Having some problems in bed

Question

ive just kinda started seeing this girl for about the past 3 weeks or so and im havin troubles getting an erection now just to throw it out there every time weve gone to have s*x weve been somewhat drunk and so this may be the cause of it. the only reason that im asking is because my buddies say they hav no problem gitting it up while drunk and that makes me a little worried. i like this girl a lot and all i wanna do is please her but she isnt exactly the foreplay kinda gal which really sux for me cuz i love it and i dont get hard off of makin out. take in mind that im also only 21 so its not an old thing.... and no im not g*y

Answer 1

well if you enjoy foreplay than maybe that is what you need to get him up... i mean a couple of times in the beginning my bf had problems getting it up because he was nervous about having our first encounters. let her know what you need so s*x can be enjoyable for both of you... good luck :)

Answer 2

You have E.D.

You know, where your p***s is on the fritz.

Answer 3

My best bet is that you're both antsy about having s*x, so that's why you get drunk. Don't pay too much attention to your mates, because they're not you. If you really like this girl and you like foreplay, tell her how you want it. Skip alcohol. Relax. It's not the Olympics.

If she still says she doesn't want foreplay, she's probably not the girl for you. If she is, she'll try it your way.

Answer 4

Find out about all side effects of any medication you are on.  This is the most likely reason for this problem in somebody your age.  Being somewhat drunk should not cause total failure to perform, although sometimes it will take a lot longer if you've had too many drinks.  Medications for blood pressure, depression, etc... those are often the biggest culprits of sexual dysfunction.  Talk to your doctor.    

Answer 5

alot of people find it hard to get it up or maintain an erection while theyre drunk

u will need to introduce her to foreplay if she wants good s*x from u

i love foreplay!!!

u need it to hav a good s*x life

if she isnt interested in foreplay then it is a clear sign of her using u just for s*x so in that case its good u cant keep it up for her

haha

she doesnt deserve u if she isnt willing to make the effort  

Answer 6

Sounds like you need to cut down on the alcohol before s*x (it's called whiskey-d**k, and it happens to a lot of guys), plus ask your girl if you can do some foreplay, because it will turn you on more if you do.  It's not like you're asking for the world.  Communication is the key here.  Everybody (whether they admit it or not) has a lot of learning to do early in a relationship- s*x is not always that great right away.  Good luck, mein freund.

Answer 7

Everybody is different and reacts to alcohol differently.  Next time you want to do it, try not getting so drunk and see if this helps.  

Answer 8

do somthing that will tire u out anything

Answer 9

Im pretty sure its the liquor. Thats typical when you drink. If people have a hard time walking drunk theyll have a hard time having s*x when there drunk.

Try being sober, and definatley approach her about the foreplay, im the same way.

Answer 10

I'm not saying you're g*y, but try fantasizing about men and see if that helps.  

Answer 11

i think the fact that you have taken the time to past this question shopwed how worried and anxious you are about it. If she "isn't the foreplay type", maybe you feel even more pressured cos she is trying to steamroller you into bed, you feel like you need to performn even better. You also feel like your mates are all superstud lotharios and are comparing yourself to them. The chances are that if you just have a meal with her at her/your house, and dont srink, she wont be quite as over the top and randy, and you will feel more in control which will help. Its completely normal to feel like this, especially at the start of your sexual career!  

Answer 12

Tell her you need more foreplay, lots of guys are like that.

Answer 13

Well, I guess it could be ED (i.e., impotence). Get yourself checked out by a urologist.

Answer 14

it could just be because you're drunk.

if you don't have that problem when you're sober, then thats the problem.

It would be more intimate and loving if you have s*x when you're sober.

Or you could just plain and simple tell her you need more foreplay in order for you to totally please her, and for her to totally please you. I'm sure she won't mind, and she'll probably be pleased with the results ;}

Hope I helped :]

Good luck!

~Ashlee

Answer 15

im guessin its being drunk

if you can get it up when not drunk thats what it is

i get "wisky d**k" sometimes too

Answer 16

switch it up. You can try to work your PC muscles as I will give you those instructions and you can try some tantric s*x techniques and some Taoist s*x techniques.

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Try this excercise for your PC muscle it allows you to control your erection and ejaculation

PC muscles control the flow of s***n and urine, the firmness of your p***s during erection and the shooting power of your ejaculation. They are important, and if kept very strong, will see you into your golden years with a fantastical hard on. The great thing about Kegel exercises for men is that you can do them anywhere, anytime -- and nobody will know the difference.

You will be able to better control your orgasms and ejaculations, and last for longer, plus you may get the added kudos of being able to hold up a wet towel with your erection if you practice these Kegel exercises for men.

How do I know where my PC muscles are?

The easiest way to find them is to stop your flow of urine next time you go to the bathroom. Another way to isolate them is to put your finger inside your a**s; when you contract the right muscles, your a**s will tighten. However you decide to find them, once they are found you need to practice feeling exactly where they are located -- it is easy to overcompensate for weak muscles by using the abdominals, buttocks or thighs. These must all stay relaxed when doing Kegel exercises for men.

Now, on to the daily Kegel exercises for men.

Note: These exercises are done hands-free. You do not “squeeze” anything with your hands as they are all done with your PC muscles.

kegel session 1Exercise A

Sets: 3

Quickly clench and release repeatedly for 10 seconds.

Take a 10-second break between sets.

Exercise B

Sets: 10

Clench and release repeatedly for 5 seconds.

Take a 5-second break between sets.

Exercise C

Sets: 3

Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds.

Take a 30 second break between sets.

That’s it for today, but repeat these Kegel exercises for men daily for one week.

kegel session 2Exercise A

Sets: 10

Clench and hold your PC muscle for 5 seconds.

Release and repeat.

Exercise B

Sets: 3

Quickly clench and release your PC muscle 10 times.

Exercise C

Sets: 3

Clench and release your PC muscle alternatively in long and short bursts for counts of 10.

Exercise D

Sets: 1

Tighten your PC muscle and hold for as long as you can. Aim for 2 minutes.

You can do the session 2 Kegel exercises for men for a week; however, feel free to progress if you feel you are strong enough. Remember that these are strengthening exercises, so start off slowly and build up, just like you would with any other muscle.

Answer 17

find a girl who likes foreplay then

maybe she isn't the right one for u