Have you ever known a man who was abused by a woman? And how so?

Question

you'll never see that special on Lifeline staring Valerie Bertanelli.

Answer 1

Well, my friend is in a very abusive relationship. Not physically, but she is god awful in every other way:

1. She insults him constantly

2. They live together but she refuses to get a job. She makes him support her AND her 4 year old daughter.

3. She has cheated on him multiple times before and probably still does.

4. She nags and whines like a 5-year-old when she doesn't get her way.

5. She is currently pregnant with his baby but she drinks and smokes constantly well aware of the risks.

6. She lacks complete respect and appreciation for him.

7. He is not allowed to have girls that are friends, yet she spends most of her free time with guys my friend has never even met.

It's a tragedy. No exaggeration.

Answer 2

LIFETIME not lifeline, lol...anyway, yes I've seen talk shows were men will bring an abusive wife/girlfriend on the stage and she'll start fighting him..

Answer 3

Yes my ex-wife abused me (sounds wimpish for a man to admit) mentally, emotionally, financially & legally.  She's attacked my son beating him up.  I could write a book on her antics and how in court she has teflon.  

Answer 4

Yes, I know someone who's wife put most of her paycheck up her nose on the sneak, and left him with thousands of dollars of debt and a fried credit rating. It will take him years to get back to normal.  

Answer 5

A first cousin of mine. Just goes to show people should not assume things based on gender or size. With his height he doesn't look like anyone you'd want to mess with, but he's a very gentle guy. The woman he had married, tiny little thing.

At some point after a couple years of marriage she deiced to stop taking her medication that she'd been on since before he knew her. So he never knew the "real" her off the meds. She basically went crazy.

She'd done stuff already, like hit him upside the head with the telephone. Then the day he decided to leave...he'd come home to find her greeting him with her hands behind her back. He asked what she had...a large kitchen knife in one, a tazer in the other.

Needless to say he got drunk in the bathroom, door locked, called his parents to ask if he could come home.

(Luckily he's since happily married with a baby and adopted daughter.)

Edit: There are too many guys out there who are abused and just take it because society has the attitude that makes men hide it or just put up with it instead of getting out because it would probably mean that he "couldn't take it" and that a girl actually managed to hurt him, but it's such a horrible mindset. No one should put up with abuse.

Answer 6

Yep, she was 4'11 and he was 5'10; all she had to do was look at her brother cross-eyed and he'd literally shake in his boots.  True story, once she and her husband were leeching off him and his wife; the wife got smart booted them out.  4'11 comes back into the living room and tells her brother to pack his bags they're leaving. He literally flew off that couch into his bedroom, packed his bags and was down in that car before 4'11 and her husband leaving his wife just sitting there gaping; and had he not done that she would have beat the c**p out of him, he literally refuses to defend himself against her; with other men that's a different story.  4'11 also tells him who to marry; meaning he won't marry anyone without her permission and get this she's 11 to 12 yrs younger.

Answer 7

I knew a marriage where the man and woman fought pretty regularly.  Both were verbally abusive, but she was physically abusive on a few occasions.  I was only about 13 or 14, and the woman worked with my mom.  I figured I should stay out of it.  They both shaped up a lot better last I knew of (I haven't seen or heard anything about them in several years-I think they moved away).

I knew a couple of relationships in high school where the girl would hit the guy on occasion when she was mad.  

I've never personally known a relationship where the man was abusive, although I've heard of a few from other people who did know about them.

Answer 8

I had a neighbour a guy who occasionally got attacked by his wife. He was about 6 foot 1 or 2, well built, and had a military position. His wife was as skinny as a rake. Don't ask me what it was about but a few times I heard a crash or shouting followed by him threatening to phone the police. It sounded like she would hit him and then lock herself in another room until he calmed down! As far as I could tell he never physically retaliated, but he did shout a lot about her needing help with her violent temper.

Did I ever call the police? No. Maybe if it sounded like someone was getting a serious beating but otherwise I am pretty sure neither party would have thanked me.  

Answer 9

I don't know any man who has been beaten by spouses physically but I know that my mom often verbally abuses my dad.

I really pi**s me off when that laws are in favor of one gender only. If I ruled the world I would make sure that equality in everything is due.

Answer 10

Me.  From my ex-wife

Psychological abuse came first.  I stayed out of a sense of obligation to my marital vows, up to a point.

When she got physical, in the last weeks of the marriage, I ended up with a fractured skull, hydrocephalus (as a result of intra-cranial haemorraging), three broken ribs, one of which penetrated the pleural cavity, various ruises and other stuff.  I was scared to raise a hand in my own defence: all she would have to do where I live is claim that I had hit her, just onece, one slap, and I would have been locked up.  

I left her when I was in hospital recovering.  She did do a small amount of time, and also was convicted on some other (unrelated) charges.  As far as the cops were concerned, I was guilty until proven innocent.  For this reason I now utterly despise police and the courts who treated her as the victim.  

