Have your daughters?

Question

gotten their first "boyfriend" yet?

How old were you or your daughter when you got that first boy?

Did you allow him to come over to your house to spend time with her?

Mine is 8, won't be 9 until october, and she's had crushes, and she had plenty of boys with crushes on her [ she even had a little stalker boy.] But yesterday she told me that she starting going out with this boy from her class. My husband asked her where they were going.lol. She wants me to allow him to come over and hang out. I don't know if I should, because she's so young. She's still a baby.

Answer 1

She is too young. I am 13 and i have not had a boyfriend and I have no intention of getting one either!! She is WAY to young and I think you should let her "boy friend" come over and you can relax..whats an 8 year old going to do? Trust me. She does not want to remember having her first boy friend and her mom not letting her see him. But still 8 is to young

Answer 2

I have a 6 year old daughter. I think 8-9 is a little to be dating but really they are not going to be dating if you think about it. They can not go anywhere unless you drive them they are to young to walk around .

way to young to kiss and def way to young to have s*x so that is a good one less thing you have to worry about right.

do you think it is a stage in her class for all the girls to have boyfriends. this seems to be popular in my daughters school.

why don't you encourage the boy to come over and talk to your daughter and tell them that they can be friends and that he can come over but all they re is just friends.

it migth be a stage in her class /grade and she don't want to fell left out.

Answer 3

At 8 years old a boyfriend is one who comes over, does homework, watches tv, and during summer they get to ride their bikes around the neighborhood.  Just ask her what a boyfriend/girlfriend do together and i'm 90% sure this is what she'll say.  It's just a friend that is a boy, but they have a "title" of boyfriend and girlfriend, so they're "cool"  IF in fact she mentions kissing, then just say that is not allowed.

Answer 4

I have a 13 yr. old and she has a boyfriend(nothing to serious though)and she's been like your daughter.

Let him come over to hang out, but don't let them go upstairs alone, she may be 8 and everyone thinks it won't happen, but I would feel queesy about a guy upstairs with my daughter(my daughter's boyfriend-as nice as he is-is only aloud upstairs alone with my daughter is if I'm up there or my fiance is).

She's only 9(or almost atleast)and I bet it's harmless. Just have him come over and they can hang in the living room.

Good luck!

Answer 5

When I was three, I had a male friend down the block whom I referred to as my "boyfriend." I haven't had a boyfriend, real or pretend, since.

Answer 6

yes that is to young wait til at least ten maybe older you daughter you opinion. but right now tooooo young

Answer 7

This is giong on in my daughter's class.  Some of the mother's arrange "dates" on the weekends at the movies.  I say ABSOLUTY NOT.  I told my daughter that maybe when she's 14 she can have a movie date.   9 is too young.

Answer 8

I'm 13 and I just got my first "real" boyfriend on Easter morning.

In 5th grade I had kinda a boyfriend that lasted like a week or so, But nothing big like now.

I think an 8 year old having a boyfriend is a little much though.

But I'm thinking back to when I was 8 and I had a crush on a boy named Andrew, and I'm thinking if he "asked me out" I'd say yes! lol!

Let him come over, hey you get to meet him that way.

I mean at the age of 8 what are they going to do?

MAYBE a kiss on the cheek or something, but nothing else.

Have them play outside or something, hang out, watch a movie.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

9 is definitely way too early for her to be "dating".  This is the reason kids nowadays are starting to have s*x at 11 or 12.  She's still in elementary school for crying out loud!  Yeah, it's cute that she's got a crush and thinks she has a boyfriend, but don't encourage it by letting him come over to your house.

Answer 10

my daughter is  12 and a half and  I guess I'm a prude  i wont let her  date  until shes 16 ..  and I have to meet them  :)

Answer 11

Hey at your house you can supervise them - let him come over just treat him the same you do any neighborhood child and it will be fine. You want to encourage your child to bring her friends especially boyfriends home to meet you - to spend time together there - where you can keep an eye on what is going on cause you cant always trust others to do that.

Answer 12

well i would not let him come over 2 much or when she gets older she will just excepct him 2 come over all the time and when she gets older she might be doing more then just playing if u no what i mean

Answer 13

tell her that he can hang out but as friends. not on a date.

Answer 14

Honey you should let them, they're eight year-olds. Sure, they might ' peck' each other like toddlers at a wedding. This happened all the time in 5th and 4th grade. My friend ' went out ' with this boy Sebatian, so the next day I asked where she went and she said, " I don't know " So they don't really go anywhere since:

1.) Too young to walk around the neighborhood

2.) Not old enough to drive.

It would be weird to let a 5th grade boy come over if you had a 5th grade daughter.

Answer 15

my daughter has claimed a boy has been her boyfriend since preschool and we do birthday partys and such together but I do not call it going out at all! I let her call him on the phone and they talk for about 2 minutes at a time...lol Just be open with her ... let her know your rules and talk to her about it! at this age they are just exploring there feelings and how others feel about them! If you stay open with her and don't make her feel ASHAMED of these feelings everything will be ok and she ill feel comfortable talking about it with you! It is sooo natural! Just make sure she has you to talk to! My daughter is 8 now!

Answer 16

my 8 year old daughter has a "boyfriend" at school...we have a close relationship, she knows about the birds and the bee's, she know's where babies come from (she was there when my son was born), she also knows that all that activity is not appropriate until she is much older and married...I think it would be o.k. to let het boy friend come over, just make them stay in the same room and keep a close eye on them, and stay tuned in to what they are talking about. Don't let her think for one min. that you don't trust her

Answer 17

Ask her what she thinks 8 year old boyfriends and girlfriends do together.  Maybe all they do is play and do homework and watch tv.  Explain to her that she's too young for a "boyfriend" but she can certainly have a boy who is a friend.  He can come visit like any other friend, but no kissing or holding hands.  It may not even matter if you never get around to having him over, as these crushes don't usually last long.

Answer 18

Going out? Age 8 seems way too young to even be using that terminology. My daughter is 10 and still thinks boys are yuck except for a few that are classmates. Some of her friends have had crushes on boys but I've never heard them talk about dating or going out.

ETA: I agree...letting the 3 year old supervise is a grand idea!

hmmmmmmmmmmmm I don't know why you even asked the question.

Answer 19

When she was ten, my daughter had a crush on a boy but quickly got over it.

Answer 20

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...     please see this page where a 14 year girl has written something on her young relation. dont let ur daughter date at this age. Attraction at this age soon gets deeper n when the body gets into the ovulating cycle, it gets hard for these young biirds to control n the guys have no trouble of bearing kids so they just ... trust me dear u need to teach her some ethics n tell her moral stories n make her believe in God n teach her new hobbies to keep her busy smwhr else or she can end up as the girl's link i've given u. god bless her. i really mean it

Answer 21

I'm young myself,and im eleven,yes i have a boyfriend,and yes he is my first.My mom always tells my sisters "He can come over,if your passing,and he is too."    She also tells me " At least i know they are not at a house party,or at the club....i can watch her and him and know nothing will go on..."......shes fine with it...she trusts them.

You will never learn from your mistakes!!!

Answer 22

oh ya im a mother of 1 and i have a duoghter and she started dating at the age of 9 as well. right now she is 16 she has had secx about 20 times i read her msn convos. dont make the same messtake i did make her date at 12 or she well turn to a big tranp

Answer 23

Why wouldn't you allow it?  It's not like anything is going to happen.  It's not a good idea to teach kids there is something wrong with the opposite gender.