Have you ever heard of two people getting a divorce but still love eachother?

Question

My husband and I still love each other dearly and I mean like husband and wife, not just friends. He wants a divorce because he doesn't trust me but he said he will always love me. What the h**l? If he loves me then why are we getting a divorce? Is love just not enough?

Don't say counseling because he absolutely refuses and we already have been separated for a year.

Answer 1

in my opinion LOVE IS ENOUGH! you need to show

him you can be trusted dont give up if you really love

him GO FOR IT! its sad when people divorce especially

when there in love still and to the rude people there just

mad because THEYLL NEVER HAVE LOVE. =] just

follow your heart mama.. memba cant live him but cant

live without him.

Answer 2

I think by "i will always love you" he means to say i don't love you anymore but you will always hold a special place in my heart. I mean you guys were married, so he'll always have memories of you. Just move on, cause it seems like he has.  

Answer 3

Without trust, you're questioning the other person's actions forever.  Maybe he feels he's tormenting himself staying in the relationship.  Nothing against you, I don't know what's behind his trust issues.  Or maybe he's making excuses b/c he wants out.  But you need to ask yourself something:  If we love each other, and I feel we should stay together, and he wants to separate....will we be happy?  Will I be happy knowing that the man I love doesn't trust me?  Or do I love him so much I should let him go?  Why would I want to keep him here if he really doesn't want to stay?

Does he really love me?

Do I really love him?  Or am I just comfortable?

Answer 4

A good family friend has been divorced from his first wife for over 50 years. Even though he is very happily married to his second wife for over 30 years, he is still very good friends with his ex. They still visit eachother on holidays, and his new wife is always welcome and confortable with her husband's 1st family. It seems awkward to lots of people, but they're happy with it. I guess it can happen if both people are willing to make it work.  

Answer 5

this is a tough one, two people may love one another dearly, but for some reason or another may not be able to be together, it happens,  

Answer 6

he might be over you but just saying he will always love you because he doesnt want to hurt you much.

Answer 7

sounds like you need to let it go.... That really sucks when you love someone, but sometimes 2 people do eachother better by leaving. Like you'll enjoy eachother more and respect eachother more if you aren't together. Either way, I hope it works out for ya!

Answer 8

I think you can love someone but not trust them, and if he doesn't trust you and can't trust you, then he obviously feels as though divorce is the best option for you both.  Trust is a huge factor in a healthy relationship - if it isn't there, then the relationship is bound to fail.  

Answer 9

minority report.

tom and his wife love e/o but they split b/c evvery time she sees him it reminds her of her son who was kidnapped under his watch

Answer 10

Lady, I have heard of all kinds of strange things.

Answer 11

yes yous obviously still love eachother , just tell him to give you a chance and gain his trust!

Answer 12

If he doesn't trust you, no matter how much he loves you, then he can't be married to someone like that. The foundation for every good marriage is trust; without it, you've got nothing.

So yes, he could love you, he just can't be married to you.  

Answer 13

Lack of trust is a serious issue.

Two people can be mad about each other but don`t trust each other enaugh.That is where feelings come in.Are his feelings strong enaugh to get over this?Because if they aren`t that means he doesn`t love you the way he should.(my opinion)

My advice would be to try to show him that he can trust you.

If that isn`t enaugh to make it work, I say you should find somebody that loves you as much as he sais he does

Answer 14

no counceling advice, promise :) people need to learn to solve their problems on their own.

no i have never heard of two people who love each other get a divorce, but who would admit??? i think that trust issue is a big problem and something that even love cant overcome... for example, you love your parents, but if one of them has beat you up or whatever in the past... you will still love them, but you will always get scared when they come close to you... so i am afraid that you cant make someone love you or trust you, it is all free will. so you can only be the best you can and if thats not enough, well then there is nothing you can do and you need to accept that.  

Answer 15

Sure, it happens.  My ex wife and i loved each other and in fact were sexually active (two or three times daily) until the day she left.  We were young at the time and she said that she had met somebody that made more money. yes, we had a few problems, but man, were we crazy for each other.  I guess she felt this guy had more of a future.  She should have stuck around to watch me graduate from college and get a kick a$$ job.

