Have you ever "run into" any old flames or first loves after some years had passed since seeing them?

Question

How did you react and how did it make you feel?

Do any of you still keep in contact with old flames and what type of relationship do you have with them now?

Would you be offended if your partner stayed in contact with an old lover, only as friends though?

Answer 1

I once ran into an ex boyfriend. I pretended that I didn't see him. I don't stay in contact with old flames. My hubby would have a huge problem with that. I wouldn't mind if he had coffee with an old flame, but no dinner, etc.

Answer 2

There is a girl who will remain nameless who has played various rolls in several stages of my life. Like a guardian angel she always appears when I need her the most and I always benefit greatly from our short explosive relationships.

It always brings back memories to see her and talk to her. I am happy when I communicate with her or see her.

I don't keep in contact with any old flames because I have a lover at the moment and I have no interest in keeping old flames lit when I get all my warmth from an inferno.

I would not only be offended if my partner kept in contact with an old lover, I would end our relationship. If there is anything my girl needs that she has to go to another guy for than she won't have a place in my life.

Answer 3

i have

we even got to together to hang out

but it didn't feel right when her bf called

and it looks like we were trying to go out again

which might have been the case never know

Answer 4

I have a dear friend that was once a boyfriend.  He and I have checked in with each other now and then for over 20 years.  He is very happy, and that's what I want to hear!  He has a beautiful, talented wife, and two adorable children.  We were such good friends that it would seem odd to not be able to catch up with him when we can.  I did get to see him about 5 years ago, and it was a nice experience.  He's such a good person, and it was fantastic to see how well he's done for himself after all these years.

My husband keeps in touch with a couple of women he dated - one I don't care for because I feel it could be very destructive, the other doesn't bother me at all.  I guess it just depends on the circumstances.

Answer 5

When I saw my first love after about a year later in a mall, I must admit, I felt a lil something when seeing him.

However, after standing for a while and chatting I realised that we had nothing in common anymore and that back then I thought that I was just being naive.

We only keep in contact twice a year - my birthday and his birthday. Then its a casual swop of invitations to a braai or cocktail. I accept and never go and needless to say he accepts and never comes to mine.

My boyfriends first love is his next door neighbour. IT FREAKS ME OUT!!! Lucky I trust him but I don't like them being in contact. For some reason I just cant stand it!!!

Answer 6

I still check in on my ex-boyfriend now and then.  we've bothed moved on to new relationships, but that doesn't mean we've stopped caring about each other.  once in a while we'll send each other a friendly text, IM, or message asking how we are, how the semester is, etc.  I wouldn't say that we're friends, we're  more like acquaintances now.

If my current boyfriend stayed in contact with an ex, I wouldn't want them to be friends, but acquaintances, like me and my ex-boyfriend.

Answer 7

I often feel sick when I see my first love... I seem to want his world to explode right in front of him. I can never get over that feeling.

As for my other ex flames, I think nothing of it really, one does keep in contact once in a while. I kinda feel sorry for him because I broke his heart.

Answer 8

yes i saw her again she was with her brother i talked to them a bit and she seemed okay with it she asked me how i was doing and we chatted a little bit and wished each other the best i dont see her a lot but when i do i always make sure to have a friendly chat. and no you shouldnt be offended

Answer 9

Yes I have ran into a very dear (and still dear) old flame and like the old saying goes, old flames never dies. we still live in the same city but the last time we saw was over 3 years ago at a friends wedding. I greeted her warmly (mild hug) and we spoke for a little while, and sincerely i enjoyed every bit of it. However, i only call her about once in 6 months just to say hi and stay in touch, but aside from that no more contacts as i don't want to hurt myself, my new found lover and her. Right now we are simply distant friends and i sincerely discipline myself to keep it at that. True love can both hold firmly and let go freely. I am happy with my new found flame, and if she wants to keep in touch with an old flame i would definitely be jealous but she MUST keep the relationship simply as FRIENDS and nothing more, and she must keep the distance.

Answer 10

I bumped into my first girlfriend. we all attended the same school (including my wife) therefore my wife knew who she was. what ticked my wife off was that this girl married a guy with the same name as i have. my name is not very common

Answer 11

About 9 years ago I met an old flame at the daycare where I dropped off my boy. Honestly I did feel something, but when she said to my boy "what a cute girl" it all dissapeared.

yes, I will be offended if my wife has contact with old lovers.

Answer 12

Got some old flames Id like to "stoke" ...if ya know what I mean.   {;~P

Answer 13

omg well all my old flames lol all dumped me and now when they see me they wish they didnt Lol!. but their too late cause im taken but with most of em i do talk to...my bf doesnt like it but he doesnt ADMIT IT!

Answer 14

Yes, my first flame is still a good friend of mine.  His wife regularly sends me mails, photos or posts things on my wall in facebook.  My husband has no problem with that, because he knows the guy, and likes him.  Aren´t I lucky?