Have you ever thought/realized that you have never been loved by any of your partners ? ?

Question

how do you deal with it ?

Answer 1

Yes,and I divorced him.It was ethier that or stay miserible and marrid to him and all his garbage.I have'nt found the love I'm seeking yet,but I've not given up.I'm not sure what hurt worse,realising it was beyond going back or that he had never loved me in the first place,just lied to me to keep me.Too much of a coward to come out and be honest.I sound bitter,I'm not deep down,so glad it's over between us and he's out of my life.

Answer 2

when i got that feeling from a partner i moved on. if the chemistry isnt there for intimacy i cant make it there.  friends can still happen but nothing else.

Answer 3

Move on and understand that he had no clue what a marriage really was and still doesn't even though he is getting married the end of this month again.  BUT she has been married three times before so they should do well together.

Answer 4

presuming your saying you never married any of these partners, then the answer to your question could be yes more than no. i lived in defacto relationships  in the past and the women i knew didnt want to get married, so i just hung on, but eventually when i got older, id had enough of the loneliness that defacto relationships bring ,as any sexual activity outside marriage actually plays havoc with our central nervous system and loneliness is in there too.

so i went looking for a marriage partner and looked in the paper. it worked for me cheers peter.

Answer 5

Come here and let me make you feel better.

Answer 6

Actually, no, I know my exs loved me.  I, however, didn't love them : (  

Answer 7

oh yes 99 percent of the time

Answer 8

yes i have

i am getting a separation soon ,,  

Answer 9

Yes, I did have this thought/realization before. I'm sure it was true with a few of the boyfriends I had before marrying my husband. I also had this thought (and it seemed like a revelation at the time) after being married to my husband for some time - that he didn't love me. Now, I have realized that that was not true.  It just felt that way to me.  I have learned that he does love me, more than I ever knew or suspected. Looking back, the way I dealt with thinking he didn't love me was a long, drawn-out, complex coping system, where I traded one method for another, until I finally couldn't take it anymore. That is when I filed for divorce.  It was a very difficult decision but it seemed like the only answer to me at the time, after years of nothing working. Long story short, we both realized the depth and strength of our love. We have both come a long ways in understanding each other and expressing our feelings. We will celebrate 20 years of marriage in Oct. by having a getaway vacation/honeymoon.

Answer 10

Well, you may never find that absolute love, where someone will give everything for you, no matter what. And what kind of love is that, anyway? Do I want a slave? An enabler? I want people with their own minds, and therefore that love could never be absolute -- and it could end as we change because we are individuals. But it's a fair love. That is attainable.

Answer 11

yes, my recent ex. he told me he loved me, wanted to marry me, wanted my baby, even chose a name and looked for baby things? and a lad doing this...must be serious? so i thought. he randomly turned on me and said he didn't like me anymore? but you cannot fall out of love in a few hours, i should know this, so he clearly never did love me and in the end, he did admit it; i still love him tho, after everything; i am finding it hard to deal with and today has been very hard and he refused to talk to me all day, was fine with me all through the week and then today, no explanation, he turned again. it's hard but you just have to try and move on, or you'll end up like me, depressing over it everyday :(

Answer 12

Yeah , after my first husband refused to give up his drinking for his family . I realized then that he could not possibly love me or my kids .

And I realized it with my second husband after he started beating the h**l out of me and my kids and cheated on me .

Needless to say they are both long gone ,