Have you ever had to make a conscious decision NOT to talk about your wedding in front of select people?

Question

My case in point, my co-workers.. we are pretty close since we see each other everyday, but I brought in my sample save the dates today... and it was nothing but negitivity

Why are you doing that?

Such a waste of money

Blah blah blah...

Im thinking now, everyone is not as excited as I about the upcoming nuptuals... lol I better keep mum about my details, just share things with people who are as happy about things as me. Have any of you had a similar situation?

Answer 1

Yes, there are certain people I won't answer directly about it or will give a vague answer to because I know they will have a negative comment or comparison lol. I don't talk about it unless people ask. Not really a rule, I just don't focus on it that much.

Answer 2

Oh yea.. this happened to me! All it is girl is that they are jelouse that's all! You plan your wedding and just give them the invitations!

~yoyo

Answer 3

Yes.  If I had to do it all over again I would have gone away (Just the two of us) and then told them when we came back.

Would have saved lots of money for a better honeymoon. Although I can't complain we went to the Bahama's for 8 days and 7 nights and stayed at the Atlantis.  

The best part of the wedding. But we could have stayed longer if we didn't have the wedding !    

Answer 4

Gosh, what's up those people's butts? I mean, seriously, even my MALE, sports-obsessed coworkers ask me how my wedding plans are going. For your coworkers to make such snide comments is so rude.

I find that the only  time I censor myself when it comes to wedding talk is when I know my friends and wedding party need a break from it. Like, if I've just talked my sister's ear off about taffeta sashes for 15 minutes, I know it's time to move on.

It's not like anyone has to go out of their way to congratulate you, but if they overhear you talking about wedding details, they should either say nothing or just say something polite like, "Good luck, hope everything turns out how you want it." Or something generic like that, you know?

It sounds like those coworkers of yours need a life.

Answer 5

Well to be honest, a lot of people (not myself, I actually just designed and my company printed the ones for the wedding I'm a bridesmaid in) just have negative feelings about Save the Date Cards so that could be part of it. If it keeps up then maybe you need to stay mum about it.

I have one very close friend that I know I need to stay hush about wedding details with because she tends to sometimes get a little jealous. She's a bridesmaid in the wedding and as long as I don't gush about it everything is fine. Fortunately I have two friends that are very excited to be involved in the wedding and they'll happily spend all the time in the world talking about dresses, colors, decorations.

Long story short, share the experience with those who are truly excited for you and don't let anyone rain on your day.

Oh, and no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Most people have the good sense to at least fake it though! :)

Answer 6

I think that it all depends on how close you are to your co-workers. Are they more co-workers than friends, or are they not only your co-workers but your friends as well?

I am planning my wedding as well and my friends/ co-workers know almost every detail of the wedding. They have been very good about letting me know when something will and will not work.

They have had opinions about stuff that I disagree with, and they understand that at the end it is my wedding, my plans, my choice, which has also been part of my now at times nickname "Bridezilla".

Dont worry about it, I love talking with my girls about my wedding, and love getting others opinions, but just stand up for yourself when you really want something and say.. Ok thanks for your opinion, but  I Like it so I'm going to have it....

Hope this helps.

Gina O.  

Answer 7

I made a point to not go on about my wedding with pretty much everyone (except my mom and husband). I just figured that no one really cared about my issues with my florist, or about what invitations I chose, etc... I only told people about my wedding if they asked. I didn't want to be one of those annoying brides that goes on and on. If you think about it, most people really don't care about your wedding nearly as much as you do.

I say just enjoy these things with your husband to be or your mom or your best friend. Leave everyone else out of it unless they ask. No use bringing others down or allowing others to bring you down during this fun time.

Congrats!

Answer 8

Yes.  Sometimes they act as if they are really excited, but there is usually some jealousy there, especially if you are doing some things they coundn't do or had never heard of doing.  It's your wedding, hopefully your only wedding.  Make it as special as you want it to be and don't worry about there negativity.  When I got married I had "Within' The Ribbon" cards inserted in  invitations.  I know it ws the S---!!  They had never seen it so thought it was a waste of money.  But it made it more elegant and those with the cards knew to sit all the way in front with the family.  I also had placecards at the reception made of white chocolate with everyone's name in script.  They talked about how much it must of cost but I had a zillion phone calls about where to get those placecards!  "Do you" and don't worry about them.  Congragualtions!!!!

Answer 9

YES, I had a jealous co-worker who was infuriated if I said anything "wedding" in front of her.  We shared an office so it was really fun- she would give me dirty looks if the cater called me.  She was the type, a wedding is waste of money, marriage is just a piece of paper... blah blah.... turn to find out she in a ton of dept and her boyfriends doesn't have a good job- so they could NEVER afford a wedding or a house or anything.

Thank-god she finally quit because she was too good to work here.

I found a lot of negative comes from people being jealous and not wanting you to have more or something nicer then they did.  One co-worker here didn't even congratulate me on getting engaged because she was angry my ring is twice the size of her's.  Some people are just miserable and nasty.

Answer 10

OML! I've worked in an environment where that was all my boss talked about was her freaking wedding!  And Ive been in a place where one girl was getting married.. and all of her co-workers were trying to give her advice, how she should spend HER money, how she should do this and that. And she got slower and slower and slower.. I could tell that poor girl was getting extremely frustrated and flustered.  Finally, I had to say, "She's DOING MY HAIR.......And I do have to get out of here. So please SHUT UP.. So that I can go and see my baby in the NICU." Oh did I get some pretty hateful looks. LOL.

good luck to you. :)