Have you ever met a person that is so manipulative it's almost pathological?

Question

I have been verbally and emotionally abused by a master manipulator from the start. It's to the point now that he's griping about how abusive I am and manipulative...oy vey! It's truly incredible how he uses all of the devices available to him. He goes from passive aggressive-just had a jag of 5 days where I got the cold shoulder for absolutely nothing to being outwardly threatening-stormed across the kitchen at me-then told me in no uncertain terms I owed him an apology for calling him a moron and making him do it. LOL

I think his "crazy making" is working-I truly think he's going to put me around the bend eventually...Anyone else ever encounter someone like this? How did you deal with them?

Answer 1

I had a brother like that. I dealt with him be throwing him out and disowning him. I have no time for manipulative people, and neither do you my friend.

You can't change him, so get him out of your life FAST!

Answer 2

Is this master manipulator also your master?  Then you can get out of what to expect in the future:  worse.  The next stage will escalate to something you've never experienced and could be physical.  

He could be abusing a substance to make him go into rages as you described; or he could be experiencing a mental break-down.

This person needs professional help and you need to get out of his destructive path.  If you care about the person, start looking for the help: you can start with the United Way.  This agency has a list of local services that benefit the community.

Answer 3

Yes. I know someone so manipulative they threatened parents to signing custody to her (for grandchildren).

When you say that they are calling YOU the one who is abusive.. that could be projection (imposing own faults onto the other person). It also could be delusional.

At this level, there is often NOTHING you can do, to keep it from escalating.. except walk away and stay away.  

Answer 4

yes..my stupid parents

just ignore them...seriously. even if they're your husband, boyfriend or w/e, ignore them when they do that ****.

+ they really need to go to a counseler