Have you had a dream with a message from a deceased loved one?

Question

Have you ever had a dream with a message in it from some one who has passed away?

When I was young I used to have a nightmare which I was sent to see a doctor about. It was because it was so real and the information in it was so accurate that it concerned my father. I had dreamt about my mother who had passed away, but I had never been told how she actually died, until I dreamt it happening to me. What I found disturbing about it was how vivid it was, but it was like watching it all through static. My family had taken the decision not to let me know how my mother died because I was a child and wouldn’t have coped, to this day I still can’t fathom how my subconscious was able to play out the last moments of my mothers life so accurately.

Answer 1

wow that is pretty cool. This sounds crazy, but I had a dog that I dearly loved die in a house fire and after we rebuilt a new house I had a dream that he was at the bottom of the stairs in the new house, and I called him, he came running up the stairs, and I told him how I missed him sleeping in the crook of my arm. He told me that he missed that too, and that he was ok and happy and not to worry about him. It was weird, one because he was able to talk in my dream, and two, it made me feel better and not miss him so much afterwards.

Answer 2

ok...so do you really want us to tell you our dreams or did you just want us to read your own dream and comment on it????

cause it looks like you just want us to read yours.

Answer 3

no.. thats kinda weird.. its actually cool n disturbin at the same tim

Answer 4

um does my dead bird count?

I loved him very much

Answer 5

the night my grandfather passed he came to me in a dream and told me to be strong and take care of my mom.

i fully believe it was real because in my dream, he closed the door to my bedroom and when i woke up the door was closed. i NEVER closed my door because i had beads hanging in the door way and it was too loud to do at night cuz i would wake my parents up.  

Answer 6

Oh yes, listen to this,

I once had a dream and I was at my grandpa and grandmas house, well my grandpa died when I was 5, my grandma is still alive.

Well in this dream I was at my grandma's house in her kitchen and my aunt, my dad, my mother, and my brother were in her living room crying.

I went in to see whats wrong and it seemed as if they couldn't see me.

Then I walked back into the kitchen, and sitting at the left side of the table was my grandpa. No one else could see him except for me. He said to see "They will all be able to see me soon" and he just sat there with his cane, watching everyone cry. (I too had some tears)

I told my dad about the dream since my grandpa was his father, and I told my dad where my grandpa was sitting at the table in my dream (the left side of the table) and my dad gasped and told me that was where my grandpa always used to sit when he was alive.

I never knew that was grandpa's spot at the table,

it was such a weird dream.

I am so sorry about the loss of your mother, it almost seems like my dream, knowing stuff about someone that died, and you never knew that thing about them.

Answer 7

aloha,

in 1979...my father killed himself. the night before he was found...i had a vivid "dream" (?) of my father telling me he was tired and that he just wanted peace. he said...he needed to tell me goodbye before he left. he needed me to know why he was leaving. i remember feeling very sad and helpless. i knew what he was trying to tell me. in this dream...it was just he and i. he hugged/kissed me goodbye...turned around and started walking away. i tried following him..but i couldn't move! i began crying and screaming for him. the pain i felt was so raw. i never felt pain like this in my life...nor in other dreams. in what felt like FOREVER...i watched him till i couldn't see him anymore. once that happened i could move again. all i could do was sit. my chest hurt so bad from crying...and my throat burned from screaming. just raw pain. then all of a sudden while i'm sitting there...my body starts to shake and my face begins to sting. it's my boyfriend and three police officers (my neighbors called 911 and then called my boyfriend)..trying to wake me up.

i was told...he slapped my face so many times and shook me so hard that i shouldn't be shocked if i looked and felt like i had been in a car wreck in a few hours. the first thing that came out of my mouth was..."my dad killed himself. he's dead". one of the officers there was a friend of my father and mother. i asked him to please go to my fathers home. that my father was there alone. (my mother had left my father 2 weeks prior...for another man.) he told me he'd have my father call me and tell me ...it was just a "bad dream". i thanked him and told him " he's dead. he's not going to call me. he's already told me goodbye". anyway...at 7:23 later that morning...my father still hasn't called (and there was no reason for me to try and call him...i knew he wasn't going to answer his phone. i also knew he wasn't going to tell me " i'm fine sweety...it was just a bad dream honey. are you coming for coffee later?")...the officer that had left to check on my father...is in my living room informing me that i had been right...my father had passed. he told me ..when he pulled into my fathers driveway he noticed my father sitting in his car..w/all the windows up...in the garage. he called my fathers name 3-4 times and got no response. i thanked him and gave him my mothers number. i had no more tears to cry. all my grieving had been done in my "dream"...with my father.

