Have you ever helped someone out?

Question

only to find somebody else mouthing off about it?

Answer 1

I am right now:{

Answer 2

Of course helping someone is good but bad is for others to mention it. No idea what was done are anything to help someone but if you did help someone out well done to you.  

Answer 3

i think its plain old jealousy rearing its green head.

Answer 4

yes,at the moment i am helping out my wife's niece and her boyfriend by letting them lodge at my house when all other members of their family turned them away.now the mother in law is mouthing off saying i have only done it to charge them rent when actually they are staying with me rent free

Answer 5

My answer to your comment is, don't be so surprised, have you ever NOT?

The world is filled with people who are jealous and envious when they are not centre stage. However, the question here, really is, when helping others, do we help for the sake of helping or do we expect things in return?

There is the alternative platform, in that the best sailors, usually have a tendency to stand ashore. Not forgetting our 'specialised' armchair psychiatrist, psychologist, politician or critic.

The answer to the problem you state is to feel confident about yourself and respect who you are. Feel comfortable in your own skin and trust your judgement when it matters. The world and his wife can take a hike when it comes to your reality. Providing you have not committed a crime and offered your services to the best of your intentions, there is not a person in this world who can uphold a candle to your decision, which you took, whilst on the spot, based on your compassion and wisdom.

Never expect anything from anyone, when you offer help. I know this may seem unfair and even unjust, but think of the dog that has been poked with a stick and retaliates. You think the dog will be considered as justified? No, of course not. This is the human mind to which you refer, that is controlled by fear, greed and ignorance. The human manipulates and the dog must pay the price. Humans forget they are mere animals also.

NAM MYOHO RENGE KYO

Answer 6

Yes.

Well tell us then. What happened?

Answer 7

No.

Edit : Why can this not be sorted out by emailing relevant parties rather than putting this up as a 'question' - to which many of us 'non-regulars' have no flippin clue what this is all about?

Answer 8

yes! sometime it happens - but  had not made this an excuse to avoid helping - because for some people this is a comfortable excuse to avoid helping.

Answer 9

i have, and stopped doing it, when the person(s)  turned on me, so that's it.  

Answer 10

Hmmm, no thankfully I haven't, it would p**s me off no end, especially if I was stressed out already!!

EDIT: Shambo don't downright lie you know d**n right that you did.

Answer 11

I help people out all the time.

Answer 12

No!!

Answer 13

Absolutely, it's a case of the green eyed monster at work :) :)

Answer 14

I don't mind helping people out, but I've never known of anyone mouthing off about it.

Answer 15

Oops sorry, my fault :(

Answer 16

Why don't you, shambo and anyone else on this subject agree to delete your questions then?

and start again?  

Answer 17

yes

most people are ungrateful!

Answer 18

I have a motto "people never fail to let you down" and I think this applies in this case

Answer 19

Oh yes,but they got their come-uppance!

Answer 20

You can't blame others for being curious. Surely the people you 'helped' should have kept quiet about it if it was meant to be a secret?

||edit|| Why would you expect the new  people with the info to be discreet when the original people aren't? Don't people learn by example? At no point did anyone say or act like this is discreet info please do not pass on. And for the record I never called you out by name, others did.

||edit2|| Bullsh t!!! If it wasn't supposed to be advertised why has it been repeatedly mentioned. I repeat... " Why would you expect the new  people with the info to be discreet when the original people aren't? Don't people learn by example? At no point did anyone say or act like this is discreet info please do not pass on."

Answer 21

Noooo.  Where have you been anyway!! I have been worried, I thought we werent going to see you for another six months again :((