Having problems with my 2 year old?

Question

I am a single parent of a 2 year old daughter, most recently I have been having problems with her misbehaving.I work alot, so she spends most of her time with her granparents or the babysitter.It seems as if I am the only one that tried to punish her.She seems more spoiled than ever.She tells me no, yells at me, tries to hit me, its getting pretty old. I would hate to spank her, I dont want to teach her its ok to get physical.Though I dont have any other ideas. Ive tried putting her in time out, and let her out after a few minutes, but then hours ago, shes back at it again. Please help

Answer 1

its normal at there age... in the furture mabye you shuld try spanking because 2 years old can make them think things about there own mother!

Answer 2

You and the sitter and your Grandparents are a team and need to start acting like one. Sit down together if you can and work out a plan you are all happy to follow. Short time outs were great with my boys at that age but an hour later is a long time when you are two and another time out might be needed.

Answer 3

You gotta do what you gotta do, handle it now so it won't be a problem later.   God Bless.

Answer 4

Uhh you ever stop and consider the fact she's two years old?

Jesus Christ what do you expect her to start doing her own washing and raising a barn at this age?

Take it easy, seriously... you were probably worse at that age

Answer 5

Sounds like it's not her ,that it's the people that you leave her with. Have a sit down talk with them and explain to them that she must have boundaries at there homes and discipline. Because of what you are having to deal with . Good luck!

Answer 6

a two years old hitting might just be daytime playing thing...

Time out is hard to understand for two years old....

Life's too short... enjoy your two year old memories. don't rush the learning process, they'll be plenty of time for it.

Answer 7

Consistency is the key.  Find the discipline method that works for you - time out, take away things, restrain her, whatever... but apply it consistently and methodically and it will work.  She is acting completely normal for a 2 year old.  They are working on their independance and if you do not establish rules now,  it will get worse.  

That said, be sure you are spending some time with her, give her outlets for her energy, try to give her as much opportunity to say yes.  Make things positive ... for example, instead of saying 'we are leaving now' change it to , hey we are leaving, let's see how fast you can get your shoes on or let's see if you can help me put things in the car'  etc.   Doesn't always work but it may work sometimes.  It also helps her redefine herself as a helper.

Good luck and hang in there...

Answer 8

It sounds like it's just "terrible two's" Might I suggest watching some episodes of Super Nanny (she's a great disipliner who also don't believe in spanking)

Answer 9

You're gonna have to spank her. She now thinks you are her equal or below her, and that's not how it should go. You are the mother, the one taking care of her. You don't have to take this c**p from your daughter. Because you didn't take action against her, she knows she can get away with everything without consequence and can walk all over you. The consequence should be pain, not just a simple timeout. That serves nothing.

The next time she tries to hit you, give her a spanking. At first a few smacks on her hand as a warning and tell her not to do it again or she'll get it worse next time. Then next time she does it again, restrain her hands and smack her a few times on the butt. The pain will remind her to stop her behavior and respect her mother. You are the one raising your daughter and you deserve respect.

Whoever downvotes this needs to pull their heads out their asses that spanking is not abuse and need to stop being hippies.