Having a kid is hard and can be a positive challenge to those who want kids, but why have kid after kid?

Question

(unwanted) if pple arent' willing take take of them. Why bother dragging them through the hardship and the stress of living through poverty...I was at the corner store around from me, the guy that works there stated to me that the woman he was waiting on has 5 kids, she's a single mother, and that she won't stop having kids....

I love kids, they're fun, they act real unlike a lot of the adult phoney baloneys, i'd trust a kid over an adult but why have them if you can't afford

Answer 1

that's a very good question...i wish i had the answer...but i don't i am 22 married with 2 kids and could possibly be pregnant again...we are struggling as it is...but if i am then i will have the baby and make the best of it,,,things happen and i am a true believer in taking care of your responsibility's! But some people just keep having child after child just so they can get more government assistance! now that's not right!

Answer 2

I have no idea why some people refuse to sterilize themselves. I've known a couple that kept having kids even though neither of them wanted more. Instead of getting a tubal, she kept blaming him for not getting snipped. It was a very sad homelife for the kids and it was all I could do to not strangle the woman.

Our first was a surprise. After that we carefully planned 2 more. My husband had a vasectomy after #3, then a reversal when he finally agreed to 1 more child. He is now scheduling the 2nd vasectomy and that will be it for us. No more surprises! We love all our kids dearly, and know we can afford 4. I don't want to strain the budget with surprise babies and we both like the assurance (vasectomy) that done is truly done.

Answer 3

I know that in Australia a lot of people do it for the baby bonus. When I have my babies we will receive 10000 dollars for it. I think its a ridiculous amount of money and it will be going straight into a savings account, but a lot of people see it differently. I know a lot of the money that my friend will reciever for her twins is going towards her bf's car. It makes me so mad.

I also can't stand going out and seeing like 4 kids in a trolley who are filthy and aren't even wearing shoes.. Its not fair but that's life.

Answer 4

There is a difference between having kids because you want them and having kids because you will be eligible for more government assistance. I am 20, married, with 2 kids. We receive some benefits, but I'm not going to just have more kids so I remain eligible for the rest of our lives. That is no way to raise a child, I agree. But just remember there is a difference between kids who are clothed, fed, & treated well versus the opposite.