Answer 16

If you cheated I understand......but if not I don't......some people cannot forgive& forget they rather move on then torture themselves thinking about it all the time...without trust there is nothing!!!!  

Answer 17

He may still love you but doesn't want to be with you. I love my husband but want to leave him. I want more out of life than what he wants. But I'll never forgot him. I think when you've been with someone for a long time you share a bond and that makes it hard to not love them, Why does he not trust you?

Answer 18

Well, you dont need a piece of paper to love someone more, or less, maybee he has money issues and doesnt want you involved,... just a idea....

Answer 19

I have no defence against a person like you, loving a person that you could so easily be is another thing but realizing you will kill me if I continue asociating with you, that is another thing. we all die anyway so rather die of missing you than being killed literarly by someone you love. I have been here, I have loved my son like that, but if I continued to love him unconditionaly he was so abuseive that he would place me in grave literaly and dance on it. that is nothing personal, just the way that he is and the spiritualy where he is. the same with you. let me go, you cant save me, if you stay with me you will surely kill me, if you let me go there is a chance I surrvive. Let me go. If my love didnt change the way you treated me, my fear or anger as a way to protect myself definetely will not suceed. let me go please. let me go. there is still the sun and the birds and people ready to give a hug or sleep with me in exchange for something I give them, whetever that may be, the pain will vanish, there are ways. just let me go please, you missed the chance, you chose your beliefs over me, I understand that and it is ok, I dont mind, just I need to save myself, or at least to try to, let me go.

Answer 20

Nope. Love's not enough if you killed the trust. He wants someone worthy and a life without wondering always if he made a mistake. Nice, well-balanced guy there. Too bad you screwed it up.  

Answer 21

counseling can help,depending on the person,it always differs.also,in the future,there could always be the possibility of you two getting married once again.and if you two are up for it,you could date,just as boyfriend and girlfriend,not husband and wife.

hope that helped

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Answer 22

Two people can definitely love each other, but not be able to live together.

It happens.

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Answer 23

have you never heard the phrase " i love him or her but just can not live with them" that seems to be the reason here, I have several friends in the same way

Answer 24

Hmmmmmmmmmmm i wish i had an answer for this one ...but it stumps me...........sorry

And no....sometimes love isn't enough.

Answer 25

That is so sad! Yes, it can happen. Trust is important to a marriage and without it, things can just not feel right. If the love is there - perhaps try to work through your trust issues? Good luck  

Answer 26

Sometimes love is not enough and the fact that you are getting divorced doesn't mean he does not love you and you don't love him. You guys are in tough place and don;t know how ot make it work so you are taking separate ways.

Answer 27

i am glad to read this because i am  experience the same thing he divorce me because he don't trust me but everyday he keep telling me he still love me and care about me but we can't be together. after all this happen he seem to come out of it easier than me. after year of on and on about same old thing but getting no where... i decide to delete him from my contract and throw away everything that remind me of him. because if he really love me or care about me.. like he said. why would he let me dealt with all pain when he already out there and act like i just made his wish came true ?

Answer 28

well maybe you guys can still be married and love each other and do things that married people do and just not live together for a while also maybe you guys could talk about it over lunch or dinner or whatever it may be. you guys should talk about whatever it is that he doesn't trust you about!!good luck and i hope my advice helps you.  

Answer 29

First of all, why doesn't he trust you? Did you do or say something to cause him to feel this way? Chances are he doesn't trust himself that much either. People can and do love each after divorce. They may not like what they do, how they act or many other factors and decide to not live like this with that person. Example of this is like all the parents who love their sons/daughters that are in prison for what ever the crime may be. They love them still even though they don't like or approve of what they've done.

Answer 30

it is happening with me too... i stepped back with my love... we love each other but our frequecies doesnt match and daily fights...  

sometimes lovers have to be departed so as to save the love b/w them...