Have you had pain like this before?

Question

Greeting readers,

Never in my life did I think loosing a love one would hurt so bad. My Story

I met a man for the first tim 5 years ago. Didn't see him again for a complete year. I got his phone number and email address but didn't see him again or hear from him for about 5 months after that. Had an opportunity to have lunch with him.

This is when and where the love story began. We had lunch and later went to a park to walk it off and walking it off landed us in bed makin love for 5 hours. I didn't see this man for another week and once again we repeat... We begin to see each other everyweek. Then we have a opportunity to spend the weekend together (how awesome is that). We had the best time and he didn't want to return home.

Our weekends together began to be EVERY weekend for year we created our own holiday call Birthmas (my birthday and christmas) We would travel to the mountains together to just share our love with each other.

The next year We have a bumpy road, but it didn't' sway our love for each other one bit... We fight to see each other and then we are back to 1 day a week sometimes 2. His mother lived up north...but then moves to the SAME city that I live in. One state over from him. So our opportunity to see each other is open once again.

The hardship of our relationship is tested greatly... til one Sunday he sends me a text message telling me that he is moving out of the house where he is and was coming over... my heart JUMPED and of-course he cried but I held him and listen to him vent and share his heart with me... We were now staying together WEEKS at a time. I'm loving this.. UNTIL

ON a Sunday he tells me that he has to move back and we have to stop seeing each other... We have been together for 3.5 years and he tells me this just out of the blue. I thought I was dreaming.. I couldn't hardly BREATHE... it was like my throat was closing up and no one could save me. This man and I sharred everything... EVERYTHING (from l*****g his ENTIRE BODY.. not skipping anything or any part EVER)... He was married to a woman for 27 years that truly neglected him as a man. All of his needs.

I treated this man like a king.. it wasn't anything that I didn't do for him or with him. We traveled around the world together... Concerts, Movies, love, dancing, (I guess listing the things doesn't matter) He is gone.

The really sad thing is- I KNOW HE LOVES ME and I KNOW that we are soulmates.. but he is gone. I don't understand why this happen. I do know the way it happen is the best...but the love is and WAS VERY REAL.

My heart is BLEEDING very badly. He and is wife are goin through counseling and I do want the best for him... but I fear- that he is just settling because of his belief (I do respect them) Apart of me feels very used and I want to be angry with him.. but I can't because of the love.

I want him desperately back in my life. Do I want his marriage with this woman to work NO... she is a snake... and condems him greatly.. but I know its hurt that is talking.. BUT then again I guess not.. because I do want him back.

Can any one give me any advice!

Answer 1

Don't have s*x with or fall in love with a married man ever again. He doesn't truly belong to you no matter how great the affair was. Even if, and this is a big if, he left his wife and married you, what would prevent him from cheating on you once the passion dims? I know this won't be easy for you, but you need to move on with your life. Find a single man that isn't already committed to another woman.

Answer 2

my love story is pretty good too..

Sorry, I'm not an expert in love...

Answer 3

He was married all along.

You were his mistress.

Sorry, but you got conned.

Answer 4

Your story is weird indeed.A married man adultrous relationship with you without divorcing his wife for 3.5 years to the extent that he starts living with you! You wanting this kind of a man back, for what?Wouldn't you have become a snake if he was indeed your husband?Think about this, maybe good sense may prevail upon you.Best wishes

Answer 5

In our lives we have a lot of experiences and journeys.Your journey is wonderful,Anybody can't do like you'res.Your still Lucky because you feel how to loved and give importance that Man who get inloved with you.But on your side,you've got the right love in awrong time.Because his a married man.The mistakes are done,but the pain still inside you.Okey,all you have to do is Cry and cry cry all you want,even if its long for a weeks,a month or when in your bed play your favorite love song and cry again that nobody can see you,just for yourself.Talk to your special friend or write in a Diary your hurting now.That Man hurts you,You still love him,But it can't now because his gone.Sorry for yourself because you love a married man.But the mistakes isn't long last and the Best is You feel "How to Loved"and "To be Loved"by the man like him.Someones to be Loved is the best than any other that.And now prepare for the new and in the right more happier "Love"....All memories are gone specially if you want!You're the owner of youre Mind and specially youre Hearth....(smile!)...