she'll be around, so stop worrying and go grab some ice cream ( you know you want some)............lol

Answer 4

well im sorry you brother acts like this, at least you try to be kind and nice, but in answer to your question no ive never had problems like this.

Answer 5

honestly , i would not even waste my breath on telling him , just tell other family members , it will get to him sooner or later