Have you gotten over your heartbreak and hurt? What helped? Please share.

Question

Thank you. Keep your answers coming - very comforting and assuring.

Answer 1

from what i hear time heals everything. im in the same boat as you since my girlfriend of over two years whom i was deeply in love with broke up with me, so im not sure how long it will take or if you'll ever be completely healed, but what i can tell you is that you need to stay busy. be with your friends and do things you enjoy. you need to create new memories and new dreams to take the place of those that ended with your relationship and if you're like me and you still love the person, forgetting them is the last thing you want to do, but it has to happen. if necessary mourn for a while but then do whatever you can to keep your mind off of him/her until the thought of them no longer stings. i took up wakeboarding and learning a new language to try and keep my attention away from the heartache, and it has definitely helped, but she is still always in the front of my mind. it's going to be really long and tough process but find closure in the fact that you're not the only one going through this (im right there with you) and that there are still great things out there for you

Answer 2

Yes - I finally got over heartbreak, but I never got over the hurt.  It took several years for my heart to mend.

Answer 3

It will take lots and lots of time. Sorry but its the truth. Try and spend time with family and friends, a good friend will be their to listen and support you in your time of need. Also if you feel the need to rant or rave or just get something off your chest, join a chat room at random and talk to someone about it. IRC chats are usually good for this.

Answer 4

time and chocolate.

oh and calling up your friends and listening to them rag on your bf is good temporary fix.

but in the long run the best thing to is just to move on with your life.

if he/she dumped you he/she was not good enough for you.

if you dumped he/she your better off without them.

dont go crawling back to them....ever.

Answer 5

I had to let it hit rock bottom and let myself cry it out and let all my emotions out.  It took a very long time but time really does heal and help you forget and finally forgive.  The time you forgive is when your heart is set free. Harboring ill feelings is no good, but it takes alot of time and introspection to realize this.  Here's an answer I had for a similar question.

Sometimes, time and distance can cure what you're feeling. Trust me, I know. It took me 3 years to get over my ex-husband. I'm sure you've heard it all before. Do try to keep yourself busy with whatever it is you do, either work, school, family, sports etc. Make sure you're surrounded by friends and family, the people who love you the most. Go enjoy the outdoors, for me I go swimming, I play tennis, I explore the city I'm in and watch sporting events w/ my friends and that generally keeps my mind stable. Try not to be alone cause when you're alone your mind starts over analyzing everything.

When I'm alone (which i like to be sometimes) I do a lot of writing. I write out my thoughts. I even ask myself questions and give advice to myself like I would give it to someone else. Then things start to make sense. Give yourself a pep talk so you feel more confident. The more you feel better about yourself, the more you draw other people in, and maybe you'll meet someone else. Tell yourself you are beautiful, you are brilliant, you are lovely and you know it. I'm sure you are. Be thankful for what you have everyday. When you're looking in the mirror, smile! I know it sounds cheesy, but a little bit of this daily makes a difference to me.

Hope I helped, even a little. Good luck.

Answer 6

write a story about it and than burn it

Answer 7

No, two years...it only got worse for me