Having 2 maids of honor- one out of state?

Question

I have been thinking about this maid of honor decision since long before he asked the question but since he did I have to actually make the decision and don't know where to start. I have one long time friend who will always be a friend. The one you can go a few months without talking to, give her a call a be just the same as you always were. The problem is she lives halfway across the country and is on a budget. I also have another really good friend where I live. She is friend who has been there for me for the past year and a half (2 1/2 years by the wedding). She is so excited about helping me plan my wedding. She's been great and will be. Do I have to choose just one? If I do which one should it be long time but faraway friend or good new friend who is here?

Answer 1

The woman I chose as my MOH is the friend closest to me in my heart - and lives very far away. I wanted her by my side, so I chose her, not someone to 'work'. Similar friendship as with your far away friend, it sounds...

I would suggest have her as MOH, and the other as bridesmaid.

Answer 2

I say go for the friend who is closest to your hometown-

I have the same problem, my friend Ive known all my life (literally) and i was her maid of honour, went all out for her wedding to help etc, and she is moving to another country at the end of this year. Even when shes in the same country as me she is pushing at buttons of frustrations cus everything seems to mess up her schedules (ie looking for bridesmaid dresses)

Yet my close friend who lives around the road from me has gone all out and I know I can rely on her more than the other, and to be honest I do regret follwing our "tradition" and choosing the other friend as MOH.

Good step to think about it before asking...I wish I did!

Answer 3

You can have as many as you want...I had 7 matrons of honors all were married.

Answer 4

You can have 2 maids of honor.  But, if your friend is on a budget and isn't sure she can handle the cost of being a maid of honor (dress, shoes, shower) plus the cost of traveling...you could have her do a reading at the ceremony.  This way, she saves $$ but is still a part of your day.  You could offer her both and let her choose.

Answer 5

You can certainly do both, it is your wedding!  Congrats...

Answer 6

You can have 2 Maids of Honor, but only on 1 of 2 conditions:

1- They are the only 2 attendants on your side.

-or-

2. There are at least 2 other bridesmaids.

Reason being- you don't want to have one lowly bridesmaid hanging out on the side feeling like she isn't as good as the other 2 girls.