Having problems with 6 and 14 yr. old?

Question

My daughter (14) keeps miss using the computer and so my hubby and I have decided she no longer may use the computer for 2 weeks and then one of us as to sit right next to her and watch . My 6 yr.old is now really mad with us and telling us he dosent like us and I am not sure how to handle this.

Answer 1

Kids get upset, it's what they do....

the most important thing here is don't back down.  Once you compromise your authority its impossible to regain.  Your 6 year old may display feelings of dislike, I assure you it isn't real..he's "testing", kids use this technique..will it work,l will I get what I want if I barter th is with my parent?  

Don't give in!!!

explain to him, talk to your kids like adults

but don't give in

Answer 2

Hey, your kids are stuck with you as parents.  It's up to you to make the rules in your house and see to it that they're enforced.  Ignore the whining and screaming.  Families don't function well as democracies, they need strong rulers, a.k.a. parents.  Things will settle down.  Stick to your guns with your rules.  Your kids will thank you someday.

Answer 3

Your 6 year old is just acting the way he sees his older sister is acting towards you. It will pass. Tell him she broke a rule and this is the consequence and for every action there is a consequence. That mom and dad set up rules for a reason. He will get over it.  

Answer 4

I have three sons, 14, 8 and 5.  I never let my 8 year old go on the computer by himself and when he is he has specific sites he is allowed on and no others.  I do not allow my 5 year old on the internet at all and only let him play educational games that are installed on the computer...  he doesn't know the difference between educational or non-educational.

When my 14 gets off the computer I make sure to check the history.  I do not allow him to use any e-mail, texts or instant messages.  I had a problem one time and he lost privilages for one week.  He has not done it since then.

Your ix year old is probably mad that you are watching him because you have trusted him in the past and now he feels you don't anymore.  He probably feels that he can't do what he wants when he wants on the computer because one of you will be there watching him.  

Kids say all kinds of things when they are mad...  heck, I don't know how many times I've been called the meanest mommy in the world, lol!  But they get over it and they will learn what is acceptable and what isn't.

Good luck and hope this helps!

Bobbi-Jo  :)

Answer 5

are you sure your daughter hasnt show your son something that you dont want him watching? that your daughter may have shown him? and if this helps at all plz email me back (ITS IMPORTANT!!!) wen you email  back i will tell you i promise!!!

Answer 6

Could you please be more vague?

Answer 7

honestly, no matter if u sit there and watch them for two weeks, they will still do it and sneak around it. if  were u just know what they r up to and pick your battles if it is online chatting or putting pictures up of themselves then punish them or something. but anything else i think you should just let go.

Answer 8

So is your 6yo mad because the 14yo got punished?

Sit down and have a "big boy" talk with him and let him know that when one of them misbehave, there are consequences -- and these are the consequences for this.  

Tell him it is okay if he is angry with you, but then he needs to use those words. Ask him what he would do if he was a grown-up with kids who disobeyed.

Answer 9

where is your computer? And how was she mid-using it... that could mean she was chatting with boys via webcam.. or she was reading snuff film sites... or just..  other things you might not like.

Its god that your monitoring what shes doing... the 6 year old might just be defending the big sister... try talking to 'em on the same level. ask why he is saying those thing, if it has to do with the computer just explain the rules of the house and WHY they are there.

Just because hes young doesnt mean he doesnt understand.