Having friend-ship issues? Help!? :/?

Question

My friend, or supposedly my best friend and me have been having a problem. Well she doesn't think it is.

When ever I have a problem or am upset she just says, Oh, I don't know how to help you. When she has a problem I try my very hardest to help her! Even if I don't, I still try, and try to be optimistic with her!

And then she will go, Sorry do you want me to try harder? And If I say yes, then she will be like Oh ok then I will. She says that every time. And there have been many times, but I have yet to see any change.

I mean believe me I love hanging out with her, talking to her, ect. and she has her great traits I love to!

I'm just not sure about what to do! Please help!

Answer 1

Some pple are just not good at listening or giving advice. I know what you mean. I always listen to my best friend but she isn't a great listener. we have been friends for years so  we both know that she isn't a good listener and she doesn't try to be what she's not.  we have tons of fun together and we talk but i know that when i need someone to just listen and give me some advice i go to a different friend of mine who is great at that.

Answer 2

next time she needs your help just say gee that sucks I dont how to help you. It works for her why not you??

Answer 3

Find a more considerate kind of friend to go to with your problems, someone who is good with lending a shoulder to cry on , or who wants to help.  Your friend doesn't seem to want to chime into YOUR problems.  It doesn't mean that your friend is not a good friend, it might be that your friend is just not good with dealing with those types of situations. Good luck.