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Having trouble bonding with my unborn baby?

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I'll be 7 months Monday and I feel like I have no interest in anything that has to do with babies, even my baby who is due December 1st. I don't know how to explain it..I almost feel like my pregnancy is unreal-it's been hard, still getting very sick, fainting every day, having chest pains. It feels like more of a curse than a blessing. I love my fiance and we have been together for almost 5 years. I can't imagine my life without him in it, but he doesn't understand how I feel. I don't even like talking about the baby because I have nothing to say-I just don't like thinking about it. He would never let me give the baby up for adoption because he wants to keep her and I want to keep him, so I guess I'm stuck. I just can't help it, but I don't feel anything towards the baby. I feel upset and angry sometimes about the whole situation. I read all these things about how you're supposed to talk to it and read to it before it's born and stuff like that and I just don't feel comfortable doing something like that, nor do I want to. It's just very uncomfortable. I just can't help feeling like this and I can't force myself to love something I don't. I've never liked kids or babies and have always thought them very irritating and I just can't picture myself having one at all. This is very frustrating for me and I can't help it, so don't judge me. It's just the way I naturally feel. Have any of you ever felt this way before having a baby? Did your feelings change?

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  1. I understand how you are feeling. Im 6 months, never really bonded with any child, not even nieces etc, just tollorate them!. I wanted a baby with my husbant now we have been married for 4 years, I wanted our own baby. Now I'm pegnant, I feel it hard to love and bond with something I don't know, I feel very guilty and am frightened I will feel the same about it when it makes an apperence as I do other peoples children.


    One person said to me, to remember that, I'm not having someone elses child, its mine. Like no mother comes close to your own. I'm ashamed at how I feel, frightened and confused, but I have been assured that there is nothing like it and to wait and see! xx

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