Answer 8

I'm very sorry for this loss you experienced as a child and the pain this realization revealed by dream must have caused you.  

I can share that I have had three dreams in advance of losing loved ones - one now gone, two others still with me.  That is of course a bit different than your own dream - in sequence for certain, but there may be another similarity which I'll come to.  

In the case of the one I've lost now the dream turned out not to be precognitive except as to the emotions I would experience when that loss did come to pass, years later.  The actual manner of death eventually experienced was illness, not an accident as dreamt.  But the way it was communicated to me and the feelings that came to me as a grown man were starkly similar to what was 'experienced' in the dream.  It was as if I had been given a glimpse of how such things would impact me in life, far in advance.  This I took as a part of personal growth.  

My experience may relate in a distant way to what you've experienced simply in that it was a possibly borne of a mechanism within the child's astonshingly deep and wondering mind -

What you describe is uncanny to say the least.  Can it be a true 'message' from beyond the veil of our understanding?  I cannot say 'no', nor can I prove 'yes'.  How you see that depends largely on your personal beliefs.  I still regard that sort of thing as a mystery beyond my true knowing, although my faith cannot rule it out.

But how could it be anything other than a 'message' from beyond our place of being?  Not at all to persuade against the apparent spirit of the vivid dream you experienced, but do consider how our minds operate:

Whatever the manner of your mother's death, it was clearly not shared with you at your tender age because as you note it would be difficult for such a youngster to cope with the apparently tragic nature of that loss.  But because you would have cared, and because children are naturally curious anyway, you may have 'sought' that information in a way possibly unrealized yourself.  Children are terrific detectives by default.  They miss nothing uttered near them and are able to put together many loose clues in very rational ways.  They are freshly bright-minded and uninhibited in this as well - young minds absorb much.

But if you absorbed such knowledge from the subtle comments overheard and other occasional evidence, why then not consciously recall - and just how did you 'cope'?  Children actually have a tremendous discriminating skills when it comes to what to share - and a huge capacity to cope that goes with it.  

But that very thing often involves one tragic element: repression of events that are too large to handle consciously.  Had you pieced together 'what happened' it is very likely that you tucked that knowledge deeply inside.  It likely would have been traumatizing, but add to that likelihood that you would not have wanted to displease those who sought to protect you from such knowledge - all the more reason not to 'go there'.  

In the young mind these feelings are palpable and multi-dimenstional - and the duty to the living is great in their hearts and minds.  The material that would hurt is rolled up as if in a tin and stored deeply in some dark recess of the child's mind.  

Given human nature, it cannot stay there long.  At some point it surfaces - often by very graphic dreaming.  The mind does an incredible job of dragging snippets of found information out of dark corners and synthesizing a most accurate picture to be projected in the dreaming mind's eye.  That both relieves your mind of repressed burdens and once and for all shows what happened in vivid landscape and portrait.

Think too of how vividly accurate your recounting of the dream must have been to your father.  Not just because 'that's how it happened', but also because 'that's how he understood it'.  And so that is how he, and others, would have described it, even if you only gained a snippet or two along the way from those sources when it may have been discussed in grief.  Discussed where others believed you would not hear - and once recounted to any of them it would be a disturbing realization.  There is little wonder your father sent you to a doctor - even if more for his own well-being than your own.

'Little pitchers have big ears' is the old saying - and that relates to what I speak of.  Again, I do not share this to rob notions of things-spiritual, but it is an observed mechanism.  To put that another way, be assured that your dream is perfectly rational - if an unhappy one and disturbing to your father or others.  

What I've described is so by either rationale - whether of the mind's astonishing mechanisms or of the more readily perceived idea of spiritual linkage.  Consider that one may be no less a  miracle than the other given the nature of our make-up and the spirit we hold within ourselves due to a creator beyond our true knowing.

Perhaps you really didn't ask for an explanation - and I really cannot give one. I did feel it might be worthwhile to share this information as it may help in your understanding in some small way. It is something for you to consider.

Consider too that your mother would not want you to carry the burden of her tragic end in a repressed memories. In that way the dream is a gift of release - consider taking it that way. Whether truly from her in some way or of your own mind matters not - it is real to you and that is what truly counts.

Again, I am sorry for the loss and pain you and your family must have felt in your mother's death.

All the best to you.