Have you ever let someone go in the name of love and that person came back to you? ?

Question

My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 years and we just recently split. I did the respectful thing by letting go and not holding on kicking and screaming. I just wonder that if by letting her go if I sent the wrong message (ie she may think that I don't care or that I didn't really want the relationship to begin with)? I held on for three months, 3 months longer than most guys would have (considering the split was because of something she did), but have since decided to cut my losses so she can figure out her confusion.

So I just wonder if there is any soundness in this "if you set someone free and if they come back it was meant to be" theory - or some variation of that. Has this ever happened to anyone? I'm just curious...

Answer 1

No, she dumped you.  Done.  Move on.  

Answer 2

Yes. I believe that to be true.  IF you really want her back sometime, it wouldn't hurt to tell her that, and to explain that you realize you can't hold her down, but would welcome an opportunity to work it all out and have her back, when/if she is ever ready.

That way, you have covered your bases.  Maybe you will meet someone else in the meanwhile.  There's a good book called In the Meantime by Ilyana VanZandt.  Lots of good things can happen while one is waiting for a relationship to get back or better.

Answer 3

I'll tell you from my own experience that it could be either. One time, I broke up with a guy, and he kept calling me and calling me and trying to work it out, and I had no interest in getting back together, so he ended up making me crazy. Another time I broke up with a guy, and he was like "whatever" and I was totally hurt because it seemed like he didn't even care that I was ending the relationship. Sooooo, I guess it depends on if she is happy not being with you, or if she wants to try to work things out. Sometimes girls (and guys) can be stubborn, and don't really want to admit that they want the person back. I don't know the whole situation, so its hard to say, but if you do want her back, I'd tell her.