I never abused her, and most of her family supported me because they knew what she had become. Like most people in this sort of situation, I went through a long period of blaming myself, and being a man, there was precious little assistance to help me through it.  People excused actions from her that would have seen a man locked up for years.

Answer 11

if u consider a mother a woman and a son a man, that mothers abuse their sons happens frequently.

Answer 12

I've known a bunch of men who were physically abused by their wives. Men who were beaten while their wife's friends watched for laughs, stabbed with knives, badgered into suicide pacts, terrorized for years the same way women are by abusers.  Abuse knows no gender boundaries.  The cycle of abuse was the same we're all familiar with.  Being isolated from friends and family, belittled and humiliated, badgered and eventually the works. Naturally, I've known more who were verbally/emotionally abused, but a small woman who will attack with a knife unpredictably can hurt a 6 and a half foot tall man just fine.

Answer 13

Yes my first wife used to hit me in the ears till they bled. I now have partial loss of hearing in both ears. She was also verbally abusive.

My second wife rarely hit me twice in 11 years but was verbally abusive along with her sisters and mother. She also was financially abusive.

And both have legally and emotionally raped me. I am a disabled veteran but I can't get the free lawyers like they do to defend myself so I am forced to go ever further in debt trying to pay them all the money they feel they deserve.

Answer 14

Are you talking about a grown man or boys being abused by their moms?

Yeah, I talked to a male client that was being financially abused by his wife...and I've heard of verbal/emotional abuse among men from their wives/girlfriends.

I'm sure physical abuse exists too, but it's very embarrassing to report.  

Answer 15

Yes, I do. Not only was he a victim financial and emotional abuse but he was physically assaulted when he confronted his wife about her misuse of finances.  The last straw was when he ended up with a broken tooth after she hit him with a tennis racket.  

The poor man didn't even know that the rent hadn't been paid until his landlord posted an eviction notice, the wife had been forging rent receipts.  When he left her he had to file bankruptcy because she had racked up $40, 000 in credit card bills.

There were several other incidences of his wife physically assaulting him, one which led him to the emergency room where he was required to get 13 staples in his scalp.

Answer 16

Absolutely.

My boyfriend's ex girlfriend used to physically and verbally abuse him all the time. She would drink and get out of hand and punch him, or smack him around. She would call him an idiot and a loser and insult him for hours.

He is quite strong and knows that if he fought her back, he would have seriously injured her. Because of this, he would just let her hit him. The one time he restrained her because she was throwing plates and lamps at him, she cried "ABUSE!" and took pictures of the tiny little bruises on her arm. It's ridiculous and the pictures still haunt him to this day.

Men can be abused. Of course they can. It's horrible when any person is abused - ever. It needs to be brought to the attention of someone they can trust...and dealt with immediately - man or woman.

I think that because men are taught that they are stronger than women (and in most cases they are), they think they should always let a woman hit them and not hit back. While I agree that fighting is not the answer, this is clearly abuse. I agree that it isn't portrayed this way in the media usually...but why not? Someone had a quote on their facebook that said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world"...perhaps you could lobby against domestic abuse against males? It's a wonderful idea because it definitely happens.

Answer 17

My Dad was abused by my Mom.

She broke his arm pushing him down the steps. broke his leg, broke his jaw had many bruises. the week before his death mom broke his jaw and gave him 2 black eyes.

Now I will and I must say my dad abused my mom also but how much can a person take before he/she snaps and fights back? they BOTH also abused me but I BROKE the cycle of abuse so my daughter will NEVER live in fear of me like I lived in fear of my parents.

I think maybe people are waking up and maybe they will listen and I pray they will understand that BOTH genders can be abusive. my dad is prof of that. men do need support and I pray that one day they can ask for help without being the one going to jail. God Bless

ADD ON: My mom weighs 95 lbs my dad weighed 250 lbs. but if she is drunk enough or has a lot of anger she can hurt a grown man.

Answer 18

Absolutely.  I believe my husband was abused by his ex.  Not so much physically, but mentally and emotionally.  His ex has this Jeckyll and Hyde personality, and you never know which one she will be on a given day or from minute to minute.

Answer 19

There is also emotional abuse but I never met a guy that was physically abused except one.

Answer 20

My grandfather used to get the wrong end of my grandmother's handbag from time to time.

Edit - If I'd given a more substantial answer, it couldn't be better the one given by Proud Mommy below,

Answer 21

Yes, and he was a police officer...his wife hit him.  And I have known some men definitely who were emotionally abused by a spouse or partner.

Answer 22

I think you mean LifeTIME. And you'll never see anything of substance there.

I have not known a man who was physically abused by a woman, but I do know of an instance of financial/legal abuse, which most MRAs here seem to worry about more.