Have you ever lost a friend.....?

Question

because your child and their child no longer get along?

My son is the quiet type in school who never stands up for himself and is terrified at the prospect of tattling when someone is hurting him either physically or emotionally. Recently, I discovered my "friend's" daughter was partaking in the other children's torments on my son to be with the "in" crowd. When I addressed the issue with my "friend" she went off the deep end saying it was all my son even though the school agrees it's this clique that the girl has joined that is at fault.

Part of the problem is we were never part of the "in" crowd growing up (I never care to be and she longed to be) and I believe she is now overwhelmed at the prospect that her daughter is accepted in such a group to even care that her daughter has now become the equivolent of HER tormentors growing up. I think she is just relieved that it's not her daughter being tortured at school.

Answer 1

I think your right and her she will pay for her exceptance of her daughters behavior in the long run. Our children are more important than a friendship. I would distance myself from that. Your child should stay away from it too. I have been in a simular situation. I tried to let my friend know her daughter was hanging out with bad girls and she got mad at me for buting in to her daughters life. I would have wanted to know but she was proud of her for fitting in. Well she is paying for it now. I would just let your friend find out the hard way because that is what it takes for some people. Good Luck

Answer 2

i have lost friends because our parents no longer get along

Answer 3

i was bestfriends with this girl until like 5th grade (the 5th grade in my town is in the middle school there r 2 5th grade classes inside and the rest r outside in portables) so at the beginging of the year we were best friends and played 4 square at recess and stuff then during the winter when we had indoor recess she would hang out with boys and now we rnt friends anymore its really sad what ppl can do 2 u (ps she was on the inside and i was in a portable)

Answer 4

I'm sure it really hurts to loose a "friend" and I really feel bad for you &  your son. No child should have to tolerate bullying. I hope the school is dealing with the situation. Remember the old saying, "What goes around comes around" Your friend may think it's great her daughter is in the "in crowd" now but it could end up smacking her back in the face if 1.her daughters friends turn on her and she ends up being the kid they pick on.  2. her daughter ends up being a wild child your friend can not control.  I'm guessing her daughter is still young, well as she grows up she will sooner or later give her mom headaches and head bumping. So in my opinion she'll realize it sooner or later. More importantly in my opinion is not a friendship but my children are # 1. Good luck!

Answer 5

If your son is being assulted verbally, there are some websites and books about verbal judo (not associated with martial arts). Verbal Judo teaches the skills necessary to remain centered and focused during any verbal circumstance. You will learn to redirect behavior, diffuse difficult situations, and generate voluntary compliance from people not on their best behavior. Although people may not always like what they have to do, they will understand the need to be cooperative.

    But if push comes to shove, and physical bullying rules, I suggest that your son learn some martial art skills.

As for you and your friend-- I don't know what level your friendship is at, but try to still be nice to her.

Answer 6

Yes I have, I usally loose them, then get them back again, I keep changing friends

Coz of this girl Ma**ee

Answer 7

She is obviously NOT your friend now.

Answer 8

your "friend" well...that problem kinda speaks for itself...but i'm homeschooled, have been all my life...and i LOVE it!!! so yeah, i totally agree...but you want him to overtake his shyness...get him to do sports or even the chess club if neccessary to get him talking to other people. good luck!

i'll be praying for your son!

Answer 9

Unfortunately there will always be insensitive people like your  "friend".  Your son is clearly your priority, and this friendship is probably over.  Well, at least until her daughter becomes the object of the "mean girls" bad behavior.  Your job now is to encourage your son to stand up for himself.  I homeschool my children.  Homeschool groups are a great way for him to gain confidence.  He can interact with children of all ages and feel safe in expressing himself.  Good luck.