Have you ever met someone that you kicked it with online but once you met face to face? ?

Question

You find you're not attracted to them physically? Am I a shallow g*y man for wanting a hot guy?

Answer 1

yes that tends to happen to everyone. and no you aren't shallow...but sometimes you should look past looks

Answer 2

Some people just photograph really well, don't they?

Answer 3

yeah I met this guy online and he sounded really interesting. But when we met, he was the most boring, old, pervy, slow idiot Ive ever had the misfortune of being stuck having coffee with. I couldnt get away fast enough!

Then again I have met someone online who sounded rather interesting but very guarded and shy but when we met I fell totally in love with them.. and Im still with her :)  

Answer 4

i got called shallow for this from this one guy who physically i was not attracted to and though we kept talking after we met in person he just couldnt get over it... he thought i was materialistic when in reality i am not and i dont think i look all that ... but i guess he took it to heart.. so i have been called shallow.. and my guy now he is not ugly and he is not under social standards hot but he is cute and hes my prinz and i love em so yea lol...  

Answer 5

no worries, we live in a world where unfortunately, looks matter and most people do want to date someone hot. that does not make you shallow, but try to keep talking to him. you might actually find that you really like him even though hes not attractive.

Answer 6

Everybody appreciates "hot," so we're all a little shallow.  

It's only those who refuse to look a little deeper who are WAY shallow.

Answer 7

your normal, but sadly that means your letting first impressions of physical attributes cloud your judgment. there is a university in norway I will try to find it.. but they did a study that on average when a relationship begins based on physical attraction it has like an 80 percent possibility of failing, because attractive people that know they are attractive often use physical looks as a tool even with out intentionally meaning to, as we all know looks sell looks break hearts and looks get you into the best clubs. but at the same time average to below average people tend to report greater relationship health more trust and  even with social pressure have longer lasting relationships so I guess looks are really not everything

Answer 8

no

Answer 9

yeah!

i met this girl who lived near me from (downelink.com)

but i didnt really think she was that cute to begin with lol,

but when we met in person it didnt matter because she was SO kewl,

we are like besties now.

;]

Answer 10

We've "kicked it" online, on the phone, and will be face to face in a week.  We both know the other is hot--so, "no," you're not shallow...

Answer 11

I saw someone from online walking by me... lol was I surprised.

But the only time I have seriously turned someone down was when this one guy sent me messages like "hey *kiss* how are you *kiss* I think *kiss* you look *kisskisskiss* good *kiss*"

I was like "ok... maybe kissing total strangers is not a good idea you might get mononucleosis!" :D

He didn't get the hint. I blocked him o_o

But anyway I did hook up with this guy I met online we had a few dates, but then it turned out he was a bit bitchy and a "martyr" (gets offended sooo easily). I was feeling down once (bad day) and I said I can't come to town he took it way too personally.

Answer 12

No  

Answer 13

Well, I live in the UAE and I met this girl on YouTube...she's a fabulous friend.

I just complimented her on her not so good singing (she sang my fave song...I just said you are really good at singing) then just for fun, I asked her to sing another song and upload it for me.

I was surprised, she actually did, cause most users just ignore the requests.

She was wonderful, so I asked her for her email ID, and we chatted a lot n MSN...and we are great online friends...she is Dutch.

We do talk via microphone and webcam..she is sweet and a great friend.

I do get along with people online, more than I do with people who are in front of me (because of my shy nature...sucks)

So, I've got better friends online...like Uncle Ric, Michael E, nysenutz...

Yes, I'd like to meet (Uncle) Ric too.

Thanks uncle!

You're the best!

And of course, Dear Gymmilicious...you do watch cartoon shows with your daughter...how about watching Dexter's Laboratory with this lonely Penguin?

Edit:

Nope, wanting a hot guy is not wrong....no one wants to be with a fat and ugly, also a smelly guys anyways.

Looks don't matter for sure...but attraction is also important.

But, there are also several ways to be attracted to someone...not necessarily limited to looks.

lol

*Best Wishes*

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Answer 14

Too many times to count. I no longer bother with meeting people this way. On-line is on-line and it stays that way.

I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would lie to me about their appearance and then ask to meet in real life. Do they really think I'm just going to gloss over the fact they lied? When we meet I leave them right there. Sometimes they tell me I'm shallow but at least I'm not a liar.

Answer 15

No. The few people I have met in person whom I first befriended online have only been and remain friends, there was/is little or no physical attraction to them.

No. You're not shallow for having preferences (unless you demean others because of their appearance). Also, I do think that biological attraction is inevitable among humans (and non-human animals).

Answer 16

never met someone online and then in person...but i'd like to meet someone one day...im just hoping...

Answer 17

Yeah I met someone online who was great.  However I was willing to travel over 300 miles and risk a relationship for someone who was never more than a fantasy.  I mean the guy no ill, but a good sharp dose of reality always has to kick in sooner or later!  NO, you aren't shallow, just optimistic if you think it's going to happen online!  

Answer 18

I once chatted online to a girl for ages and we got on really well then we sent each other pics...she got mine first and said I was hot then hers came though and sweeeeeeeet loooooooooooord I had to nip it in the bud there and then!

It's not all about looks but you need to be attracted to someone before you hit it off!

Answer 19

I've actually had the reverse.

Guys that appear hot online, but when you meet them, you find that the only thing bigger than their biceps are their ego's.  It's a real turn off

Not shallow for wanting a hot guy.  You would only be shallow if you thought that "hot" applied to physical looks only.

Yes, you've guessed it.  I'm one of those ugly, un-toned people who is jealous as h**l of anyone with even the slightest muscular definition :-)

But you know, much as I really, really want to say "looks don't matter", we all know that's bull.

Answer 20

We've "kicked it" online, on the phone, and will be face to face in a week. We both know the other is hot -- so, "no," you're not shallow.

Answer 21

Yeah..it's happened to me...you get to chatting...flirting...heavy s*x talk...then when you meet the in-person chemistry just isn't there.

I do 'em anyway.

Answer 22

Yes .... Often ppl use misleading pics.

If that happens I tell them honestly that they are not my type. There is no point in carrying on if the physical attraction isn't there.

Answer 23

Well, so far the people I've met from online in a face to face way, we didn't hook up for romance. We hooked up because I needed a vacation. LOL

Answer 24

No your not some relationships are better left online