Have you got any advice on looking after children/Parenting?

Question

I wonder whether the supernanny method is any good.Are there other methods?What are they called ?How do they work?

Answer 1

Be consistent, firm and fair. Show your children you love them, tell them often, and praise them for positive behaviour. Don’t be afraid to say no to them, we can’t always have things our way. Talk to them, laugh with them, play with them and spend time with them. Listen to them, and talk to them. Give children routines, structures and boundaries; this helps them to feel safe and secure. Remember they are only small, and try to have realistic expectations of them. For example, a 2 year old is not physically able to sit at a table for a meal for an hour, whilst his parent chats to his / her friends, paying him no attention. He will get bored, and will need stimulation or he will get your attention any way he can.

Read lots of books (and talk to other parents) and look at websites... don’t take them all seriously, but some have some good ideas in. I have found 'Toddler Taming' and supernanny particularly useful in my teaching. However you have to find what works for you.

Finally, remember that children copy things they see around them. You should try to be a positive role model in children’s lives.  

Answer 2

set boundaries for the child/children!!

I know people here that have unruly, rude and nasty children and i thank the stars my child isn't the same way!

Its taken us a long time to teach our son whats right and wrong! he knows he does NOT rule our house, we are in charge not him!

When it comes to punishment you need to be consistent, a child wont understand if you put them on time out or whatever and then the next time they do the same thing they don't get punished, it confuses them!

I don't claim to be a fantastic parent, and we have tried many many ways to discipline but some didn't work! i have found that if i count to 3 my son listens to me! if he doesn't listen to me when i ask him to do something i start counting and i can guarantee he has only gotten to 3 a few times and he has had a right wollop for it! it works very well for us, whereas sitting in timeout doesn't work cos he starts singing to himself or having a conversation with his shoes (very strange i know!)

you will have to find a method that suits you and your child or it wont work for you! and make sure you and your partner are on the same page, its gonna confuse the life out of everyone if mum is doing one thing and dad is doing another, the child wont know whether they are coming or going!

I have found that kids will be kids tho, you can control them ALL the time, they need to have some freedom, but they also need to know what is right and wrong and whats pushing their luck!

and if all else fails, give them a slap! once in a while my son gets the back of his legs slapped. If hes done something wrong then he will get punished for it! for example, i caught him about a week ago climbing on the kitchen counter right next to the cooker WHILE the hobs were on just so he could see what i was cooking. hes lucky i didn't slap him into oblivion he was completely unaware of what he was doing and that really made me angry as at almost 5 he should know that's totally unacceptable! in that circumstance i slapped first THEN explained what he had done wrong.

well those are some of my tips and i do have a very well behaved child, hes not an angel but hes a good boy and I'm proud of the way we have brought him up. i cannot abide rude nasty kids that rule their households, i wasnt allowed to get away with it as a child and neither will my kids!

take care and i hope you find something that works for you xx  

Answer 3

don't leave them from your sight, child=proof your house and in terms of behavior the most important thing is to be consistent.

Different children need different ways of parenting a very shy child needs help to be more social, whereas an assertive child needs rules. I think a great way to establish a good relationship with your kid is to play with him/her often. From running in the park to a simple game of monopoly playing with the parent creates a sense of companionship and security to the child.

Answer 4

i'm almost a child myself but i would say try not to annoy them but not give them everything they want o yes and and like your cool infront of his/her friends but don't embarrace them