Have you read 'Save The Males: Why Men Matter And Why Women Should Care'?

Question

Synopsis:

"Save the Males is a shrewd, amusing, and sure-to-be-controversial look at how men, maleness, and fatherhood have been under siege in American culture for decades. Kathleen Parker argues that the feminist movement veered off course from it’s original aim of helping women achieve equality and ended up making enemies of men."

The book basically explains how men are being pushed aside in our feminized western cultures and how that will not only harm men, but eventually come back to bite women in the tush.

Have any of you read it?

Also, do you feminists ever read books critical of feminism?

I mean surely you can't be objective about something if you haven't read the criticisms of it. Most anti-feminists I know read, or have read, feminist books.

Answer 1

I haven't read it, but I'm familiar with it and think it should be part of the curriculum in every gender studies program.  I've seen her interviewed on TV.

This book isn't critical of feminism.  She makes you stop and think.

Answer 2

"Also, do you feminists ever read books critical of feminism?"

Yes, I try to keep up with the debate, but I haven't read that one.

I think the whole concept of "feminised cultures" is ridiculous - most western cultures still glorify the big strong square-jawed man (see: commercials, Hollywood, and just about any TV series not expressly aimed at women).



The fear that civilisation would make men feminine (and gosh, wouldn't that be terrible!) was around in 1900 too. Do you think they were right? Why is it so important that all men be forced to play macho anyway?

Answer 3

This is just more mindlessness. The author tries to suggest that society exists when it does not. Every male I know is surviving quite well, solely due to their own actions mind you, and would probably have it a little easier without this brain-washing propaganda which twists abstract minds in an effort to make her own sons suffer while making a buck for herself.

Answer 4

I have never read it, but I think I will.

Answer 5

I'm happy to see that this line of thought is entering the mainstream.  I know when Camille Paglia, Daphne Patai/Noretta Koertge were saying the same thing in the mid '90s, everyone thought they were off their collective rockers.  These were feminist women trying to open a dialogue about how feminism was veering off the rails and why men were getting pissed off about it.  And here it is again--said more diplomatically?    Written more eloquently?  I don't know as I haven't read it, but I am impressed that this dialogue is one that is finally being taken seriously by a mainstream audience that (presumably) includes feminists.

Answer 6

I have not read the book, but I did read the interview she gave. It sounds interesting. Patios, do you know how absurd you sound?

Answer 7

I think as women continue to aggressively restructure society to better accomodate women, any social discussion of how men feel during those changes is quite healthy.  As men come to grips with the loss of their unfair male entitlement paradigm, they actually need to grieve.  We need to grieve all loss.  Men as individuals and the Social Consciousness need such books and discussions as they progress through the stages of grief.  The more people talk about their feelings during grief, the better.

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

Answer 8

feminism.... from all that i hear about feminism and all that i learned about it....it sounds like something that will repeat itself in history many times before people will actually learn from it.

Answer 9

sounds fascinating I'll have to check it out.

Answer 10

I've never heard of it but I'll probably check it out.

Answer 11

As for coming back to bite, I think it already has in at least one form:

www.menarebetterthanwomen.com