Having hard time picking what should I do? ?

Question

I'm 14 & I been my moms only child until now. My parents never been married to each others they just went out together back in high school. My mom just got married for the first time last month & she is now 6 weeks pregnant & I knew she was planning on having a baby with my step dad & I told her I didn't want anymore half brothers and sisters I already have 5 half sisters and a brother from my dad & 2 step sisters & 2 step brothers from my step mom I'm with my mom for 1 week then with my dad for 1 week I'm staying with at my grandpas cause I'm not happy with my mom it seems she didn't listen to me but my dad says she could of already been pregnant before I told her how I feel. My grandma always said that I should talk to people about my problems & that everyone should have another chance but talking to my mom and telling her how I feel isn't gonna change that she is pregnant & people has told me do I want my mom to be happy & shes thinks with her having this baby I'm gonna see how hard it is with a baby since there are girls my age are having s*x & getting pregnant I already got mad at her for that cause I'm not like girls my age so in away I want to give my mom another chance & in away I don't. Like I'm ok with my step dad just not happy with having another half sister or brother since my dad had 6 more kids after me.

Answer 1

Unfortunately we don't get to decide how many brothers and sisters we get. But if your Mom only has one child and has fallen in love with someone and wants to have a second baby I don't think she's doing it to hurt you. Babies are a blessing from God. How many children your father chose to have after you has nothing to do with your mother. It sounds to me like the person you should have a problem with is your father, not your mother.  

Answer 2

trust me when i say, give your mom another chance, I know that it is going to be hard to get used to the fact that  you will have another sibling, but you cant do anything about it now, its going to happen.  You dont want to be mad at your mom for too long, trust me, my mom died a few years ago, and i miss her so much, and you dont want to miss out on the time you could be spending with her and in the end you will love the new little baby no matter what

Answer 3

Your parents are going to do whatever they want. Your opinions or feelings are not going to figure into their plans.

At 14 you can also decide which parent you want to stay with full time instead of a week here and a week there.

Try not to allow yourself to get drafted into free babysitting for your mom. It would be better to have yourself scheduled for the same elsewhere for pay.

At 14 you have 4 years to make some real plans for yourself. See what all vocational programs are available in your schools, study hard and look into some likely career fields to go into, preferably things that are in high demand. Check with your school guidance counselors to see what all scholarships are available in the fields/colleges you are interested in. Keep your eye on the prize and don't allow anyone to sway you.

What I am saying is that you can launch out of there and not have to deal with their dramas any more, and live a good life if you keep your mind on creating a good career for yourself.

Answer 4

Ummm your mom sould not have to listen to what you want...thats just a tad bratty...

Answer please

Answer 5

Dude your 14 you don't have a choice, either except the fact the adults are making decisions or get the h**l out and make your own but don't be going back to your mom for support.  Its not your moms fault your dad decided to have a million kids, get over it when you grow up you may understand.