Having man trouble. please tell me what to do - should i stop pestering him? ah!?

Question

hi everyone, piano girl here. i have already asked this question once but i really really need some answers. well basically, i know this guy and have known him for quite a while. he used to fancy me (i think) and i wasn't that keen on him, sort of ignored him a bit really. then he added my friend on facebook and (i know its ridiculous) is 'going out' with her, even though they've never met. She lives in spain, and he's going to meet her soon i think. problem is, i think i am getting a crush on him. whereas it always used to be him that came and sat next to me on the bus and started waffling on trying to make conversation, its now me! I feel like such an idiot now, but how can i tell him i like him? and how can i let him know that this girl isnt right for him. They dont even speak the same language or know eachother! please help. i feel like a pillock.

Answer 1

Uh, I totally understand how you feel and I think you should go and spend more time with him before it's too late.

Answer 2

The best thing to do is just back off and give him some space or a bit.  

Answer 3

I say be direct. Tell him you like him. Or at least ask him about this girl. You have to realize that sometimes relationships are like this. When he likes you, you don't like him. Then you like him and he doesn't like you. Just hang in there and yeah, stop pestering him, Give him space and ignore him.

Answer 4

weird! he's dating a girl he's never even met... i say you just let him know... but if your too shy than you should first start flirting with him... talk to him much more & let him know you exist. than ask him to hang out with you more often - go out to the movies or something... & than tell him.. or if thats too much just send him a message on face book and tell him you have feelings for him.

Answer 5

same thing happened to me, its the want what you cant have, but the fact that you had him and now he isnt there is killing you, im not sure its a crush you're feeling hun, i hate to admit myself, i think its a bit of jealousy :[

Answer 6

The best and easiest answer, that you probably don't want to hear, is to come out and tell him what you feel.  But, from what you have described, it is probably a good idea to ask yourself why you are feeling this way.  Is it because you are used to him liking you and now he likes someone else and there is a tinge of subconcious jealousy? Sometimes we only start to want something when it is something we can not have.